age

[Wrightman84]

Short and sweet..
I'm 19..
I like a girl that is 15..
I don't see anything wrong with it..
But I bet a lot of people will
I don't want anything too harsh.. so be kind..
I mean the only problem is the age..

[Barefoot Matt]

I don't think anyone's going to say you're deranged or anything, but there will be plenty of people saying it's a bad idea. If you think it can work, and she thinks it can work, then by all means give it a try. I know at least one 16 year old that's about as mature as I am at 19 (well, almost :P), and plenty of 19 year olds that are about as mature as your average 14 year old.

Btw, would it be legal in your state/country?

[Palmer of the Turks]

Age of Consent laws ONLY apply to sex, not any other part of a relationship.

http://www.ageofconsent.com

I have no issues with age myself - it's maturity that counts.

Anyone harasses you, point out that if it was 24 and 20, they wouldn't be saying anything. :)

[Asphodelle13]

Palmer's right. If she's mature enough and you both are on the same level then go for it, but be careful. Maturity all depends on the person though. Like, I know lots of people at 17 that are way more mature then people at 27. So I'd say that the biggest obstacle that you'll have to overcome is getting people(like parents) to accept it...Good luck.

[KissTheKimmie]

Ok, well I might be putting myself out on a chopping block again but I might be of a little help here.

I met my current boyfriend when I was 15 and he was 21. Now at first it was a friendship, then over time we got closer and things got deeper. I didn't tell many people about our relationship because I knew what they would say.

Like Palmer said the only real problem is sexual relations. That wasn't a factor for us though, we didn't even have sex until I was almost 19 anyway.

So now I'm almost 21, we are about to move in together soon, and we are planning on getting married.

So yeah, age really doesn't matter if you ask me, I would be careful though, you have to decide if it would be worth it to pursue a relationship with someone that young right now. Honestly it's not likely that you would end up marrying her in the future anyway. Your both really young and probably have a lot more dating to do. It might not be worth the hastle of dealing with mad parents just to date a girl for a few months. I'm not trying to be negative, just realistic. My situation really is rare.

[GrumpyBear]

I agree there's nothing wrong with having a relationship, just be cautious about anything sexual in nature as if things don't work out there could be real problems rather than just your conscience. Maturity is totally dependent on the person, I think there are a great many mature 15 year olds and horrible immature 25 year olds, age isn't the sole factor. I'd say go ahead with the relationship, just take things slow.

[HurleyGirlie]

I'm with everyone else on this issue. Good luck with her parents, that may be your next tough thing to deal with.

[BurningMonkey]

point out that if it was 24 and 20, they wouldn't be saying anything.

Thats not quite the same, here we're talking an age difference of 1/6th of the people's lives, where the difference between 19 and 15 is closer to 1/3 or 1/4. A 4 year age difference at age 5 is way bigger than a 4 year age difference at age 50.

Go for it if you want, but I wouldnt. This really hot freshman was totally into me my senior year of high school (I think the age difference was 17 and 14 at the time), and I wrestled with the issue for quite a while. One day I found out that my friend's sister was best friends with this girl, and that kind of put things in perspective.. because I'd known my friend's little sister since she was like 7 and it just seemed weird to date someone that age, and also because I know my friend would totally kick my ass if I messed with his sister, and I'm sure this other girl had a brother, or at least parents.. :P

So yeah, I didnt date the girl at all.. my weiner was pretty disappointed but I think I made the right choice.

EDIT: just remembered something a smart guy told me once - a man who has to justify a decision to himself is usually wrong. In other words, if you have to ask, you probably already know the answer ;)

[SoSweetAngel]

It depends on you as much as her. Think about what things are going to be like, assuming she's a nice, mature girl capable of having a decent relationship with you.

Like it or not, some people are going to give you a hard time about it -- and her too -- you need to think about whether or not you'll be able to cope with that.

My first serious boyfriend was about 18 months older than me. That's not much -- but when you think about it in terms of a 14 year old and a 16 year old it's not surprising that he got quite a lot of flack from his mates. Because we stuck with it, they eventually accepted it and stopped caring.... and when we broke up I was 19 and he was 20 -- which is hardly any difference. It did take a while for things to be okay about the age though - so think about the reaction of those close to you. I know a lot of peope will say that it's not important - but is it to you?

[ittakessome]

er.... 15 and 19.

well when i was 15 my boyfriend would have been 19. so i cant say anything against it. except that she is starting highschool and you (i assume) just finished. thats basically stating where you both are on maturity alone. however maybe she is better than most 15 year olds.

if you go for it, good luck with the parents. :wink:

and be extremely careful if you end up ever being sexual with her.

[chiukit]

hmm... my friend is 19 and his gf is 15... and theyve been together for a year, and thinkin' about it, their relationship is one of the strongest i've known. then again, for me that's like dating my brother's friends, and that's just damn weird. i wouldn't go for it, but yea. your choice. i second bm.

[SweetiePie]

I'm really young for my grade, all my friends are older, and probably because of that, everyone tells me i act several years above my age, like my boss thought i was 20-something when i went in for my interview but i was only 16 (they're not allowed to ask age on the app to prevent "discrimination" based on age. anyways, i've always been attracted to older guys and for the most part people dont see a huge problem with it. i have a few guy friends who flirt with me but get some comments from their friends who think they're "too old" to be hanging out with me (and thats justhanging out, not having sex or anything serious). anyways, some people will accept the fact that you like this girl, and thats awesome because really, age doesnt matter.and some people will be assholes and tell you you're a cradlerocker or a pedaphile or something ridiculous. just be prepared for that and go for it, it cant hurt to test the waters a bit :)

[Tortuga]

I agree with BurningMonkey's advice.

Tortuga

[Fun Lovin' Criminal]

I wouldn't have touched a 15 year old when I was 17. My general feeling on all guys who go after 15 year olds is that they're afraid of real women.

[mini696]

Women don't have to be "Older" just to be a real woman. There are plenty of mature females out there who are very young.

Age is only a number... If you feel guilty about this its only because you care what other people think about you. And people will only tell you what they think is socially acceptable for fear of looking "different".

Think about it this way... Society frowns on picking your nose right?? And technically there is absolutley no reason for it to be a bad thing. But you ask most people and they'll deny they do it, only so they seem "normal". But the normal thing is for you to stick your finger up there and remove the booger that is giving you discomfort.

Do you see what I mean?? Just because the mass of people say "this is the right way" doesn't mean thats they way they do it.

Sorry to reduce your situation to that, but seriously, if you want to, go for it.

[Fun Lovin' Criminal]

You're comparing being romantically intimate with a child to picking your nose?

Um... OK then.

Sure, there are some 15 year olds who are physically and mentally on par with say, your average 18 year old. But very, very few. I would think long and hard about yourself if you think it's fine for a fully grown male to be intimate with a child (yes, child, 15 is not adult).

From my own experiences, I've never met a person 19 years or older that is dating a ~15 year old who doesn't have problems with real women. Who isn't lacking in self esteem. Who needs someone that's easy to control, ie a 15 year old.

I can hear the responses right now, from the 15 year olds who dated older men to the sympathisers. "Oh, but some girls are more mature." Yeah, right. SOME. NOT MANY. 99.99% of female 15 year olds aren't (gasp) mature. Physically, or mentally. They have very little life experience, emotional experience & general social experience.

I think it's unfair and down right amoral for an adult to take advantage of that.