Asking to kiss on a first date

[joerags]

A kiss at the end of the date is expected, so there's no reason in asking if you want to kiss someone. But what if you wanted to create an opportunity in the middle of the date?

Assume you're on your first date, hiking in the woods alone. Or any other activity that doesn't conjure up the idea of a cliche serious date (dinner, for example). A fun date, I guess you could say.

I could try not asking, but make an announcement of my desire. Saying something like "I'd like to kiss you", then wait for a response.

I could also somewhere in conversation throw in a random question involving kissing. A light question of course, nothing like "How many people have you kissed?" or something like that. This way I can avoid the asking or announcing, and lead her into thinking about a kiss.

I like the random question idea. What's a good hint/question/comment one could say?

I ask for a couple of reasons. First, there's a very good chance, when I go to drop her off, her parents will be watching. Second, the end of date kiss isn't spontaneous. Not boring, just planned or expected. Something spontaneous for a first kiss is more fun. It would be more memorable for me, at least.

P.S. I sort of made the title of this post misleading on purpose hehe :)

[rabidcowfromhell]

I posted a very similar question a couple months ago,

http://www.therfs.com/index.php?showtopic=16512

i dont think asking is a good idea, just go for it when the moment feels right.

[Deidre]

Originally posted by joerags@Jul 16 2004, 05:16 AM
I could also somewhere in conversation throw in a random question involving kissing. A light question of course, nothing like "How many people have you kissed?" or something like that. This way I can avoid the asking or announcing, and lead her into thinking about a kiss.
Or lead her into worrying about how you reacted to the number... if it's too high and scared you off, or if it's too low and you're put off by the lack of experience. Or maybe what question is coming next (people you've kissed is a little like starting to ask about exes, isn't it?), and suddenly focusing on the past and past relationships, rather than the fact that she's having a wonderful time here with you, in the present.

[joerags]

Heh, I used that question as an example of what not to say :)

"A light question of course, nothing like "How many people have you kissed?" or something like that."

Sorry that wasn't clear.

[Deidre]

Sorry. I read that quote probably three times and still didn't manage to get that. That's what I get for posting straight out of bed (and here I am doing it again). :P

[HurleyGirlie]

Yeah, I'm not one for the whole asking thing. That doesn't seem spontaneous. Going in for one, when the moment is right, is spontaneous.