[friends] Males are just easier to get along with.

[water nymph]

So recently I have discovred that I get on much better with the male sex. I would much rather hang out with them, talk to them, be friends with them. I'm trying to figure out why I find girls to be so...I dunno...boring? Maybe it is because girls can be so fickle. We have so many habits and we can bitch about everything. Guys are just fun, I can curse and show off and really talk about fun things. With girls it is gossip. Don't get me wrong, I love gossip but it gets old.

I won't ask if something is wrong with me, because I know nothing really is. I do wish I had a really close knit group of girlfriends, I just can't seem to find any who I can stand long enough. I do try but with guys it is just that much easier.

Any ideas? Reflections? Anecdotes? Abuses? Anything?

[kuju]

I agree generally. Back when I had more than, say, 2 friends, most of them were guys. Easier to get along with, and WAY more fun to hang out with... though sometimes you just need a GIRL to talk some things over with, or go shopping with, or see cheesy movies with. Yeah, a girl, or a gay guy. :) But for a drunken, rotten karaoke singing, jumping up and down good time, a group of boys (and cool girls) is always fun.

[Danae]

I'd agree.


Romantically, boys piss me off to no end. But platonically, they are really great. Guys are just so much simpler. I know how I am and I can barely stand myself, and while none of my female friends are as bad as me, I generally have a hard time with them as well. I also love to gossip and it's fun getting boys to gossip. They're really quite good at it, and they do it differently.


I do have a tightknit group of girl friends, it's 4 of us, me included. It can get tiring, though, because I'm the distant, moody, needy one and that drains them, and I get angry with them, one in particular, very easily over stupid things, so there's definitely some tension between us haha.

[StrayDog]

I find girls easier to connect with.

With girls there's none of that competitive macho stuff. With girls I don't have to hide my sensitivity and soft side.
There's also opening up. When I'm having a bad day, they're usually more empathic, can sympathize better, and can usually give more sensible advice.

But I'm not gay.
I'm just a sensitive guy.

That's not to say either that I'm a metrosexual of sorts....
I have a lot of what I would like to think as manly pursuits; things that men of today (even those who look otherwise rugged) are losing nowadays.

[fletch_999]

Although, I'm a guy, I agree.

But, in my case, i've always found it was easier to talk to girls, then guys. On that note, you should've seen me in high school. Too every one guy friend i had, i probably had 5 gal friends.

[Deidre]

I like my relationships with people to be effortless and natural. I want to be able to go away for six months or more, keep very little touch, and then pick up where things left off. I don't like maintaining relationships with friends and feeling that I have to call them every other day or they are no longer my friends.

In the past, this has resulted in plenty of male friends/acquaintances, because all the females around me needed constant affirmation as to the status of our friendship. I don't do that.

I have in recent years, however, met more and more females who are similar to me in that respect, or at least are willing to work with me on my level (other women fulfill their need for constant contact, drama and fall-outs -- I am the steady, regular and undemanding one).

So, I get along great with females... as long as our socialising are special occasions, going out for coffee, doing lunch, having a dinner party, a sacrificial rite... something like that. We don't ever "hang out" or "go shopping", and we don't sit around gossiping and we don't talk on the phone. And we do what we do quite seldom.

[StrayDog]

More to my point:

So I guess it's the same with some females eh? That you, of the opposite sex, sometimes do prefer us guys for our company and the way we behave. And for certain guys like me, it's the same, 'cept the roles are switched of course.

Hmn...

My working theory now is that similar sexes, have similar interests, that sometimes it does clash, and tensions arise.
Like I said, there are times when I just can't stand other guys. My girl-friends too, have made mention that some women just annoy them to no end (especially when the other is PMSing)

[lain13ego]

I'd have to agree that male friends are usually easier. When I'm with my boyfriend and his friends, which are now my friends too, its just laid back.

My female friends were never really to hard to get on with, but I still it seems to be easier to get on with males. One friend I hadn't seen in months, she called and things are practically like the used to be. the only missing part is I have no idea what was going on with her and vice versa.

[toychoke]

Originally posted by kuju@Jun 13 2004, 11:05 PM
I agree generally. Back when I had more than, say, 2 friends, most of them were guys. Easier to get along with, and WAY more fun to hang out with... though sometimes you just need a GIRL to talk some things over with, or go shopping with, or see cheesy movies with. Yeah, a girl, or a gay guy. :) But for a drunken, rotten karaoke singing, jumping up and down good time, a group of boys (and cool girls) is always fun.
hey, maybe it's just that I'm a film major. But I'll see any movie anytime anywhere. And I'm not gay. but that could just be that I love the movies, and will be making them one day myself (God willing and the creek don't rise =P). Well except for one movie. I don't think I'd waste my money on the upcoming White Chicks. The commercials for that thing annoy me to no end.

But I think it depends on the mood. I have a decently close group of GF's that I talk to when I feel like I need to vent about girls, and they are ok. Most of the time I spend talking with them about their relationships. But I do vent myself from time to time.

As for the guys, well they are just generic, and I hang iwth them most of the time. We mostly talk about everything except for gossip and relationships.

[kuju]

for personal stuff, I tend to prefer talking to girls. Unless it's asking a guy to interpret guy behaviour. For good ol' fashioned fun, a mixed group of guys and girls who know HOW to have fun is best. I've been in a group before where all the guys were all fun, but the girls sat there drinking cosmopolitans and whining about how bored they were. I was thinking... well why don't you come over here, get drunk with us, and talk, debate, and generally make a lot of noise with us?

[__United__]

Friends of the opposite sex seem easier to get along with for some due to the fact that, unless you are in a relationship with them, you don't worry too much about then stabbing you in the back or something of sorts.

At least that's what other women tell me about their male friends.

[water nymph]

I am really trying for that group of girls but it is hard to get along with them. Ohe girl has these weird mood swings where she will be decent for a week or two but then all of a sudden she is aloof and acts like she is better than me. Two of my friends have an on aagain, off again lesbian/bi relationship which makes girls' nights uncomfortable (they are the couple in the midst of what used to be a no couple evening).

Is it so nescessary to have a close knit group of girls? On one hand I think it is but on another I just don't want to deal with it.

[kuju]

I haven't ha a close knit group of girl friends in years... I just generally confide in my mother, and if I can't tell her something, I tell my one friend who's a girl. And I tell you all. Hell, I have so few friends right now that Therfs is my surrogate group of friends. I have such a wide acquaintance, but no CLOSE friends...

[lain13ego]

i don't think its necisary to have a close group of same sex friends. as long as the friends you have are good, and fullfill whatever needs you have for a friend then it doesn't really matter. of course my friends, since they are all guys, don't understand what its like to get a pap, or have a period, buy a bra and all of that. so i don't have them for that type of advice.

[Asphodelle13]

For some reasons I tend to attract more guys then girls but that's slowly changing I think. I get along fine with both, but I'm not the gossiping type..so I think I come off as shy and meek to girls at first..then I become more social after I get over my shyness. I just like people who are sincere and down to earth(people who aren't phony)..so I get along with most people.

But, umm..yeah kuju, I know how you feel. Having an acquaintance is like having a friend except with no special bond or commitment there. Its just all so trite sometimes. I don't care anymore, male or female, I just would like a friend who isn't wishy-washy or capricious.

[Onlykrc]

I also find it much easier to hang out with guys, unfortunately that means the ones that I end up liking as more than just friends tend to only see me as friend. Females have way too many issues and all the attitude gets old after a while. However some of the girls I know share the same mindset so we get along well and can still do girl stuff when we fell like it (shopping, talk about boys, gossip, etc.) 'cause i love clothes!!

[water nymph]

I am taking my break from the majority of the girls. I need to just clear my head. That and the fact that I just found out that one these girls broke up another girl and her boyfriend. Reason? She wants the girl in a bad way. It makes me angry that she could stoop to such low levels. She was telling the girl's (Guppy) boyfriend all these untrue things. It just makes me angry, what reason do I have to associate with her?

Apparently she (the one who broke up Guppy and her boyfriend, we'll call her Trout) is pissed at me for some useless reason. Do I really give a shit right now? No. Last time she got mad at me was because I was "rude" when I gave her some notes for a movie that we were watching. Trout is hearing impaired, so I didn't midn handing over the notes. But I also told her that she should watch the movie herself (it was Strangelove) with subtitles so that she could really understand and appreciate it. Appparently that hurt her feelings, I wasn't respecting her hearing. I don't get it.

See why I prefer guys?

[Brass Monkey]

For girls a guy friend is just another friend with a penis and a lot less drama. For guys a female friend is just someone's pants they are waiting to get into...only exceptions being if he is gay, has a girlfriend (still iffy), or you are just too ugly to want to sleep with.


...I don't mean to sound like an asshole, but it is just how 98% of straight guys are.

[Asphodelle13]

Originally posted by Brass Monkey@Jun 25 2004, 05:14 PM
...I don't mean to sound like an asshole, but it is just how 98% of straight guys are.
Sadly, that probably is true for the most part...In all of my experiences it always seems that if I get along good with a guy friend then sooner or later he starts to like me. Even if I just want to be friends. Which can quickly screw up a friendship..heh, I think I need to watch again 'When Harry Met Sally'.

[sweetiegrl]

I find that guy friends usually are alot more easygoing when it comes to friendships. There tends to be way less petty arguements and fights, girls usually seem to make friendships with alot of unneccessary drama.

[Sargeant Pepper]

Well, I am not going to say that "Catfish" (works on several levels; catty, low, bottom feeding at times, etc) was right, first and foremost. Speaking from firsthand experience, I know how aggrivating she is. I think it is a good idea for you to take a break from these catty people, but at the same time not to withdraw too much from your friends. Being stuck inside only works until all the walls are painted.

Depending on the guy, most have an easier time talking to a girl if they aren't worried about looking macho or anything (i.e. shirtless painting :mrgreen: ), but I have noticed that girls seem to be alot more concerned about other girls' opinions to the point of not quite obession, but something equally as aggrivating to guys. All I think you need is one or two girls that you kn ow have similar interests or at least dislikes, so that way you wouldn't have to worry about arguing over anything petty.

Worse comes to worse, have a party, invite a bunch of people over at once, chill, have a good time. Never hurts to entertain once in a while.