[parents] Repetative sex-talks.

[Rammstein39]

I am the unfortunate child of a over-protective, and excessively motherly mom.

And yes, I get the sex talk about three times aday.

My mom constantly nags me about sex. She believes that my b/f and I are doing it everytime we see each other just because she reads in the paper or sees on tv how some stupid girl got knocked up at 14 or something. She blames teenage pregnancy on Brittney Spears and thinks that EVERY teenaged girl is a slut who is looking to fuck the whole male population.

I tell her that my b/f and I do nothing. She doesnt believe me. My neighbor is pregnant with her second child..... she is older and married, but my mom still carries on about how "mistakes happen" and how there should "be no fooling around."

I dont plan on having sex for a very long time. So I was thinking of politely sitting her down and talking to her about it all and getting her to stop nagging and relax. Has anyone ever done this sort of thing, or even had a mom like this??? I think i just needed to rant but any help would be appreciated.

[chiukit]

i think i used to, but i dont remember now. the first time i brought a girl home was two years ago? two and a half perhaps. i've had tons of girls over but just time it's the first that i introduced the girl to my mom as a gf. anyways, so my mom freaks and all. kept saying, dont have sex, be responsible! bah bah bah.

now she doesnt even care anymore. then again, she doesnt care about anything i do these days. but maybe im a guy and she knows i can take care of myself. or maybe she's just got used to the fact that im not gonna let any rule stop me from doing what i wanna do. or maybe my mom and dad are just very reasonable people and they understand because they've both been there. who knows.

i dont really know what you should do in your case. sit her down and talk to her about it? perhaps, if you're close. i dont know. i have a lot of friends who have mothers like yours... sometimes when they bring it up it only gets worse. other times, it gets better. so... *shrug*

[Rainne]

I definitely think having a nice talk with her will calm her down at least a little bit. It will at least prove to her that you're mature. Maybe that will change her tune a bit

Give her specific examples of why youre choosing not to have sex. Bring up good grades, what you want to do with your future, how important love is to you. All the things that Moms want to hear.

it might not completely shut her up, and it might not quiet her down immediately, but it should help a little bit.

[Rainbow Brite]

you're mom sounds like Carrie's mom.

maybe show her your academic progress and future plans, and that not all teens have sex all the time

[mearimydra]

Yeah, just be polite, be cool about it and explain that you're not interested in sex right about now, that you're glad she worries and you love her for it (may not be the complete truth, but buttering her bread a little won't hurt), and that you're old enough and responsible enough to make your own decisions. Maybe pointing out that there are teenage abstinence groups would help soften the "teenage pregnancy" bit?