Top 10 Signs Guys Give Out

[ArRoWLeGeNd]

I was digging around and i found a handful of old, but potentially VERY helpful posts back from THE original Romance Forums. I'll be posting them maybe a couple at a time b/c i dont want to overload the place with new topics. Hope they are helpful!!! :)

~ArRoWLeGeNd~




Top 10 Signs Guys Give Out

Originally Posted by FGarcia1 on 1-10-2001:


Okay, I said I'd get to this, and after some prodding by a few girls out there (at least I hope they were girls...), I've written it. Here they are: TOP TEN SIGNS A DUDE'S CHECKIN' YOU OUT!

Again, in no particular order:


1--STARING--You'll see this from an interested guy. Now, here's the thing: it has to happen often, and will happen in one of two ways:
a: If he's shy, he'll look at you. When you catch his glance, he'll turn away quick, either by dropping his eyes, or turning his head, or something of that nature. In any of these cases, though, he'll try to brush it off. You'll see this happen often.
b: If he's more courageous, he'll look at you, but may not look away. Again, this will be consistent and constant.

Essentially, if he's looking at you, he's interested. Guys don't normally look at girls they don't like. Now, the only exception is if he's looking at you because you've borrowed something of his, and he wants it back--if he's looking at you for a technical purpose, then it doesn't mean anything.

2--CHANGED ATTITUDE--Some guys may or may not change their attitudes when around you. Most confident guys won't do this. So, if you know you're up against a player or a really self-confident guy, scratch this one. But, some guys may do the following:

a: Act big when around you, but not necessarily talking directly to you--this is to get your attention, and draw it to his "bigness;" that is, his sense of importance. You'll hear him try to impress you, basically.
b: He may try to make stupid jokes, in order to get you to laugh. Guys usually try to crack a joke whenever possible--not appropriate, but possible.
c: Acting sad or depressed. Some guys play the "lonely puppy" game with you. This isn't as common, but definitely visible. It's his way of saying, "I'm cold and depressed: come comfort me." They figure a girl will look at him and think, "Oh, you poor baby--let me cradle you and shower you with love."
d: His social skills may appear to increase. That is, he'll start to talk and be friendly with everyone around your immediate area, usually within a radius of about 5 meters. It's his happiness to be around your aura of girlitude that puts him in this natural high; more effective than pot, but twice as lethal. :-)
e: He may even become hostile around you (but not with you). This is to prove his manhood to you. He'll want to defend you, or try and mouth off to other people. Again, it's a display for your consideration of his bravery. Usually, it's stupid and unwarranted, but meaningful, nonetheless.
f: ALSO--his hostility may come in the later stages of the chase: if he's getting the idea that he's losing the battle, and he's becoming frustrated. If this happens, he may be in a real bad mood and even become hostile and angry TOWARDS you. This is an effort to open up a great avenue of emotional outburst on your part. Essentially, what he wants is for you to be really caring and emotional, so he can summon his acting skills and turn this into a Titanic moment of forgiveness, passion, and blithering love. Yech...

3--INCREASE IN PIZZAZZ--I could have thought of a better word, but I'm too lazy. Anyhow, the guy may try to impress you with dazzling things, like his Palm Pilot, his new watch, or a car. He will start to acquire posessions like mad, in an effort to get you to notice him. He may also try grooming himself in a new way to see if you go for it.

4--TRIES TO SEE YOU--He may become a stalker in the sense that he'll change his schedule to coincide with yours, or he may try to hang out near the areas that you tend to be. He'll start to change his course of travel in school or work to get a glimpse of you. When he hangs around, he may do it from afar, especially if he's shy.

5--RECONNAISANCE WORK--It is a tactful method of finding out about you. He may not go around asking about you (if he does, all the better), but he'll try and find out about you in obscure ways. This is one area you may not be able to find out about, but a guy will become a detective and get your phone number, your street address, your locker number, and your bra size from whatever source he can find. If you hear of him knowing such information, you know he's got something for you. Again, though, this is a hard one.

6--STUPID QUESTIONS--In an effort to establish a bond, a guy will try and ask you questions--lots of inane, pointless questions, in hopes of connecting with you. What your favorite color is, what kind of car you drive, what's your favorite seat in the cafeteria--those kinds of things. They will be questions you wouldn't normally hear from a sane human being. Watch out for these.

7--INCREASED SIMILARITY--He may become you in some ways. He may start to enjoy the kind of music you listen to, or see the same movies you like (Lord help you if he starts to dress the same way). His interests will slowly match yours, in order to connect better.

8--HINTING AT RELATIONSHIPS--He'll be very subtle about this one. He may try and hint at going out with you, or what he'd like to do with a girl if he had the chance, or etc. Also, it's pretty common to try and get at the issue of your availability--that is, he'll try and say things like, "I'll bet your boyfriend really hates that," in hopes that you'll say, "No, I don't have a boyfriend."

9--MISPLACED COMPLIMENTS--Guys will go for the clutch shot and tell you you look nice. It may be about your hair, or your eyes, or your appearance in general. If he makes a compliment about your beauty, it's a good sign.

10--GIFTS--Oh, yes, saving the best for last--if you get anything from this guy, anything ranging from a "Get Well" card to a new car (I'm in California; this happens), it means he wants you. Guys won't normally do something like this for a girl they're not interested in, UNLESS you're already his plutonic friend, and it's a good friendship. In this case, only getting gifts constantly will be worthy of consideration.

Well, there you have it! This is harder than it looks, folks, so it may not be totally accurate (weasle room). Hopefully this helps some of you--though, lately, I've come to the conclusion that guys, believe it or not, are more complicated and confusing than girls. Why? I'm saving that for my next article.

[Fun Lovin' Criminal]

I gotta say, I do none of the above.

[Burro]

*shrugs* i do most of them.

[IGemini]

I've done almost every one of these in the past, but my primary ones are 1, 2, 4, and 9.


Heh. FGarcia1's material is classic.

[chiukit]

hahahaha
when you play the game...
you know these things and you tend to NOT do them...
because like in every game... you want the advantage
where would the advantage be if your goal can figure you out?

[moonangel]

*Shrugs* I didn't really read any of that because most of the time it is BLATANTLY obvious when a guy is interested in you ...

The eyes usually give it away, along with everything else ..

The guys, in these parts, and many others I've discovered, are extremely transparent.

Of course, some are more subtle than others, and have much better tactics.

[Dreamer]

Here's some more...

http://therfs.com//index.php?act=ST&f=2&t=2205&hl=does

[Fun Lovin' Criminal]

I agree with chiukit, as soon as you do any of these things, you lose the power. Once you give the power to the female, you've got problems. This isn't a walk in the park, this is war.

[im_captnobivous]

hehe. a whole new meaning to man-power

[Planet Starbucks]

Thanks dude. Nice list. It's really hard sometimes to figure out if I guy like you when they are shy and only gives you sutble hints

[Commando]

Originally posted by ArRoWLeGeNd@Dec 14 2003, 03:58 PM
I was digging around and i found a handful of old, but potentially VERY helpful posts back from THE original Romance Forums. I'll be posting them maybe a couple at a time b/c i dont want to overload the place with new topics. Hope they are helpful!!! :)

~ArRoWLeGeNd~




Top 10 Signs Guys Give Out

Originally Posted by FGarcia1 on 1-10-2001:


Okay, I said I'd get to this, and after some prodding by a few girls out there (at least I hope they were girls...), I've written it. Here they are: TOP TEN SIGNS A DUDE'S CHECKIN' YOU OUT!

Again, in no particular order:


1--STARING--You'll see this from an interested guy. Now, here's the thing: it has to happen often, and will happen in one of two ways:
a: If he's shy, he'll look at you. When you catch his glance, he'll turn away quick, either by dropping his eyes, or turning his head, or something of that nature. In any of these cases, though, he'll try to brush it off. You'll see this happen often.
b: If he's more courageous, he'll look at you, but may not look away. Again, this will be consistent and constant.

Essentially, if he's looking at you, he's interested. Guys don't normally look at girls they don't like. Now, the only exception is if he's looking at you because you've borrowed something of his, and he wants it back--if he's looking at you for a technical purpose, then it doesn't mean anything.

2--CHANGED ATTITUDE--Some guys may or may not change their attitudes when around you. Most confident guys won't do this. So, if you know you're up against a player or a really self-confident guy, scratch this one. But, some guys may do the following:

a: Act big when around you, but not necessarily talking directly to you--this is to get your attention, and draw it to his "bigness;" that is, his sense of importance. You'll hear him try to impress you, basically.
b: He may try to make stupid jokes, in order to get you to laugh. Guys usually try to crack a joke whenever possible--not appropriate, but possible.
c: Acting sad or depressed. Some guys play the "lonely puppy" game with you. This isn't as common, but definitely visible. It's his way of saying, "I'm cold and depressed: come comfort me." They figure a girl will look at him and think, "Oh, you poor baby--let me cradle you and shower you with love."
d: His social skills may appear to increase. That is, he'll start to talk and be friendly with everyone around your immediate area, usually within a radius of about 5 meters. It's his happiness to be around your aura of girlitude that puts him in this natural high; more effective than pot, but twice as lethal. :-)
e: He may even become hostile around you (but not with you). This is to prove his manhood to you. He'll want to defend you, or try and mouth off to other people. Again, it's a display for your consideration of his bravery. Usually, it's stupid and unwarranted, but meaningful, nonetheless.
f: ALSO--his hostility may come in the later stages of the chase: if he's getting the idea that he's losing the battle, and he's becoming frustrated. If this happens, he may be in a real bad mood and even become hostile and angry TOWARDS you. This is an effort to open up a great avenue of emotional outburst on your part. Essentially, what he wants is for you to be really caring and emotional, so he can summon his acting skills and turn this into a Titanic moment of forgiveness, passion, and blithering love. Yech...

3--INCREASE IN PIZZAZZ--I could have thought of a better word, but I'm too lazy. Anyhow, the guy may try to impress you with dazzling things, like his Palm Pilot, his new watch, or a car. He will start to acquire posessions like mad, in an effort to get you to notice him. He may also try grooming himself in a new way to see if you go for it.

4--TRIES TO SEE YOU--He may become a stalker in the sense that he'll change his schedule to coincide with yours, or he may try to hang out near the areas that you tend to be. He'll start to change his course of travel in school or work to get a glimpse of you. When he hangs around, he may do it from afar, especially if he's shy.

5--RECONNAISANCE WORK--It is a tactful method of finding out about you. He may not go around asking about you (if he does, all the better), but he'll try and find out about you in obscure ways. This is one area you may not be able to find out about, but a guy will become a detective and get your phone number, your street address, your locker number, and your bra size from whatever source he can find. If you hear of him knowing such information, you know he's got something for you. Again, though, this is a hard one.

6--STUPID QUESTIONS--In an effort to establish a bond, a guy will try and ask you questions--lots of inane, pointless questions, in hopes of connecting with you. What your favorite color is, what kind of car you drive, what's your favorite seat in the cafeteria--those kinds of things. They will be questions you wouldn't normally hear from a sane human being. Watch out for these.

7--INCREASED SIMILARITY--He may become you in some ways. He may start to enjoy the kind of music you listen to, or see the same movies you like (Lord help you if he starts to dress the same way). His interests will slowly match yours, in order to connect better.

8--HINTING AT RELATIONSHIPS--He'll be very subtle about this one. He may try and hint at going out with you, or what he'd like to do with a girl if he had the chance, or etc. Also, it's pretty common to try and get at the issue of your availability--that is, he'll try and say things like, "I'll bet your boyfriend really hates that," in hopes that you'll say, "No, I don't have a boyfriend."

9--MISPLACED COMPLIMENTS--Guys will go for the clutch shot and tell you you look nice. It may be about your hair, or your eyes, or your appearance in general. If he makes a compliment about your beauty, it's a good sign.

10--GIFTS--Oh, yes, saving the best for last--if you get anything from this guy, anything ranging from a "Get Well" card to a new car (I'm in California; this happens), it means he wants you. Guys won't normally do something like this for a girl they're not interested in, UNLESS you're already his plutonic friend, and it's a good friendship. In this case, only getting gifts constantly will be worthy of consideration.

Well, there you have it! This is harder than it looks, folks, so it may not be totally accurate (weasle room). Hopefully this helps some of you--though, lately, I've come to the conclusion that guys, believe it or not, are more complicated and confusing than girls. Why? I'm saving that for my next article.
i have ny own ways and means of getting girls, none of which relate to the
above :biggrin:

[Nobody]

Originally posted by Fun Lovin' Criminal@Dec 16 2003, 05:15 AM
I agree with chiukit, as soon as you do any of these things, you lose the power. Once you give the power to the female, you've got problems. This isn't a walk in the park, this is war.
OMG that is so true! That's the exact way I look at it, the result is woman end up giving YOU their signs.

[ChloëAuChocolatChat]

OMG that is so true! That's the exact way I look at it, the result is woman end up giving YOU their signs.

What?! I don't get that! Why wouldn't you want us to figure out that you like us?! Isn't that the point of flirting? To get someone to realize that you like them? I mean, because you're not going to get anywhere unless they know someday. And most girls think it's really really awesome when guys are open about their feelings. In fact, I think it's much better than trying to act macho and get her to like you but not have to show that you like her -because eventually that is obvious as all hell, even if we don't say anything about it. That just makes you seem kind of stupid in a very guyish way!

Whatever. To each their own... But I go for the guys who will flirt and admit it.

[Haboob]

I'm a guy, when I like a girl I just stare at her. That's the biggest give away from my point of view.

[Macilwen]

Heh, my BF only did no. 1 before he told me he liked me...he's sneaky. I had nooo idea about him.

But now he's really obvious -- teases me all the time, etc.

[lovemesweet]

i remember my bf i met in webdatedotcom told me that the first thing a guy does to get your attention is to pretend to like your friend, or to be close to your friends. in that way, he'd be able to spend more time with you or to get to talk to you more often.

[hazel eyes]

I was laughing reading the list remembering some of those happening to me. I remember having this guy stare at me, at first it was like can I help you? then it was like ok you might like me. then you forgot about physical contact and how they try to initiate physical contact. ok and then I remember this guy who always complimented on how much he liked this or that about me and yeah it was nice but at the same time I couldn't help but think okay are you serious? or just want to get laid?

oh and what happens when a guy does a majority of those things except the stalking part and hints at all these major plans and then tells me he wants time? then what? is it over or not or does he really need time to think, about who knows what?

and how long should a girl wait to hear from a guy when he says he'll call? I'm not "waiting" but just curious as to when I can try and call, since I know guys timing is different from girls, do guys have like a cut off time of oh after this amount of time, nah I don't want to call her because she might be over it

[chiukit]

What?! I don't get that! Why wouldn't you want us to figure out that you like us?! Isn't that the point of flirting? To get someone to realize that you like them? I mean, because you're not going to get anywhere unless they know someday. And most girls think it's really really awesome when guys are open about their feelings. In fact, I think it's much better than trying to act macho and get her to like you but not have to show that you like her -because eventually that is obvious as all hell, even if we don't say anything about it. That just makes you seem kind of stupid in a very guyish way!

Whatever. To each their own... But I go for the guys who will flirt and admit it.

maybe too late for this reply but here it is. it's easier to get you to date us if at first you don't know if you like us at first. sure, girls may think it's cute and adorable and sweet if a guy is open about liking the girl. the question is: would she go out with him? not always. and honestly, more often than not, she won't (unless they've been old friends and she has feelings for him too). by hiding your feelings, and yet still openly flirting, but not enough flirting for her to know that the guy likes her, the guy can make the girl think enough about whether or not the guy likes her or not. sooner or later, she'll think enough about it and the chances increase.

in my experience, girls play enough of these games. hard to get. shit like that. why cant us guys play ours? i've learned never to make a move until you're sure the girl likes you.

[Gezus]

in my experience, girls play enough of these games. hard to get. shit like that. why cant us guys play ours? i've learned never to make a move until you're sure the girl likes you.

We aren't allowed to play games, we'll come off as cruel, and sometimes sexist. Of course, most women do that shit naturally, at least the ones I've met so far. I don't understand why we even have the games though... is it like human instincts? Is this the way we are programmed to find mates? With stupid games like these?

[DSaP]

If you think this is bad, thank goodness you're not a preying mantis.

I'd rather date a guy who didn't do a lot of these. If I did't like him yet, it'd be more of a turn-off. But if I already kinda liked him, a few would be ok.

[hazel eyes]

I don't like these games, it just makes for complication. and plus in my case I don't know if he's now playing a game with me. as mentioned to give a girl time see if she likes the guy. yeah I got time now I figured out I like him. question though in that time do guys stay liking the girl? or do they just like to ---- with their mind

[chiukit]

depends on the guy, i guess.

but i'll speak for the guys that are like me (and i know there are a few on this board).
if girl takes too long, we'd have already moved on. and if we're still "playing these games," it is because we are used to being like that with you and treating you like that.

sigh. think of it as self-preservation. think of it as wanting to know what will happen before you do it. you call that inhuman? personally, i'd rather find out how she feels about me before making a move.

[Gezus]

From my knowledge, guys just play these games because most girls will, and so they've gotten used to that fact and are prepared already.

[infinity]

my guy did some not all of the,.. now that i think about it... :)

[david616098]

I dont do any of the above i suppose my skills are a little more polished than that.

[melby1980]

hmm yeah, subtle hinting at a relationship does him talking about us being together in the future count?? lol yeah, I am being dogged.

[RJEH]

i must admit, being a woman at a young adult age...in this day and time if i were flirting with a guy and he was already hinting signs of a relationship..i'd be turned off. turned off the point where i'd never wanna see him again because i thought he was a little too much for me to handle right now.

[daweefolk]

when I like a girl, I do try to be around her, but not in the creepy stalker way. Also, I am funny (I usually am anyway). I'd say the thing I do that is the biggest giveaway (for me, anyway) is talking to her a lot more than i did before.

[myanna]

I was looking at that post and I have a friend who has done most of these things to me. As I really like him and have not alot of confidence, if he played it cool Iwould never notice. Still as he hasn't told me he likes me I'm not sure what to do. I have put my old post down below.It's still bothering me.




I met Mary in college and we were friends but lost contact. We met agin and became close. When i was 25 I bought a car and drove down to visit her in her family home some 100 miles from the city I live in. She hada younger brother named John who was 15 at the time. I don't remeber meeting him, but Mary told me years later, innocently, that she was very surprised the day I visited because when her girlfriends usually visited he would make his excuses and leave but this time he stayed and even when we went out for a drink (non alcoholic!) he came along. When he moved to the city to study 3yrs later the three of us would go to the cinema together every week. I got along well with him but never had any romantic thoughts. He is almost ten years younger than me. When Mary graduated and moved to the USA I stopped visiting the house she stayed in and lost contact with them all, only wirting to mary a few times a year. When Mary returned to this side of the atlantic she brought me a clock that she and John had picked out for me in the states. He had apparently dropped out of college and moved there. He stayed there. He once sent me a letter in relation to a conversation of about a year earlier which i found amusing. When I got my own email address in the late nineties Mary said I should email John because he would like it and I did. in 1999 one of his friends was dying and John (now about 21) came home for about ten days to visit him. Mary said that he wanted to visit me (now 31). I think she was a bit taken aback by this and i certainly was. I didn't think I was that important to him and he certainly was only my friend's favourite brother. He took the bus 100 miles or so to see me. We met with his sister and had a laugh as usual and that was it. That summer his brother was getting married in the US and mary invited me. It was my first trip to the U.S. When I got there John was there and after about a day I felt that he had taken a very very strong liking to me. He was never not by my side. He sat next to me (and we were a group of about 30), we even ended up going to New York by ourselves for a day. We went to Niagara falls as a group and he was splashing me with water. We had a car accident and changed a tyre together. The next day he spotted a bruise on my arm and he almost touched it, then got self conscious and held his hand back.Almost everyone at the wedding noticed bar the happy coupls and my friend Mary. Whenever a group would walk somewhere I would be deep in conversation with John and look up and see the rest trailing ahead or behind. I felt that they disapproved because of the huge age difference and possbily because I'm so close to Mary.When we went on a boat under Niagar falls it was me and him downstairs and the rest upstairs.I was swept off my feet. The attention was intoxicating. He is very attractive, intelligent, considerate and listens to me like no other man has. the last day of the holiday I cried because I knew it was over. I returned home and he stayed in the U.s. We kept writing and he would send me photos and gifts. We both got on with life. I would see him at christmas every year at least. We visited him in the U.S where he lived with a nice girl for two years but it ended because as he told me with tears in his eyes, he couldn't give her what she wanted.Since then he has become very flirtatious with me. He has also taken to joining me, Mary and another sister Lisa on holidays. We have been to the us, france and around the U.k together. He has admired me figure, my hair, is genuinely impressed when I get promoted ,remembers the slightest details about me, tells me what films he thinks I would enjoy (he knows I'm extremely squeamish), he once exclaimed to mary "even herhandwriting is beautiful". Mary finally realised, i think , that there was something going on and didn't approve. Last year forexample when the girls came back John and I were deep in conversation and Lisa made a remark about hoping they weren't interrupting. The fact that two of my best female friends don't approve and are his older sisters has made me feel very uncomfortable and has held me back. I never compliment him and sometimes draw away from him.Last week we four were on holidays. I hadn't seen him in a year, within minutes he was kneeling by my chair showing me photos. He carried my luggage, opened the door for me. He would reach out his hand and lift me up steps, play with my hair, my phone or just mess with me. We chased each other around a maze and push each other all initiated by him. He sets things up as a joke but I wonder. When the four of us had to share a family room and I shared a bed with Lisa he would joke, Move away Lisa I want to get a clear look at Myanna while she sleeps. He also photographs me alot as a joke, in my swimsuit or nightie or just ordinary shots. Once I hid under the blankets and he said he didn't care he had what he needed. "needed?", "wanted" he corrected himself.When I'm telling a tale he sits and stares, giving me his full attention and he is always telling me stories about himself and hisl ife and he smiles as he recollects. If i tell him of a film I saw that I liked he will go and get it himself. I once wrote a book and he is the only friend or family member who actually read it. He asked me to send over a copy.This summer I thought his feelings might have waned but they seem (and this is all seem) to be as strong as ever. Also his sisters didn't seem to mind this time, I do not know why. Mary told me he had dated someone this year but it didn't work out. He didn't tell me but he did mention going to the cinema with a friend but was irritated because she couldn't follow ths film.He has never told me directly that he has feelings for me.I know he doesn't suffer fools gladly and has a very low opinion of people in general. He holds about five people in high esteem, Mary, one sister in law and Me. He likes loyalty. I think he has a crush on me, I think it might actually be love but I@m not sure if I'm reading it right. It has been 14yrs but he was young and needed to expereince life, as did I so its not like we have been pining for each other.I think he might be getting ready for a change now.Also I think his sisters might no longer be afraid that either of us was being selfish or flighty or was going to hurt the other and that with time and knowing each other the age difference has ceased to be a contentious issue.My question is, Do you think I@m reading this right?Also I might meet him is 6 weeks and plan to be more encouraging than previously but ultimately will let any moves up to him, because he has been the initiator and I would rather have our current arrangement than lose three good friends and their family whom I am very close to. Is the right approach?Do you think there is any future in this?Has anyone else been in a similar situation and hasi t worked out?Thanks and sorry about the length.

[leanne7388]

My 2 cents--A great site with excellent signs: grabyourtiger.com

[somedude08]

Subconsciously used 2f. Backfired.

[Kromat]

I say that from my experience, it's hard to talk to girls because must of the time you feel rejected anyways, so you just do it and don't care about the outcome.
I hate how in some scenarios you have to be an ass for a girl to like you, that's just not in me to do.
I might not be the greatest shape that I want to be, but I don't want to lie.
From most stories I hear, guys lie to get laid and move on.
I wouldn't mind going the easiest root, but I just can't do it, I like to be honest and feel comfortable talking to them about something they might like.

[Linds1986]

Well some of it was believable, but how do you really know for sure? Every man is different...

[caveman42]

guys are pretty straight forward when it comes to girls were interested in...

[realretro]

This is great stuff , I'm glad I found this forum!! :biggrin2: Just to share, I came across a site with a bunch of related articles that are interesting to read. Site has some ads for a book (catch him and keep him) but the articles on their own are a great read so go check it out -->your-boyfriend.net

[jill_alcher]

Nice info you have here.

I don't know if all of them are true though since I haven't personally experienced such.

[Clovers91]

Well, what if you're fairly certain the guy is into you but does none of the above? What if he ruthlessly makes fun of you, but still manage to always be around you? Twisted, I know. But I have to admit, it keeps me interested.

[Wildcat]

Well, what if you're fairly certain the guy is into you but does none of the above? What if he ruthlessly makes fun of you, but still manage to always be around you? Twisted, I know. But I have to admit, it keeps me interested.

I always make fun of my female friends, interested or not. It's a great way to "flirt" with girls I like, but it's also just my personality. It's not so much "I'm going to try to charm this girl" as it is "I'm going to try to be a charming person." Now, if he makes fun of you and you alone, it could be a very good sign.

[talkingtac0]

Ok... so this guy... when he was new at my school didn't talk to anybody or socialize at all. So halfway through the year, i went up to him and said hi and started talking with him. Pretty soon, he'd sit next to me whenever we had a class together, because i was the only person he really knew. A month later, other people started to get to know him, because i felt kinda bad for him and his shyness, so i told people that even though he was quiet, he was really cool. He started to sit with other people, and whenever he did sit next to me, he would act really rudely. Eventually i got really tired of it, and told him that he didn't need to be so rude and nasty, and make me feel bad about myself. So we stopped talking mostly, but he would still sit next to me sometimes. then, my school had a long break and when we came back, the first class we had, he sat down next to me and started talking to me, and asking me how my break was. He doesnt come off as very nice, but i realized that sometimes when he says, "so what did u do besides sit around and be useless?" he's trying to ask me what i did over the break/weekend. He still says rude things to me sometimes, but he always smiles at me when he says them. He also goes out of his way to sit next to me now, and my friends tell me that he asks them questions about me. I'm really really confused. How does he feel about me? :confused:

[nakchura]

Oh my, I do all of those except number three.

[kelly]

I like it when guys look at you and talk to you and converse with you. My current bf used the custest (albeit a little cliche) pickup line and I didn't realize it was a pickup line cuz i was like haha no one uses those anymore so I kinda shut him down he came back and pulled a stunt that i didn't even know! another guy was sitting next to me and talking to me (he paid for my cover too) and this other guy (pickup line guy) gets an extra beer and says to the guy currently talking to me, "hey i got you a beer" and puts it a few chairs down the big table where we were all sitting and the guy moves down and he takes his seat and starts talking to me! I had no idea that was planned. Suficetd (sp) to say, we are now dating. And he is a great guy!

[ihatescreennames]

I do the staring thing and look away really quickly but that's it.

[Kuky]

I do the staring thing and look away really quickly but that's it.

Instead, give a slow-forming half-smile, and look away ssllllooowwwwly :) (looking away quickly == you're actually hurting your chances with her, and staring constantly == creepy hehe)

[ihatescreennames]

Instead, give a slow-forming half-smile, and look away ssllllooowwwwly :) (looking away quickly == you're actually hurting your chances with her, and staring constantly == creepy hehe)

Meh. I don't really approach chicks at bars or anything like that to begin with.

[vboy123]

Well, there you have it! This is harder than it looks, folks, so it may not be totally accurate (weasle room). Hopefully this helps some of you--though, lately, I've come to the conclusion that guys, believe it or not, are more complicated and confusing than girls. Why? I'm saving that for my next article.

Its so amazing to read about women trying to figure out us guys better. I wish you could join the men's forum and look at the number of strategies men learn from so called Guru's to become beter at meeting women.

[Spotter52]

Wow. I found that I did do the 'hostility' thing once or twice and it actually worked.

I think its in her smile and when you find her in your schedule quite a bit. I worked graves at a gas station and she would walk over at 2am to have a cup of coffee. It was nice but I had someone else.

[friendswithbenefits]

wow..those were cool signs... boys are sometimes like girls.... when they like
a person they tend to do same things that you have posted there...

And I can really say that it's easy to tell whether a person loves another person
he or she keeps staring at....



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[Cassandra]

I agree but I have a problem with the point of INCREASE IN PIZZAZZ, that doesn't sound interesting.

[ShyGirlsMadness]

Well my Crush only does #1 and is always around me... what does that mean?? lol

[jlwelch]

What?! I don't get that! Why wouldn't you want us to figure out that you like us?! Isn't that the point of flirting? To get someone to realize that you like them? I mean, because you're not going to get anywhere unless they know someday. And most girls think it's really really awesome when guys are open about their feelings. In fact, I think it's much better than trying to act macho and get her to like you but not have to show that you like her -because eventually that is obvious as all hell, even if we don't say anything about it. That just makes you seem kind of stupid in a very guyish way!

Whatever. To each their own... But I go for the guys who will flirt and admit it.

Well, I think the real problem is that if a guy likes you in a way beyond just having sex, his primary concern is being cautious not to blow it. It is well known amongst men that if you tell her early on that you like her you come off as eager, and that is no good. Dating her, giving her the occasional flirting (but not overdoing it) seems to be the most successful way of doing things for us. Besides, flirting is how people (men and women) let the other know that they like them anyway. I wouldn't say it is playing games, it is his effort to be subtle and hopefully more successful.

If anything, the guys that are very upfront about the fact that they like you are the ones you need to worry about. Sometimes it is because they lack self control and just blurt it out while other times it means they are less interested in a relationship and more interested in sex.

[loveme]

Question: what would be your advice or insight on this? My ex (daughter's father) calls at least once a week to make small talk. Since our break up 15 years ago he has gotten married, but now that my daughter has a baby he comes to visit to see his daughter and grandchild. Lately when he comes over he comes in the kitchen where I am to hold small conversation and the other day he stared at my butt and asked in a low sultry like voice "what you doing with those tight pants on, aren't you a little too old for that (yes, i'm still jazzy at 45)? I just sniggled at him and looked him in the eye and told him "I can do that". I really feel like he still cares and so do I, but neither of us know how to break the ice to open up a little more. Any suggestions/advice to let him know i'm still interested? or..what's your take on this, think he still cares? By the way, not that it's my intention to disrupt his marriage, but he's already unhappy and each time he comes over the chemistry gets stronger between us.

[Axiom]

This list should be renamed, "Top 10 Signs Guys Give Out that they're desperate, clingy and have low self esteem".

The only one that I agree with doing is 1B. If you make eye contact with a girl, holding it, especially with a sly kind of little smile, is great. If you're going to look away, then look to the side. Looking down shows submission and a lack of confidence. Numbers 7-9 are things that are only acceptable if you're already in a relationship with the girl. At least the OP pointed out that a confident guy wouldn't change himself just to try and get something from a girl.

But aside from that, this is a list of things that a lot of guys do to try and get the girl. Those guys don't get laid.

[ca1997]

No offence, but this list seems a bit passive-aggressive.

I agree more with 1, 4, 5 and 9. If I like a woman, I cannot help but look, and I would try and covertly find things out about her.

[GothicSpice86]

Lol, number 1 happened when I met my bf. We met at a Vietnamese restaurant cause my friend set us up XD, anyways he stared at me then looked away. Later on during the meal he ate out of my bowl of soup because he had been steak pieces. I pushed the bowl towards him and told him he could have the meat.

Thats the only thing on the list my bf did, he felt it was better to tell me the truth that he really liked me.

[iceman80]

The only one that applies to me is the "stupid questions" part........I will ask a girl I like just funny, silly questions just to get her attention. If it's a girl at work, I'll find any reason I can to get her to stop what she's doing to talk to me. If she always drops everything to answer your stupid question, it's a good sign. If she starts ignoring you, just give it up.