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bitshifter
November 21st, 2003, 01:28 AM
First, a little background. This may seem unnecessary but it ties together in the end.

I worry about stupid things, things that I shouldn't even consider worrying about. Especially in relationships. For instance, the girl I have been dating for almost a month emailed me about a week ago saying how glad she was that we got together, and that she is happy with me, etc etc. This made me feel great, I emailed her back and told her how I felt as well (same as her, pretty much). We havn't talked about our relationship since then-- I know she still feels the same-- but I still worry that her feelings have changed, even though it's only been a week since she told me how she felt. Stupid, eh?

What does this have to do with kissing you ask? Well, as I said, it's been a month since we started dating. I havn't kissed her yet. Sure, a peck on the lips when it seems appropriate, but not a full blown kiss yet. There's 2 problems:

a: There hasn't been a time where it felt special... We've either been with friends, or in public, and I'd rather not have our first kiss end with a peddler asking for change.
b: Main problem: she's not giving any signals! She grabs my hand, puts her head on my shoulder, cute little things like that, but whenever it would seem like a good time to kiss she's not showing me she wants me to kiss her, like moving in close, touching me, etc etc...

When I give her a peck on the lips she seems to perk up a little and never pulls away or anything-- I know this is a great sign but it seems like if she really wanted to kiss me she'd make it obvious. Am I just thinking about this too much? Should I just do it when I have her alone next time? I just don't want to scare her away, you know?

Thanks guys, as always :)

thermzo
November 21st, 2003, 03:14 PM
it's because you're the guy, and typically the guy makes the first move.

bitshifter
November 21st, 2003, 03:39 PM
Originally posted by thermzo@Nov 21 2003, 08:14 PM
it's because you're the guy, and typically the guy makes the first move.
Well, of course. But it's always been clear to me in the past, and has never been a problem. There had always been some sort of action or something said that made me know she wanted me to. Not in this case, however...

thermzo
November 21st, 2003, 03:41 PM
all girls are different. just forget it and kiss her.

Wolf
November 21st, 2003, 03:51 PM
Tackle her to the ground and start making out with her. RAWR!

Rammstein39
November 21st, 2003, 07:18 PM
See, I know what she's feeling. Sometimes when i am alone somewhere w/ my b/f, I so badly wanna kiss him or whatnot, but I just dunno how to take the initiative to just do it. My suggestion is like Wolf's (sort of, lol).... sometimes when you are getting flirty or when she grabs your hand or w/e, just pull her up to you and kiss her. My b/f did that a couple times to me and it made me more comfortable with kissing him.

bitshifter
November 21st, 2003, 07:28 PM
Originally posted by Rammstein39@Nov 22 2003, 12:18 AM
See, I know what she's feeling. Sometimes when i am alone somewhere w/ my b/f, I so badly wanna kiss him or whatnot, but I just dunno how to take the initiative to just do it. My suggestion is like Wolf's (sort of, lol).... sometimes when you are getting flirty or when she grabs your hand or w/e, just pull her up to you and kiss her. My b/f did that a couple times to me and it made me more comfortable with kissing him.
Excellent-- Thank you. I kinda needed a girl's point of view. Thanks guys.

Lady Dragoness
November 22nd, 2003, 07:35 PM
I did that with my boyfriend when we first started dating. I didn't want him to kiss me right away, so I just kind of played hard-to-get with it. It just makes it better, you know? The anticipation. I'd be willing to bet you that is what she's doing, and that she wouldn't mind at all if you just "tackled" her. :-P

I think you are overanalyzing it... don't worry so much. Do make sure it's "special", but don't be overly concerned.

Skankstar
November 27th, 2003, 07:54 PM
yeah... play frisbee and purposely 'wrest;e' her to the ground in an accidental sort ofway... and land so u are on top of her... and stare into her eyes and kiss her...


haha one of my fantasies... *looks around*

bitshifter
December 3rd, 2003, 08:17 PM
Follow up:

As I said before, I worry way to much. So I decided to just go with the flow and not do anything to scare her. Well, it was just me and her outside, on a beautiful day, talking, laughing, holding each other, and we just went at each other. It was completely mutual, and sooo nice :D It was amazing. Thanks for the advice guys.

As usual, there was nothing to worry about, but I made something to worry about :P