[friends] Single and bitter.

[Rammstein39]

I have a friend who is helplessly single and is VERY bitter about it. She thinks her life is hell b/c she doesnt have a b/f. Everything she does revolves around her lack-of-man.

Make a long story short, i was talking to her today about something that happend to me and my b/f yesterday and suddenly she blurted out "He is all you talk about! You and I used to talk about stuff all the time, but now everything u say has to do wiht him!!!" I tried to talk about something else but it bothered me that she said that. I dunn what to do. I dont want to stop talking to her b/c she is one of the few people who I talk to about guys. What do I do to not further piss her off? I know obviously I could stop talking about my b/f, but its not my fault she is bitter and bitchy all the time!

[kuju]

I agree that she overreacted, but you also have to understand that this is a touchy subject for her, and hearing about your happiness, or even your troubles is difficult for her. your troubles exist because you at least have a boyfriend.

Hopefully she'll eventually find her peace. I want a boyfriend, but I recognize that I don't really have the time for one right now, and I can live without one. it's not a priority. But I used to be like her. she'll come around in a while. I think that for now you should try and refrain from talking about your boyfriend too much. Not entirely stop talking about him, but try not to. It'll help her, and eventually you'll be able to gush and complain and talk about whatever girls take about with regards to their boyfriends.

Sometimes girls just get jealous and lonely. Can you really blame them?

[dulcinea]

It's possible she feels like she's losing you to him. Make sure you spend time with her with no boys involved. And see if you can't make her realise that she's super-cool and boys are not the be all and end all of life. It's a hard realisation, but she'll get it sooner or later. :P

[christanje]

Have some fun "girl time" with the boy subject off limits. Try to show her that she can have a good time without having a boyfriend. At the same time, you are allowed to talk about your boyfriend, just try not to let it be the only subject coming out of your mouth.

[nicruns]

stay off the subject for awhle. she'll come around eventually. even if she overreacted you should still keep her feelings in mind. Ask her after awhile of not talking about if she minds discussing it and only do so when its a REALLY important issue that you need her opinion on, not "OMG i LOOOOVE him sooooo much" kinda stuff.

[Rammstein39]

I have been staying off the subject of him for a while. We talked about shopping and some inside jokes the other day and she was pretty happy.

I guess what bothers me is that I listen to her complain about everything and I would be totally understanding. The minute I mentioned him when we first started giong out, she was like "Shut up you are depressing me.. seriously." I feel like she wants me to be all doleful like her.

[Chica724]

Ive experienced this exact situation with my best friend- but i was on the other end-the lonely one- she would always talk about all these guys that liked her and wanted to get with her and her boyfriend and it made me very jealous-to the point that it made me depressed and very close to attempting suicide. Now i dont know if ur friend is that crazy but try to be more sympathetic- i told my friend to not talk about all those guys- just her bf and to not talk about him al the time-cuz it hurt me sooo much- i mean soo much to where id cry my eyes out for hours and begin writing suicide notes and thinking of plans to kill myself since it brought back all the loneliness. So shes not just being a bitch- it might be for her own sake.

[Rammstein39]

Whoa..... ok then! :(

[LuvULovinMe]

I had a friend that would constantly talk about her boyfriend to the point that no matter what we started talking about, something about her boyfriend would come up. We're not really friends anymore cuz we sort of ran ouit of things to talk baout and she would constantly ditch me for him.

[lain13ego]

its hard to not bring up somebody at one point or the other if you spend a lot of time with them.

it could be something they said, you were talking about, something you did together...it can be a hard subject to avoid...you start to say something realize it mentions them, and have to stop...i'm sure my friends got tired of it, but then again i got tired of them too

[Rammstein39]

Thanks for all the help. I dunno, she is very melodramatic too. Never once was she happy for me (he's my first b/f). Its hard for me to get her to do somethign girlie or anythign because all she wants to do is sulk, and when we do go do something all she has to talk about is how terribly sad and lonely she is.

Well i guess Ill just have to keep my mouth shut for now on. Thanks to all.

[BlueCoconut]

Hook her up!

[Rammstein39]

Ya know, I have tried that. i tell her a lot "oh u would look cute with so-and-so." But she is so determined that the perfect guy will appear out of the middle of no where and sweep her off her feet that she will not listen to me.

Ok, lil rant time... today, she was all pissy and moody and bitched out my b/f right in front of me. She called him a moron and totally threw a fit at him.... even tho he did nothing. And I mean he did NOTHING. I would have said something, but she was pissy so I stayed outta her way. Its like she is out to kill anyone who is hooked up and she is not. :argue:

Oh whatever. [/rant]