How can you tell if your ready for sex?

[WildChild69]

I'm really wondering how a person can tell if there ready for sex? Is there some sign that comes to people? Or is it just how you feel? Like i've talked about this guy that yes it would be very nice to screw him and if you have a feeling like you knew if you had the chance to screw a certain person you would, then does that mean that your ready? I don't know because now i'm confused, because if i have a strong feeling that i would screw him then wouldn't that mean i'm ready for sex? This doesn't mean that yes i am going 2 screw him but i'm just wondering. :D Can some1 please answer my questions.

[BigJim]

this will get a lot of differeing answers, but IMHO the way is:

if you can fully handle the act of sex, PLUS ANY CONSEQUENCES that might occur. we all say to practice safe sex, but nothing is 100% effective as means of birth control, short of sterilisation.

can you handle a baby? can you handle infections? it may be a small risk, BUT IT CAN HAPPEN. and that is something you need to know. whether you're mature enough to be able to handle anything that may woccur.

also, i also look at sex as an act of love. so take the physical desires away and see if you love that guy. if you do, fine. but if you're just horny and want a root, i'd recommend you do it yourself. i've never liked the idea of casual fucks. but that's just me.

[mollyelaine]

your repeated use of the phrase "screw him" seems to imply that you don't have a very mature view on the topic. No offense... well sex means different things to different people. Some people may say they are ready but do it for the wrong reasons then later regret it. For me, I need to be in love and in a long term relationship before I will consider sex and feel ready for sex. On the other hand, if someone else feels ready to have sex with someone they hardly know, then maybe they are ready but another person in their same situation might not be. If there is any doubt at all in your mind, then you are probably not ready. If you have to as other people (us) if you are ready, then you are probably not either. It is something that only you will know. Just use protection and make sure you bring up the topic of past partners STD's with him so that nothing happens that you really regret!

[Tootsie Pop]

Not to sound insulting or anything, but I knew I was ready when i didnt have to ask myself "am I ready". But, like I say in about every one of my posts, everyone is different.

[Pudding]

like tootsie pop, i was going to say "when u dont have to ask when ur ready"

[BigJim]

very good point. there should be no doubts, no questions. you should KNOW when YOU are ready. no one can answer that for you.

[Deidre]

like tootsie pop, i was going to say "when u dont have to ask when ur ready"

I'm not saying this is the case with Tootsie Pop, but that could go the other way. If you don't have any little piece of doubt in you, you might very well not be ready, and rather just quite ignorant as to what having sex would mean.

[kuju]

That's true as well Diedre...

I think you're ready when you'e questioned the act, both for physical and emotional reasons.

1. Is it legal?
2. Are you old enough?
3. Is your body physically ready?
4. Do you LOVE him? not just 'luv' him.
5. Are you both in this for the long term?
6. Are you aware of the consequences such as STDs and pregnancy?
7. Are you protected by both a hormonal contraception and condoms?
8. Do you feel that making love is something you truly want to do?

[Tessa LeAnn #2]

I was in your same shoes back a ways. I too wanted to know how I would know for SURE that I was ready to make this step in my life, as starting to have sex is a fairly significant milestone for most people. I agree with what everyone else has posted so far - it's all good advice, but now I'm going to go and say this: it's possible that you won't ever be sure that you're ready when it finally happens, until AFTER it happens. At least that's the way it was for me. I could (and frequently DID) think in circles about the whole issue. I mean, I knew I was physically mature and mentally prepared to deal with the consequences and all, and I knew that I really really liked the guy, but that still leaves something out. Anyway, for me, it just happened. Not planned, not thought through. It felt right, though, that's all I can say. It took a few days to really "sink in" what had happened, and at first I thought "Eek! I'm not a virgin anymore! What have I done?," but that phase only lasted a while before calm, smiling, acceptance set in. It wasn't til then that I realized that I had actually been 100% ready for it. I haven't looked back since. I think your heart of hearts will know, even if you don't.

[LeoDaVinci]

There is no sign, no burning bush or hit by lightning type feeling. You know you are physically and mentally able to handle it, and that you want to go the next step in your relationship. It is a union of love, respect and understanding between two bodies, and thats how it should be treated.

-- LDV :cool3:

[Tootsie Pop]

I'm not saying this is the case with Tootsie Pop, but that could go the other way. If you don't have any little piece of doubt in you, you might very well not be ready, and rather just quite ignorant as to what having sex would mean.

Now that never even crossed my mind. I am intrigued now.. hmmm. I knew I was ready though. However, I can see how my way of knowing could have been flawed... iiiiinteresting.... I guess I was lucky then.

[SweetiePie]

I agree with what was already said.... if you have to ask, you're not ready. You shouldnt be questioning if you are ready enough for sex. Its a big decision, not something to be taken lightly. I think that when you know the consequences and accept responsibility for your actions, when you are mentally ready is when its ok to have sex... but thats just my opinion :)

[JohnSmith]

you know your ready for sex when you hear a big *beep* come from your private areas....

actually nobody can tell you when your ready for sex. Thats something you have to decide for youself. Things you should remember though are that once you do it, you can never go back... so make sure it is with someone special, and someone you really care about. Don't just do it to do it.

[mollyelaine]

its good that you are questioning if you are ready or not. That means you want to make sure before you have sex, and that you are not ignorant of the consequences of sex. Make sure you read up on birth controll and stuff.. you will know when you are ready. Also, you might want to question your motives for having sex. Why do you want to have sex with this guy? Is it because you love him, or because he makes you all hot and bothered (or both)?!? Is it because of pressure from him or your friends? Then when you find out what your motives are, ask yourself if, in YOUR mind, these are really good reasons for you to be having sex right now.
:Ps: ---- there is a difference between having doubts and just being nervous!

[surfy_dude]

I'm really wondering how a person can tell if there ready for sex? Is there some sign that comes to people? Or is it just how you feel? Like i've talked about this guy that yes it would be very nice to screw him and if you have a feeling like you knew if you had the chance to screw a certain person you would, then does that mean that your ready? I don't know because now i'm confused, because if i have a strong feeling that i would screw him then wouldn't that mean i'm ready for sex? This doesn't mean that yes i am going 2 screw him but i'm just wondering. Can some1 please answer my questions

Like someone stated before, its good that you are asking about this sort of thing before acting. Well, about your questions, its not a sign, its a feeling that you get inside, and for me, for someone i love heaps and heaps. And its a feeling you get inside, cant describe it. You'll know when you get it though :wink: . However, this guy your talking about , sounds like this is a lust thing just playing in your mind. And as some advice, dont go screwing someone just because you have a 'chance'... that can lead to all sorts of name calling.... such as slut for example. Sounds to me you just want to have sex with this guy cos he's hot. Dont let that be the decider of things. Just think before you act. Sorry if i said anything that might of offended you. Just trying to help. Look after yourself.

[eurydice]

trust me, i know exactly how you're feeling. just a couple weeks ago i was pretty sure i'd be ready for sex with my b/f in the coming months...but now i'm not so sure. i got to thinking about the possible consequences and i realized that maybe i'm not mature enough to handle something so important. my best advice to you would be to hold out until you were completely, absolutely, 100% sure that this is the thing that's right for you. until then, try and hold off. that's what i'm doing, at least...let's hope it works.

[super_chevy2000]

If you love the person and can talk with them about sex without a feeling of embarrassment. If you still can't talk about it in a serious conversation or without cracking up you are definately not ready. Lastly when you are ready to take that step you won't have to ask anyone how you know you're ready. You just know. I hope I helped you out a little bit.