Kissing A Friend

[Codemonkey]

Ok, guys and girls, here's the situation.

I have this friend, we're really good friends but I'm not interested in her as more than a friend. I am wondering if it's possible for us to kiss each other without it meaning more than friends. A kiss between friends, nothing major no tongue action, just a gentle kiss...

Any thoughts?

[Chica724]

Well theres friends with benefits- and it doesnt involve more than just friendship--> and your situation isnt even close to what friends with benefits is (thats if you just kiss her like you said). So, yeah its ok- just make sure she knows this- cuz kissing her could make her think that it IS more that just a friendship- this has happend to me and its not a good feeling.

[Sparklies]

I guess I don't really understand WHY you want to kiss her. A kiss is usually a romantic, I'm-attracted-to-you thing, so why is it that you want to kiss her? I mean, what tempts you to kiss this girl? I am just curious.

[Wolf]

I've a friend whom I occasionally kiss goodbye, but I've always been attracted to her. Why else would you want to kiss someone?

[The Original Taco]

Originally posted by Sparklies@Aug 19 2003, 01:47 AM
I guess I don't really understand WHY you want to kiss her. A kiss is usually a romantic, I'm-attracted-to-you thing, so why is it that you want to kiss her? I mean, what tempts you to kiss this girl? I am just curious.
Do you kiss your mother romantically? No.

A kiss shows affection and love, and well...love comes in 4 different forms, 3 of which a kiss can be divided into:

Eros- Erotic love, one you share with a mate.
Phileo- "Brotherly" love, one where you kiss a friend.
Storge- Parental love and affection, where you kiss your mother or father..

and the odd one out...

Agape- Spiritual love...

[chiukit]

taco's right. kissing doesn't have to be all romance and shit. and of course it's possible to kiss her just as a friend, i've had heaps of friends like that. but i dunno. be careful though. make sure you won't be falling for her and make sure she won't be falling for you either. that just complicates things... unless you fall for each other.


yups.

[Sparklies]

I didn't even think about all that. But, like I said, I was just curious because I have never really had an urge to kiss one of my friends just for the sake of doing so. I find it interesting and was just curious as to what was creating the desire. Of course he's not out for a piece of ass since it's not a friends with benefits situation, and it's not romantic, he just wants a kiss...like I said, it just intrigues me. :)

[viper34j]

It really depends on the type of kiss. Cause, yes, I do kiss my mom, but in a very specific way. So, kissing your "friend" would need to be done in the correct fashion. Even without tounge, it can still be a very romantic kiss. And, if she knows your just friends, but she kisses you anyways, she is hoping you will change your mind.

[ShotBlocker34]

Does she like you?

Why do you want to kiss her?

Is she the one eluding to this?

How big are her boobies? (you may want to cop a feel ;))

[Skankstar]

lol shotblocker...

cood ruin the friendship...
its like drugs.. u try once and it might not seem like anything... so u do it again... and then the next time.. and the next time.. and eventually ur doing it all the time...

thats why i have never touched drugs...

[SupernaturalNympho]

i remember when my friend kissed me......






we've been together almost four years and thats how it started :) back in the day, i had a few guy friends i'd kiss, but it was a 'from the start' type thing. if one of my guy pals kissed me out of nowhere (especially if werent really cuddley and close before) it would weird me out a little......especially if he wasnt ordinarily this type of person :)

[DR. Compy]

Yo, code monkey, 8) u kno ur into her and shes into u....so jus get it over w/ . Stop wondering! and kiss the girl next time u see her, and who knows she might even let u sit on her lap :angel3: ....Be BOLD and daring 4 once in ur programmer life.!!!!!!!!!!!! haha...btw try and get her to lemme meet her sis :agree:

[Codemonkey]

Oh no...not you....go stare at TDs ass a bit more.

[Minimus]

eh mun, if ur gonna kiss ur friends and stuff, make sure your nailing her cheek, and not her neck or something ya know? AND if you do start to kiss your friends, make sure you dont start kissing da boys or anything, cause i know how best friends can get close and shit sometimes... So just stick with the cheek if your gonna

[khshamrock]

Well with every girl I know, when I say hello and say goodbye, I always give them a kiss on either cheek. Just the way I am.

With my guy friends, well I generally don't kiss them. But I have had full-on kisses once or twice with them as a dare.

All in all it doesn't bother me. They still remain my friends and nothing more, and I don't consider myself "gay" in any way because I have kissed a guy. But that's due to my attitude. Given that you are already worrying about whether it's ok to kiss your friend, I would say that it's probably not adviseable.