Give me some answers here bout sex. (please read)

[WildChild69]

:D Ok, I know this really hot guy. And I don't deny that if I had the chance I could most likly end up screwing him. :D (that is probaly a bad thing) It's obviouse that i'm a virgin. So I have a friend who isn't and she told me the 1st time you screw it hurts more then anything. So here's the questions:
1) If I know it's going 2 hurt so bad, then how come I would still want 2 screw that guy?
2) Does it really hurt that bad, or is she over reacting? :roll:
3) Also (this is a strange question) because of me saying that most likly I could end up screwing him, does that just mean i'm really horney or something?
4) Also is it a bad thing that I would think about screwing that guy? :-?

Please give me your honest oppinion.

[Freedom]

my opinion, If you wanna screw him and he's not objecting , then do it. Yeah it probably will hurt but you gotta do it sometime.

You're probably gonna get a lot of people telling you to wait and that your first time should be 'special' - I don't agree. It's up to you and you should do whatever you feel is right.

My first time was just with some 'hot' guy and it wasn't a long term relationship. It hurt a lot but I don't regret it at all. Once you've done it, you'll probably want more though,

[geckosnipp]

:roll: :roll: :roll: <- me again

Personally, your relationship sounds WAY to lusty. I mean "screwing" him? Honestly...i mean there is so much at risk here, STDs...pregenancy. Ive been with my GF for 3 years and were still on first. thats a diff story. How long have you been with him and are you doing it jut for the feeling or is there a small chance you like him? Sorry if i sound rude...

[WildChild69]

I actually like this guy. It isn't just about screwing him. I actually like him 2. :D You have no clue, because I like so many things about this guy. And I have found that every time some1 says that they want there 1st time 2 be special it never is. I think people should just let what ever is going 2 happen, happen and stop trying 2 plan so much. and no i'm not dating this guy. But haven't you seen a person that you just like right away and things like that? So it's not just the thought about screwing him. It's obviouse the way i put it makes it come off like that but that's not how it is.( I'm not obbsessed either, I just like the guy)

[super_chevy2000]

If you're relaxed and the guy is gentle with you it won't hurt as bad. For you it may not even hurt at all because every girl is different but my only recomendation is to be totally relaxed and you may want to use the missionary position for your first time. Just take it slow and communicate.

[WildChild69]

I'll be replying from time 2 time, so.... I just need some peoples oppinions because I'm tiered of my friends oppinions because they don't help me any. So if you've got any other things 2 add besides answers 2 those questions just write them into. :D Thanks 4 any body who answers my questions.

[Tootsie Pop]

Ill agree with above, and therefore wont say anything about "special first times"

When i lost my virginity.. it felt like a lot of pressure at first,... then it did start to hurt in a way in which i cannot desribe. As a matter of fact, it hurt for the first few times. It depends on the girl and whether her hyman is torn. There are a few ways that this can end up broken (horse back riding, tampons, etc..) One friend said that it felt like ever bone in her body was breaking. Another friend felt no pain at all. I guess I fall in between (more so on the pain side). If youre that concerned about pain, go very slow, and use lube if you think you have to.
Sex is natural, and your body (hormones) are made to basically desire sex. If you didnt desire it, then the human race would cease to exist. I wouldnt say you are REALLY horney, because as a teen, most of us are. Therefore, being horney is yet, another natural thing.
Is it right to screw this guy? Its your judgment call. Just make sure if you do that you are very safe.. and hmm.. just protect yourself agaisnt STDs and of COURSE agaisnt pregnancy. If you have any doubts that it isnt safe, dont do it. Its better to be safe than sorry.

[Tessa LeAnn #2]

1) If I know it's going 2 hurt so bad, then how come I would still want 2 screw that guy?
Because you really like them? I dunno. The way I looked at it, I knew I had to do it sometime, and that it would only get better after that. The guy I lost my virginity to I really really liked--you definitly have to be majorly attracted to the guy, for sure. The first time really sucked for me, but each time after that got better. By about the 5th time we did it, I was LOVING it. So, there you go.


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2) Does it really hurt that bad, or is she over reacting?[/quote]

That depends on several factors. Your age, for one. How old are you? For the purposes of this post, I'm going to assume that you're physically mature, like 17+. If you are 12-13 or something, I will say right now that you're in a world of hurt (no pun intended). So bear that in mind. Other than that, your size (height and weight) also matters. Petite girls are usually tighter, wheras larger (and I don't mean fat, just overall larger) girls are bigger down there too, as a rule of thumb. OK, you may be a virgin, but have you used tampons? Played a lot of physical sports? Masturbated with a dildo or by inserting something into yourself? Been fingered by a guy before? If you've done any of those, there's a good chance your hymen may already be broken, or at least partially gone. This will reduce the pain of first penetration.

For me, it hurt, a LOT! I bled all over the sheets too, so that's something to be aware of that can happen. I couldn't cross my legs for like 3 days after I lost it (virginity)--I felt totally ripped up and bruised down there. But, I had a lot of factors working against me--I'm very petite, I'd never used tampons, never been fingered (seriously) or masturbated with anything, and also the guy was not very gentle, to say the least. And he was very experienced, so my first time went on for like 2 hours. Mine was kind of a worse cas scenario, though. I'm not trying to scare you.

I'm 20, and most of my friends are not virgins anymore, and in talking to all of them, most had discomfort-pain their first time, although not as bad as me--I had the most pain. The only one of my friends who didn't have at least a bit of discomfort had used a dildo for years before she had sex. Nuff said.


3) Also (this is a strange question) because of me saying that most likly I could end up screwing him, does that just mean i'm really horney or something?
Yes. It's very natural to want to "screw" a hot guy that you're attracted to from a biological standpoint. We term it horniness. It's very natural and your'e not alone. There has also been research proving that women are much more "horny" for guys with hot bodies when they're ovulating...interesting fact of the day....


4) Also is it a bad thing that I would think about screwing that guy? :-?
If you're very religious, then yes, it's called having impure thoughts or lusting. That is a sin. But, like I said, it's all natural. Depends on your views.
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[WildChild69]

So let me get this straight. If I use tampons then that could help with the less pain part of sex? Also I am really short and my hips are wide not like huge but they kinda are. So could that also help with less pain? I also used 2 ride horses. I have stopped that but I used 2 ride like once a week for like 2 hours. That was like a year ago, So could that do something 2? Really I know that someday u got 2 do it anyway and I'm not really thinking about the pain 2much, but it tends 2 come up in my thoughts. It would just help if it didnt hurt 2 much. My friend said that she was almost crying over the pain and, that seems like it would be alittle akward if u were in the middle of doing it with some1. So I would like there 2 be little of pain as possible. I guess that's wishful thinking. So just tell me would those things I listed above help me any. By the way I'm not actually getting ready 2 do it but because of me just thinking about sex, it makes me wonder.

[SoSweetAngel]

Supposedly, riding horses is supposed to help. I used to ride a lot, and my first time didn't really hurt.
I'm very small framed-so that doesn't make much difference.

It's different for everybody!

[kewlgal99]

what i have learned (and i haven't had sex yet, but still) is that if you're fingered enough, either by him or yourself, your vagina will stretch a LOT. i can tell easily that i could have sex with my bf with no problem at all, because of my vaginas elasticity. experiment with some phallic household objects to figure out what the pain factor might be.

[WildChild69]

Ok, speaking of fingering yourself, is that something that is wrong to do or is it something that just seems like it would be alright to do? I just have alwayz wondered about that. I know if you are really religouse then yes that wouldn't be the best thing to do (or so i've herd) but just in general. Do alot of people do that?

[nicruns]

ok....time for the older person to rant a little.... i have never Screwed any body. i have made love had sex etc.... if you want to screw him than t obviously isnt b/c you are in an emotionally supportive relationship and love eachother...that said........


My first time didnt hurt at alll and i never bled...yeah i rode horses did gymnastics used tampons etc but my sister did much of the same and she hurt like hell and bled everywhere...its really the lucj=k of the draw.

I know that you will do what you want to in the end so i am gonna give you some tips that will hopefully reduce pain:

1. use lube ie ky jully (not vaseline!!!) it will reduce friction
2. ask him to be gentle and go slow
3. makesure you are really turned on and have had sufficient foreplay



good luck and use protection!

[Tootsie Pop]

Ok, speaking of fingering yourself, is that something that is wrong to do or is it something that just seems like it would be alright to do? I just have alwayz wondered about that. I know if you are really religouse then yes that wouldn't be the best thing to do (or so i've herd) but just in general. Do alot of people do that?

Do a lot of people finger themself? Once again, its your call whether you want to or not. If youre THAT worried about all this sex stuff, then sure go right ahead and finger yourself. Some do it, others prefer not to.

And by the way, since I didnt say it before. After my first time I 'spotted' I didnt gush blood or anything. I dont think I ever heard of anyone that uncontrolably bled. I dont think the bleeding should be all that bad.

[Deidre]

First off... if "screw" is the term you're going to use, is this really a guy you want to lose your virginity to? You know this guy... does that mean you're not dating him? You say you would probably "screw" him if you had the chance... will there be a chance or why would you get that chance?

1) If I know it's going 2 hurt so bad, then how come I would still want 2 screw that guy?
You tell me. Is he worth the pain... not to mention all the emotional things that comes along.

2) Does it really hurt that bad, or is she over reacting?
Well, my boyfriend and I haven't had sex, but at times when he's fingered me the hymen has stretched and bled very little (with the exception of one time, when we were standing up -I guess the angle added to the pressure), and it bled a whole lot. I've never felt a thing, but I was "sore" afterwards (it's hard to explain since it isn't a tissue with a whole lot of 'feeling' in it).

3) Also (this is a strange question) because of me saying that most likly I could end up screwing him, does that just mean i'm really horney or something?
I would say I am likely to end up having sex with my boyfriend. Am I horny? Yes. Is this the reason? No. I'm still wondering about the circumstances around all this.

4) Also is it a bad thing that I would think about screwing that guy?
Yes, it's a sin. Bah. No, it's perfectly normal, or so they say. I've never really fantasised about anyone I wasn't dating. Since I still don't know the circumstances around it, I won't judge.[/i]

[kuju]

1) If I know it's going 2 hurt so bad, then how come I would still want 2 screw that guy? you want to screw him for lust. because your body is saying "GIVE ME SEX NOW!" but remember, your head and heart are ALWAYS smarter than your body... (except when it comes to chocolate consumption)

2) Does it really hurt that bad, or is she over reacting? It didn't hurt TOO much for me, but there was an ache, and I walked like a cowboy for about two hours after my first few times. And there was a bit of blood.

3) Also (this is a strange question) because of me saying that most likly I could end up screwing him, does that just mean i'm really horney or something? Yes, it means you're really horny, go masturbate

4) Also is it a bad thing that I would think about screwing that guy? No. it's NOT a bad thing that you think this, because damn, I see a hot guy walking down the bloody STREET and I think about screwing him. doesn't mean I'm going to jsut go jump on the wagon. Now there's a guy I'm seriously interested in, and I think about fucking HIM all the time too, but it doesn't mean that if he ever opens his fucking eyes and asks me out that I'll sleep with HIM the first night either.