Question about love: For Everyone!!

[ckgirl]

Well, I wasn't sure what forum to put this in, but flirting seems ok, so I guess I will ask anyway.

Anyway, my question is:
What about a person would make YOU personally fall madly in love with them??? It could be anything. Something they could do, say, or just the way they are, etc. So what would make you fall for someone???

[LnknPrkGrl]

It depends, I guess. The closest thing to love I've experienced was with this guy last year. I hated him at first...he always had something to say and tried to prove me wrong. Around that time, I realized how intelligent he was (for some reason, the guys at my school are kinda dense) and I kept finding little things about him that made me like him more. His sweetness, his looks...what made me really fall for him was the fact that he wasn't afraid to speak up for what the believed in. *That* was why we were constantly arguing, but the mutual respect was always there. He awoke something in me...I dunno, I really enjoyed our rows and afterward, I would feel happy. I know this doesn't make sense, because it never made sense to me:) I think I went off topic again, but knowing a guy that stands up for his beliefs and is a gentleman will make me fall...but what the hell do I know??? :lol: :roll: :D

[chiukit]

It's not just one thing. It's an entire person... the whole person. You accept that person's gifts and flaws, the good and the bad. And as for me, I don't know... different "combinations" have different effects on me. Sometimes it's a flame that burns fast, and dies fast... other times it's just that annoying little thing in your mind that you can't get rid of. But hopefully, this new love I've found... will change everything.

[Extra_Texture]

It's not just one thing. It's an entire person... the whole person. You accept that person's gifts and flaws, the good and the bad. And as for me, I don't know... different "combinations" have different effects on me. Sometimes it's a flame that burns fast, and dies fast... other times it's just that annoying little thing in your mind that you can't get rid of. But hopefully, this new love I've found... will change everything.

Agreed!It isnt one thing that counts, but the whole.
Falling in love is different than loving someone. Love takes time,acceptance, comprehension and deep feelings to take place.

There is no magic spell you can use to make another person fall for you.You can only wish that the feeling is mutual.Thats what makes all love matters so painfull and hard, but then again, so wonderfull when they do happen..!

[ckgirl]

Well, I wasn't just talking about one thing specifically...I just meant what "THINGS" would make you fall for someone?? :wink:

[Tootsie Pop]

I started falling for a boy when he "coincidentally" showed up just as I got out of work, and took me to his favorite place. he wouldnt tell me where we were going. We hiked up this hill in the woods, and we got there just as the sun was setting. It was overlooking the river and the entire forest. The sky was all pink for the setting sun, and was beautiful. We then just talked about random things and deep thoughts. I found out so much about him... and the fact that he went out of his way to take me there impressed me a lot. I am still going out with that boy today. :)

[Ms.Monroe]

I like people who aren't afraid to speak their minds and who are mentally rebellious. Guys who I can have long conversations on really deep things like evolution and reperations and aliens :lol: People who can only talk about their clothes and how they look are really vein and unbecoming. People who don't give a u-kno-wut about what people think about them are really cool too. You only live once, why should you conform youself to these stupid standards about what you're *supposed* to wear or how you're *supposed* to act. :-?

[Six Black Roses]

I know it when I see it.

[chiukit]

I think I've gotta agree with the above poster.


I mean, for most of us, we don't even know what we really want. We say what we want in our dream partners, but once we get into realities, our hearts don't always agree with our minds. We say we like certain characteristics of a person... or that someone must have that certain gift or charm. But when you fall in love, even when that person doesn't have what you look for, it doesn't matter. You've fallen in love anyway.

Maybe sometimes, there are certains musts one has to adhere to. For example, religion or beliefs. I have many strong Christian friends who have turned down their crushes (when their crushes asked them out). Why? Because their crushes weren't Christian. To me, that's ridiculous. But to them... it's what they stand by. *I think I'm going off-track*

I just think it's stupid to make your own rules... what your dream person must have, or mustn't have... and other things of that sort. Because, hey, as I have experienced it... it all won't matter once you fall in love.





[i]It's stupid how we set qualifications for the right person to love, while at the back of our minds we know that the one will always be an exception...

[wowzers]

uh. nothing he could say or do would make me fall in love w/ him unless i was already in love w/ a thousand things about him [but not actually in love w him]

[zoe]

I dont think there's something that a guy could do to immediately make me fall in love with them.. they have to work for it.

[AnGeL_bAbE]

Yeah I agree that it's a whole bunch of things about a person that make them attractive...personality, intelligence, looks: they're all part of the package...But i don't think a person with a bad personality could ever make me fall for them! Personality ideals: guys that are sweet, not conforming, & full of humour....

Still its not like a criteria I follow or anything...they're just things that seem appealing in guys for me at the moment...i agree that you don't neccessarily assess a guy based on preconceived "ideal" traits. I think its just something unique about the guy that catches your attention, something that you may or may not even be looking for. Otherwise the guy seems plain or even like a jerk at first, but he begins to grow on you!

[Barefoot Matt]

Chiu has captured my ideology perfectly.

[indigold]

ditto here!

[e LIZ abeth]

I know it when I see it.

so true. the phrase 'love at first sight' seems so poetic and dreamy and fake...untill you actually experience it. its the greatest feeling you could ever have, i cant even describe it :mrgreen: . so i guess my answer is that the person is what you fall in love with, and you will know love-it just hits you. (im talking about romantic love, not like friendship love) 8)

[lana]

It's not just one thing. It's an entire person... the whole person. You accept that person's gifts and flaws, the good and the bad. And as for me, I don't know... different "combinations" have different effects on me. Sometimes it's a flame that burns fast, and dies fast... other times it's just that annoying little thing in your mind that you can't get rid of. But hopefully, this new love I've found... will change everything.

Yes, I have to agree. You can't just pick out one thing about a person and just say: Yeah... I am in love with this person because he/she is intelligent. There are so much more to a person. They have MANY qualities that you must oversee if you were to fall in love. You have to accept everything about that person...

Maybe sometimes, there are certains musts one has to adhere to. For example, religion or beliefs. I have many strong Christian friends who have turned down their crushes (when their crushes asked them out). Why? Because their crushes weren't Christian. To me, that's ridiculous. But to them... it's what they stand by. *I think I'm going off-track* [quote]

but you know honey... that is yes, personal preference... it's a whole slew of qualities that goes along with religion that makes you who you are... certain beliefs in Christianity that may differ from other religions...

For example... I may not be religious... but I still want someone who has a like-mind as mine... who has a similar views, values in life, beliefs, etc... It's a comfort to know a person like you. Most likely, people fall in love with people who are like them.

[lana]

oops... the quote above... this part is what I said:

but you know honey... that is yes, personal preference... it's a whole slew of qualities that goes along with religion that makes you who you are... certain beliefs in Christianity that may differ from other religions...

For example... I may not be religious... but I still want someone who has a like-mind as mine... who has a similar views, values in life, beliefs, etc... It's a comfort to know a person like you. Most likely, people fall in love with people who are like them.

[Tootsie Pop]

Most likely, people fall in love with people who are like them.

Actually, opposites attract. If you were the same, what would you talk about? You would already know everything because you 2 are alike, and therefore your conversations would most likely become short. If you are different, then you have so much more to learn and discover. I would think that something special can come out of 2 different people.

[Wrightman84]

Actually, opposites attract. If you were the same, what would you talk about? You would already know everything because you 2 are alike, and therefore your conversations would most likely become short. If you are different, then you have so much more to learn and discover. I would think that something special can come out of 2 different people.
i agree with that... although my ex thought that we needed to have a lot of stuff in common to work... i disagreed

[Dreamer]

So what would make you fall for someone???


For me it can happen after a glance, a smile or something about the way they say something to me. I like vulnerability in a man too.

Looks and dress sense aren't important to me as long as they're clean, older than me and taller or the same height as me.

Most likely, people fall in love with people who are like them.

I'm attracted to men who are like me, but everyone is different - no matter how alike you are, there will always be differences/hidden depths to discover about each other.

It's true, opposites attract, but what I usually notice is that people who were "opposites" to begin with usually find common ground and become alike over time, or just fizzle out.

[Deidre]

Actually, opposites attract. If you were the same, what would you talk about? You would already know everything because you 2 are alike, and therefore your conversations would most likely become short. If you are different, then you have so much more to learn and discover. I would think that something special can come out of 2 different people.
I think that could be left up for discussion. Sure, opposites attract (or as I'd rather put it; fascinate or irritate... people opposite to you whom you fall in love with fascinate you...). I don't think that's true for everyone, though.

My ex and I are very much alike in most aspects (although I'm more serious, whereas he rarely is)... that was, and still is, a comfort and lay the foundation of a good friendship of pure and equal conditions. Sure, it didn't work out in the end because we were just that, good friends, but I don't think that has to be the necessary outcome.

My boyfriend and I are in many aspects different... in others we're very identical, but mostly not. We're not entirely opposites either... just... different. It's not the conflict making way. It just "is".

[stace]

I know it when I see it.

so true. the phrase 'love at first sight' seems so poetic and dreamy and fake...untill you actually experience it. its the greatest feeling you could ever have, i cant even describe it :mrgreen: . so i guess my answer is that the person is what you fall in love with, and you will know love-it just hits you. (im talking about romantic love, not like friendship love) 8)

yeah i'm a firm believer in love @ first site i've xperienced it, heck i'm still in it! love is different to everybody but the general feelings are all the same!