Teen section?

[SheWantsToGoFast]

I'm not sure if this is the type of thing you'd want, but a large amount of teens have relationship problems aswell. I think that a teen section would perhaps be good? I think that the rest of the forum can seem a bit imposing to teens, and that teen relationship problems are often different to adult ones, and can be better helped by other teens.

Just an idea :)

[foh4k]

And a good one.

For I just responded on your other post perhaps a little critical for a tender teen. But really have a little more faith in yourself. You're falling into a place where your boyfriend is going to be everything to you and you will end up emotionally dependent on him.

Your 16 at 23 your going to be a wreck. Slow down girl.

[Kuky]

Fun fact: Years ago, when this forum first started up, the main demographic really was teens. Then, as the major posters got older, as did the themes, and therefore the age base of newer folks who registered. Oh man, 40 years from now, there's gonna be like a "denture care" forum. :lol:

Having such a teen section would likely be wasteful. The "adults" would still reply in there anyway... and if we limit it to teen replies somehow... well, that's not too useful. Sure, they might be able to better relate to your situation, but the lack of experience means they're blinded to the bigger picture the same way the person asking the question is.

I think the real problem you're getting at (and it's a legit one) is that sometimes, people can seem pretty harsh. There's only so many times you can say the same thing ("No, you should NOT be trying to get your ex back!!!") before it gets repetitive, so those replies are getting shorter, and that makes them seem harsher. Too many people are asking the same question, and the stickies are being ignored.

Maybe as part of registration/rules, we should have links, like "If you want your ex back, read <link to sticky> first before posting" or somesuch. I'm not sure hehe.

I also think a lot of the harsher replies have some ego attached to them. It's almost as if they were yelling at themselves, in a way. ;)

[Deidre]

In general, I think it's a pretty good idea but we do not have a big enough teen group to really shut off part of the forum for only teens in a "no adults allowed" kind of way, and if it isn't locked down like that teens will still ask for advice on adult fora ("because my relationship is more serious than that teen stuff") and adults will still weigh in on the teen side of things.

Though on a personal note, I don't know why you in particular would want a teen section...? If you're going to be asking about things relating to your impending marriage, your desire to have children, etc., wouldn't it make more sense to get advice from people who are married, have dealt with the question of children, etc., over someone in Jr. High who still wants to know if people will think she's a slut if she kisses guys on the first date or if guys like holding hands (to name a few things that used to be common topics on this forum)?

Maybe as part of registration/rules, we should have links, like "If you want your ex back, read <link to sticky> first before posting" or somesuch. I'm not sure hehe.
Sadly, no one reads the rules anyway... as evidenced by how often people get angry when we don't meet their demands concerning things that are clearly outlined on registration. :glare:

[foh4k]

I also think a lot of the harsher replies have some ego attached to them. It's almost as if they were yelling at themselves, in a way. ;)

I don't know if this was directed at me or not but there is some truth to it.

At 16 I should have moved out of the house and paid my own way while I still knew everything.

However I didn't have someone to whack me upside the head and tell me what a fool I am being or anything like that. So my self destructive ways continued until I had no choice but to go into the military the only sector of life that would take me anymore.

Best move I ever made.

As Diedre says I think advice peppered with adults is good because they have lived through life experiences and can advise appropriately. I wish that I would have had someone to whack me upside the head. And sometimes advice can be exactly that. And sometimes thats exactly what is needed.

[English_Rose]

Fun fact: Years ago, when this forum first started up, the main demographic really was teens. Then, as the major posters got older, as did the themes, and therefore the age base of newer folks who registered. Oh man, 40 years from now, there's gonna be like a "denture care" forum. :lol:


Awww, how cute we can all get old together

[Kuky]

foh - not you specifically, just in general. Hell, I know I've done it in the past. :p

[SheWantsToGoFast]

Though on a personal note, I don't know why you in particular would want a teen section...? If you're going to be asking about things relating to your impending marriage, your desire to have children, etc., wouldn't it make more sense to get advice from people who are married, have dealt with the question of children, etc., over someone in Jr. High who still wants to know if people will think she's a slut if she kisses guys on the first date or if guys like holding hands (to name a few things that used to be common topics on this forum)?

I can see your point. I wasn't really thinking about it on a personal level, but yeah I see what you mean.

[yellow.rose]

I think the idea has merit once we get enough teen posters. Not a teen forum that is closed off to adults, that seems rather silly. Rather, that having a teen forum can help put the poster that is responding into the right frame of mind. Be that "less harsh" or simply approaching the post in a different way because you are talking to someone with little to no life experience.