Welshie
March 29th, 2011, 03:08 PM
Seeing as this show is based on the high's and lows of relationships of younger professionals, I just wondered how many people here watch it? For me, the show holds a special place in me which may sound cheesy but here's why.
I dont watch TV because I have no interest in my life being ruled by a box in my living room. So anyway I moved to the city I live in in 2007 with a bit of a low self esteem after being forced out of my previous job in London (a place I didnt like) and I met a guy who is now one of my best friends. He introduced me to it and I loved it from the outset, especially the humour. One thing I loved was a womanising character name Barney. Not for his womanising skills but more his confidence and also the fact that he loved wearing suits and classy clothes (Something I like doing but was slowly being beaten out of me because I was told it looked like I was making too much effort). Once I saw this I started wearing the clothes I liked and got much more confident.
Anyway fast forward to late 2009. I liked a girl but upon coming back from a (long) holiday in NZ I saw an episode that was about being on a girls hook, and I realised that I was in that exact situation so bucked up and walked away, something she really didnt like!
I then got closer with a girl I had known for a while and we began dating (henceforth known as the ex). Enough is known about the subsequent events by regulars here to permint brevity in this account, but she basically dumped me over a text message in a very cruel and selfish way after being asked out by a mutual friend whom she liked.
Anyway, during the subsequent months I watched lots and lots of HIMYM, especially when I couldnt sleep. In season 4 the main character has his fiance leave him at the alter and a few episodes after and later in the season are dedicated to how he deals with it and moved on. I watched these so many times because of some of the poignant lines and situations in the episodes, and some were of great comfort to me in understanding the process of a breakup and looking at the positive reasons for why these sometimes seemingly random events happen.
I went on a date last week, my first ever since the breakup and by a massive twist of irony I saw my ex with her new boyfriend walk past. Obviously I felt a little gulp when I saw her but it was brief and I looked away back to my date. However at that moment, as wierd as it sounds, I could see that she was happy with him and meant to be with him, regardless of how incompatible they seemed to be when I was trying to put logic as to why she left me for someone not half. the person I am (By other peoples admission, not mine).
The greatest line in those episodes (S04E06) climaxes with the man planning his encounter/standoff with his ex fiance and in his head he has this big speech planned to shoot her down about how she picked the wrong guy and that she will regret it but there is nothing she can do now apart from start her crappy little life with her new guy which wouldn't be half has happy as the life she could have had with him. However, going back to my seeing my ex walk by the other week his final words in this episode are:
So I got out of the cab ready to explode and say all that. But then, it just all went away. From that moment I wasn't angry anymore but I could see Stella was meant to be with Tony.
Kids, you may think your only choices are to swallow your anger or throw it in someones face, but there is a third option. You can just let it go, only then is it really gone and you can move forward. And that was the perfect ending to a perfect love story, it just wasn't mine.
Mine was still out there, waiting for me.
In the months of grieving I had, I cried so much at this because I could relate to it and I was at the stage where I genuinely did want to move on and this synopsis helped me feel better instantly by just letting it go, realising that she did not deserve any space in my life or head. I watched this episode tonight for the first time in 4 months and actually enjoyed the it and didnt feel any sadness about its relevance to my past. Something that pleased me immensely as its a testement to my growth and development.
Thanks for reading my ramblings, and of course many thanks to all you who have seen me reach this stage :)
I dont watch TV because I have no interest in my life being ruled by a box in my living room. So anyway I moved to the city I live in in 2007 with a bit of a low self esteem after being forced out of my previous job in London (a place I didnt like) and I met a guy who is now one of my best friends. He introduced me to it and I loved it from the outset, especially the humour. One thing I loved was a womanising character name Barney. Not for his womanising skills but more his confidence and also the fact that he loved wearing suits and classy clothes (Something I like doing but was slowly being beaten out of me because I was told it looked like I was making too much effort). Once I saw this I started wearing the clothes I liked and got much more confident.
Anyway fast forward to late 2009. I liked a girl but upon coming back from a (long) holiday in NZ I saw an episode that was about being on a girls hook, and I realised that I was in that exact situation so bucked up and walked away, something she really didnt like!
I then got closer with a girl I had known for a while and we began dating (henceforth known as the ex). Enough is known about the subsequent events by regulars here to permint brevity in this account, but she basically dumped me over a text message in a very cruel and selfish way after being asked out by a mutual friend whom she liked.
Anyway, during the subsequent months I watched lots and lots of HIMYM, especially when I couldnt sleep. In season 4 the main character has his fiance leave him at the alter and a few episodes after and later in the season are dedicated to how he deals with it and moved on. I watched these so many times because of some of the poignant lines and situations in the episodes, and some were of great comfort to me in understanding the process of a breakup and looking at the positive reasons for why these sometimes seemingly random events happen.
I went on a date last week, my first ever since the breakup and by a massive twist of irony I saw my ex with her new boyfriend walk past. Obviously I felt a little gulp when I saw her but it was brief and I looked away back to my date. However at that moment, as wierd as it sounds, I could see that she was happy with him and meant to be with him, regardless of how incompatible they seemed to be when I was trying to put logic as to why she left me for someone not half. the person I am (By other peoples admission, not mine).
The greatest line in those episodes (S04E06) climaxes with the man planning his encounter/standoff with his ex fiance and in his head he has this big speech planned to shoot her down about how she picked the wrong guy and that she will regret it but there is nothing she can do now apart from start her crappy little life with her new guy which wouldn't be half has happy as the life she could have had with him. However, going back to my seeing my ex walk by the other week his final words in this episode are:
So I got out of the cab ready to explode and say all that. But then, it just all went away. From that moment I wasn't angry anymore but I could see Stella was meant to be with Tony.
Kids, you may think your only choices are to swallow your anger or throw it in someones face, but there is a third option. You can just let it go, only then is it really gone and you can move forward. And that was the perfect ending to a perfect love story, it just wasn't mine.
Mine was still out there, waiting for me.
In the months of grieving I had, I cried so much at this because I could relate to it and I was at the stage where I genuinely did want to move on and this synopsis helped me feel better instantly by just letting it go, realising that she did not deserve any space in my life or head. I watched this episode tonight for the first time in 4 months and actually enjoyed the it and didnt feel any sadness about its relevance to my past. Something that pleased me immensely as its a testement to my growth and development.
Thanks for reading my ramblings, and of course many thanks to all you who have seen me reach this stage :)