Got 2 girls who like me and I wanna pursue one without hurting the other

[Musixmylife]

Ok so ill make this as brief as possible, i just got out of a long term relationship a couple months ago and was pretty upset about it. Soon after, i met this girl who i could tell really liked me, it was pretty obvious, so anyway we end up sleeping together i think it was 2 times and to be honest it wasnt that great at all, kinda boring as mean as that sounds but being in the position i was in and being all depressed i enjoyed the company of this female who seemed to be a little obsessive. Now a few weeks have passed and some girls come over to my house and at one point this girl who is absolutely gorgeous manages who get a little alone time with me and before i know it her tongue is halfway down my throat. I really like this girl she is my type without a doubt and i like her so much that i havent done anything but make out with her even tho we have slept in the same bed a couple times. She's pretty shy so i dont get many responses from her on my phone that only gets texts but she has already told me she had a crush on me for about a month so i assume thats why she doesnt respond sometimes but it does naturally make me question things, im optimistic about it tho. Now the question is how the fuck do i tell the girl that is a little too much about me that i dont want a relationship or even any hook ups because i really like the shy girl without saying that i like this girl and without hurting the girls feelings? I need advice please!! this girl is coming to visit me this weekend and ill most likely be hanging out with the shy girl

[Romance and More]

Well, people tend to get emotionally attached when sex is involved. Just as you will probably get emotionally attached to this other chick when you get to sleep with her. Chances are, what you do to the first girl will most likely come back to you from the second one. Karma is a bitch dog. But such is life. Why do I say that? umm... because shy girls don’t stick their tongue down guys throats so quickly.... And they don’t tend to sleep in the same bed with a guy so quickly. Typically the non sexual bed cuddlers are the real players, they are just playing the part that will get you the hottest for them... I hear the song of the siren my friend... She is luring you to the rocks. But hey, isn’t life great, enjoy it....

Tell the first one that you just aren’t into any relationships right now. Be up front with her, and don’t beat around the bush. Maybe the fates will be nicer to you when it is your turn. Who knows, maybe the first one will be ok with that, and you can have both of them... But just be honest... Chicks dig that, and you will probably be surprised as to the reaction, unless you have been hinting at other outcomes already, then it may not be nice, but it is the only real way to handle this…

[OvershareDude]

You just need to be upfront with the one you don't see yourself in a relationship with. Don't string her along.

[Musixmylife]

Why would you assume that im being played just because I didnt have sex with her? I had her in the palm of my hand I could have done whatever I wanted in some sense but I chose not to simply because i want her to understand that as great as sex is it is not something that controls me and I dont mind waiting and let it rather happen as oppose to being like "wow, this girl really likes me! So that means i can fuck her right now!" and i believe that will be greatly respected. Im not exactly sure what you mean by 'Chances are, what you do to the first girl will most likely come back to you from the second one.' And I can tell she is shy thru simple conversation, she could easily just feel comfortable around me to intiate a kiss. Staying positive is key with any aspect of life and in my opinion gives me the advantage here

[Romance and More]

Never said you were being played... Can you not see analogies? can you not see the references to mythology? How old are you???

Look up karma on the Internet. that will explain the chances are message.

As for the rest of the message, It will make sense soon enough.

[Musixmylife]

i just had a hard time following your post i wasnt exactly sure where you were comin from, im sorry if i misinterpreted it (the sirens used to eat the sailors they would lure or some crazy shit like that haha). Im very much aware of karma and im a firm believer of it that is why i am so optimistic about this situation and other simple everyday situations, because i dont do anything to intentially hurt anyone or do anything to better myself by ultimately making one suffer... ever. My life was extremely depressing as a child and it felt like whatever the worse case scenario was it was happening to me. A few years ago i could see myself transitioning out of that stage of my life and now I feel like even amongst the inevitable ups and downs, im really happy :) something that i feel i gained through events in my life and how i reacted to them positively

[suzann robins]

I like your positive attitude and hope you will learn that talking before kissing is a big key to creating the kind of relationships that will last a while. Get to know the other person by asking what kind of commitment are they looking for? What do they expect as they get to know you? -- do they just want to hook up, do you? Or are you looking for some one that you can spend time with besides kissing and sleeping?

[phasesofthemoon]

Ok so ill make this as brief as possible, i just got out of a long term relationship a couple months ago and was pretty upset about it. Soon after, i met this girl who i could tell really liked me, it was pretty obvious, so anyway we end up sleeping together i think it was 2 times and to be honest it wasnt that great at all, kinda boring as mean as that sounds but being in the position i was in and being all depressed i enjoyed the company of this female who seemed to be a little obsessive. How nice of you to use her as a warm wet place to masturbate while you were depressed.

Now a few weeks have passed and some girls come over to my house and at one point this girl who is absolutely gorgeous manages who get a little alone time with me and before i know it her tongue is halfway down my throat. Oh, this one is gonna break your heart.
I really like this girl she is my type without a doubt and i like her so much that i havent done anything but make out with her even tho we have slept in the same bed a couple times. A great recipe to end up her cuddle bitch. You should stay away from sleeping with someone whether you're fucking them or not, until you've established what your relationship is and in what dynamic your relationship will be.

She's pretty shy so i dont get many responses from her on my phone that only gets texts but she has already told me she had a crush on me for about a month so i assume thats why she doesnt respond Seems odd that someone who has had a crush on someone would avoid responding to said crush, no matter how shy they are. I think her words don't match her actions.

sometimes but it does naturally make me question things, im optimistic about it tho. Being optimistic is one thing, don't fool yourself for too long though if things don't improve.

Now the question is how the fuck do i tell the girl that is a little too much about me that i dont want a relationship or even any hook ups because i really like the shy girl without saying that i like this girl and without hurting the girls feelings? Well, no matter what you say she'll likely be somewhat hurt and bruised of ego, however you owe her nothing but your honesty. Be kind, be empathetic. get it done.

I need advice please!! this girl is coming to visit me this weekend and ill most likely be hanging out with the shy girl "Most likely" be hanging out with her? Don't put all your eggs in one basket just yet. I see, thus far nothing related here that this girl likes you as much as you seem to like her. Ya see.. Karma. The same thing is happening to you (by all accounts) as what happened to the girl you fucked because you were depressed and used her to make yourself feel better.

I hope it works out for you with the girl you like.. I do suggest you dial it back a bit though. At least until her actions show you that she's into you as much as the girl you don't like was anyway.

Good luck.

[operpido]

She kissed you and said she had a crush on you. I feel like that's as good of a sign as any to start hanging out regularly. Now, I'm not fatalistic so I don't think that she's gunna be dead-set on breaking your heart. Just be genuine, upfront about whatever your intentions are, and honest - and don't use her like the last girl. It's a horrible thing to do, so hopefully that was just a one time mistake. So, ask her if she wants to hang out.

If it works out, it works out; if it doesn't then it doesn't, but at least you gave it your best shot, right?