Interesting situation

[Lacrosse30]

So a week ago I asked out the girl I like. After asking what she was doing this weekend I asked if she wanted to go the the movies. Initially she said sure and then I said that I wasn't sure what was in theaters but I would find out. She said ok text me later and we went in different directions.
Later that day after I had texted her and she didn't answer (probably because she was at work not ignoring me) I received this text:
Look I am really sorry but I just got out of a really bad relationship and I thought that this would be best for me but I just don't know. So maybe some other time would be best?
We have two classes together in school so we see each other a lot and I've tried to not make things awkward.
So what do you think of this? Is it possible that the story was made up as an excuse? What should I do in the long run to try and get her back?
Also prom is coming up in a few months and I would like to go with her. Is it a good idea to try and go just as friends if she doesn't have a different date and were not going out by then?

[OvershareDude]

So a week ago I asked out the girl I like. After asking what she was doing this weekend I asked if she wanted to go the the movies. Initially she said sure and then I said that I wasn't sure what was in theaters but I would find out. She said ok text me later and we went in different directions.
Later that day after I had texted her and she didn't answer (probably because she was at work not ignoring me) I received this text:
Look I am really sorry but I just got out of a really bad relationship and I thought that this would be best for me but I just don't know. So maybe some other time would be best?
We have two classes together in school so we see each other a lot and I've tried to not make things awkward.
So what do you think of this? Is it possible that the story was made up as an excuse? What should I do in the long run to try and get her back?
Also prom is coming up in a few months and I would like to go with her. Is it a good idea to try and go just as friends if she doesn't have a different date and were not going out by then?

You want a relationship with this girl and you're already displaying trust issues?
Of course you should trust her, maybe approach the issue like "Hey, thats cool, I understand, but maybe we could go to the prom together later this year, even if it's just as friends, you're fun to be around".

Maybe it is an excuse, but it's what she's comfortable giving you. Sure, if it's a lie, thats not great either, but its not like she's lying to Judge Judy or something.

[Lacrosse30]

This is what I replied to her after that text:
Yea yea that's fine. I definitely don't want to rush you into anything you don't want to do. But look if you ever need someone just to talk to I'm always here.

I believed her when she said it but I know her and a few of her friends pretty well and didn't hear anything about the bad relationship and that's why I wondered if it could be an excuse. It's not a trust issue I'm just trying to figure out if I still have a chance.

[OvershareDude]

You don't if you keep harassing her about it.

Bide your time until the time is right, don't even think about it for at least 6 weeks.

[Lacrosse30]

I'm smart enough not to harass her about it. We haven't even talked about it. I know to let it play out and maybe she'll come around. I just want to know if there's anything else I can do.

[OvershareDude]

IMO no.

You can't force someone to like you.

[Lacrosse30]

True but if she does like me and I don't do anything I miss my opportunity.

[OvershareDude]

If she does like you in that way now she would have given you a shot.

You're going to hold on to a false hope and read into her actions as flirting etc if you hold onto this.
You'll read into every action as a positive because you'll want to see her as being interested in you.

She's not. Not saying she never will... but she's not now.

[Lacrosse30]

Ok thanks. I'm not a huge fan of things I can't do anything about but I guess here the best thing I can do is nothing.

[OvershareDude]

Don't block her out of your life completely, but don't be too close either, nothing worse than falling into that friend zone.

Good luck

[yolanda2033]

it is a good chance for you since she had just gone out of a bad relationship.she felt sad and need comfort .so you can ask her out as a friend ,then try to be lovers