I really thought he liked me...but when I told him how I felt he didnt say much?

[emixemergency]

Ive had a crush on a guy named Jake for a couple weeks. I honestly thought he liked me. He was giving me little hints, sometimes it seemed like he was flirting with me, and just acted like he had feelings for me. Anyway, we were talking on facebook today and he asked if anyone from my school had feelings for him. I didn't say much, but he asked me especially, so I told him that I liked him, and I was sorry if it made things awkward between us. I honestly thought he was gonna say that he liked me as well, but he didn't say much. He said that I shouldent worry because things wouldent be awkward, but thats it. He didnt say if he actually liked me or not, though.

Im kinda hoping to get a guys opinion on this, but im open to any feedback. But do you think that he might still like me, or no? I just dont want to get my hopes up like I did at first. Im hurt, but at the same time I keep thinking 'well maybe he does like me, because he never actually said no?' yet at the same time, again, I dont want to get my hopes up. What do you guys think?

[OvershareDude]

Ive had a crush on a guy named Jake for a couple weeks. I honestly thought he liked me. He was giving me little hints, sometimes it seemed like he was flirting with me, and just acted like he had feelings for me. Anyway, we were talking on facebook today and he asked if anyone from my school had feelings for him. I didn't say much, but he asked me especially, so I told him that I liked him, and I was sorry if it made things awkward between us. I honestly thought he was gonna say that he liked me as well, but he didn't say much. He said that I shouldent worry because things wouldent be awkward, but thats it. He didnt say if he actually liked me or not, though.

Im kinda hoping to get a guys opinion on this, but im open to any feedback. But do you think that he might still like me, or no? I just dont want to get my hopes up like I did at first. Im hurt, but at the same time I keep thinking 'well maybe he does like me, because he never actually said no?' yet at the same time, again, I dont want to get my hopes up. What do you guys think?


You've only liked him for a couple of weeks.

It's possible he was just getting flirty because he was getting to know you, not because he was developing feelings for you.
The feelings may come, but I don't think they're there at the moment, even though he didn't say he didn't like you.

[phasesofthemoon]

I think the key here is to not let your bravery in telling him it was you that liked him, change the dynamic of your interaction with one another up to the point of "confession." Just be who you were prior to telling him and don't feel at all awkward. Continue how you were with him and let him process the info. Perhaps he had no clue and is now just taking the time to think about things.

You do need to dial back your emotions a little and let him take some of the lead now. Be friendly still (if he is also friendly to you) be open to him (if he is being open to you) dial it back a bit if he is dialing it back .. you get my drift.

Let him lead now without regret or introversion. Don't let any expectations ruin the existing dynamic you had before you confessed. Do you understand what I'm saying?

[Axiom]

Sounds like something I'd do. I never show my cards that early. If a girl tells me flat out that she likes me, great, and then I'll either leave it at that or just say something ambiguous in response.

Why? Because then she'd do exactly what you're doing, OP. She'd think about me and wonder if I like her or not. But of course this doesn't go on forever. I'll move things forward and it should become clear to her that I'm interested. But early on I like to keep it exciting by not outright expressing my feelings so soon. It makes her want me even more.

So like phases said, don't get too emotionally invested in this. Just take it in stride and see what he does next.

edit: Fuckin' hell. I knew your user name sounded familiar. Are all your threads about this same guy? Damn girl go out and find some other guys to talk to. The only reason you have so much anxiety over this one guy (ONE GUY, out of thousands that you could meet, out of the billions in the world) is because he's the only guy in your life right now. If you had options, and knew that there were always more out there, you wouldn't care so much about what this one guy was thinking or feeling.