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xeon
January 26th, 2011, 05:39 AM
Hi,

I met a girl during a work meeting, but the problem is that she's from Germany and I'm from Spain.

During these 2 days of meeting, I and her work group took some leisure time in bars at night. I've noticed that she was looking at me very often all time, and when I look back she stop looking at me. She also was, apparently nervous, because she was constantly rubbing her finger. I deduce that it was because of me (I'm sorry for my lack of modesty) because she remained always quiet during the meetings. So there wasn't any obvious reason to be like that.

I started to talk to her normally and I've tried to take her from the work group, but she avoid it all time. So, we just had a normal conversation always in the group. During our conversation I found out that she will only be in Spain during 3 days. So, my time to meet her more deeply and calmly was very few. I started to have a conversation with her, but I was also a little nervous. I invited her to dinner with me once, just the 2, but she didn't do it. I knew that it was a bold gesture, but, as I said, the time was scarce (only 3 days).

During the night she had really good opportunities to be with me alone, but she didn't take them. I also tried to be alone with her, but she didn't leave the group.

During all time she was constantly looking at me, but she didn't do nothing. So I deduce that she have a boyfriend in Germany.

Now she return back to her home country, and I didn't got her email, because I haven't asked and she didn't gave it me deliberately. We will only meet again in another meeting 5 months later.

Now I would like to talk to her.

I've found an e-mail from the office, but I'm not sure if it's from her. It seems like, but I'm not sure.

Should I try to email her to see if it's her e-mail? I would love to talk to her again, but I don't want to ruin any possible chance that I could have in the next moment that we will meet, or just be a fool.

And, if this email is the right one, I don't want that she become upset of my effrontery in sending an unexpected email.

What should I do?


Thanks

phasesofthemoon
January 26th, 2011, 10:38 AM
If neither of you are in the same country, if she's shown you no interest except to look at you, if she avoided all invites to leave the group to be with you, then I suggest you not send the email. Are there no women in your country that you could actually be with rather than form some fantasy online relationship with a girl you hardly even know?

xeon
January 26th, 2011, 11:45 AM
Yeah, I know.

Thx.

phasesofthemoon
January 26th, 2011, 11:55 AM
Yur welcome ;)

Carnation
January 26th, 2011, 01:48 PM
Even though this thread seems resolved I want to put forth some experienced advice: if the one you're pursuing is not going out of the way to pay attention or hang out with you, you can ssafely assume there is no interest. She was showing clear signs of being disinterested.

Good luck next time!