Can't Fight this Feeling

[fragglefan92]

Hey all, this is my first post here (obviously), and I am in need of some advice.

As generic as this may sound, I have a huge crush on someone who's a close friend of mine (As in, I talk to her every day). She's possibly everything I dreamed of in a woman, but there's one caveat: I just don't know how to tell her my true feelings. I don't want to overstep my bounds, step on anyone's toes, come off as a pervert, I just don't know the right approach.

I've always had this problem, and I think I may have a confidence problem, as many girls I asked out all have loving beaus (Or say they do) or just flat out deny me, no sugar coating at all.

I figured with Valentines coming around the corner, I could express my thoughts then, but I want to hear some feedback and advice, and feel free to be a cruel as necessary, I'm used to it.

[georgee]

ok first off...if she's a close friend there are no boundaries with feelings. it's your feelings, you can't deny them. confidence problem...if she's a close friend it be easier less pressure she's probably not going to deny you with no cherries on top.. unless you guys aren't as close as you think.. in my opinion tell her like now because valentine's day isn't around the corner it's like 24-26days.. she could be taken by then why would you wait.. it'd probably be more better if you do it before.. then you can express yourself more valentine's day instead of just saying happy valentine's day i like you..instead you can give her flowers and take her out to dinner...probably more points..just ask her 1 on 1. this also varies on if she likes you.. if your in friend zone you probably should step it up. nothing wrong with telling her how you feel or anything like that. i did it i'm doing fine, you don't get anywhere hiding shit from people and just saying your gonna wait til this time, and oh wait nevermind i'll just wait for her birthday, just kidding i'll wait til christmas, oh she's pregnant too late..kbye. well good luck haha !

[OvershareDude]

Valentines Day is a horrible cliche and I reckon thats the worst day to do it.

Why wait?
Just be honest but not too direct.

"So <her name>, I've been thinking. I think I'd like to go out with you some time if you'd be keen"

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[fragglefan92]

Thanks for the advice, guys. I've already told a couple of people that I have this crush, but I just need to gain some confidence. I mean, we've known each other since September of last year, so I do think it's high time I tell her how I truly feel. I'm just not very experienced in terms of love, as I've been single my entire life, and the only things I have to help are pieces of cliche advice from dating sites (eHarmony, mainly).

I just wanted to get some REAL input from those who've been down the same path I'm on.

[OvershareDude]

It's like riding a bike. You get better with practice.

Approaching girls is the same thing - practice.
So you may get rejected, big deal. You'll earn valuable experience.

In High School I asked out erm.... about 32 girls in one year, 3 in 2 days once!
It hurt, but I feel better for it long term.

[fragglefan92]

^Oh man, I feel you. Though to me, biking is easy, but let's not go down that path.

I talked to her today and she seems okay with it. I didn't flat out say "I love you," however, but I did let her know that I admire her. I'll Facebook her later and see if we can chat, one on one.

[OvershareDude]

Oh fuck, don't say love until you've gotten to know the girl and you've been dating for a few months!
Saying it before you're even dating is a sure way to scare her off!

Like is the strongest word you should be using.

[fragglefan92]

That's exactly what I said, like. I have no relationship experience at all, so forgive me please. I'm trying to take it slow, not immediately jump into bed with her. :P