Stood Up?

[goodguy1]

Hey everyone what’s up I guess just to start I will give a little bit of background I’m a young male in college and I had been in a relationship for about close to a year which just ended about a month ago pretty badly I would say.

So my buddy and his girlfriend started getting it in their head that they needed to get me into the game and my buddy's girlfriend offers to introduce me to one of her friends so I figure sure why not it's the holidays it will be fun.

So my buddy gets a whole bunch of tickets to a concert and the plan is for me to meet her there. So I go we meet we end up actually having a lot of fun she seems really into me and about half way into the night I ask her if she wants to hang out again maybe somewhere quieter get to know each other a little better. She seems really enthusiastic about that and says yes I deffentley have to call her again.

So my buddy is telling me that his girlfriend is telling her that she’s digging me so I’m confident in the situation and I call her a couple days later and we make plans to hang out today. So I tell her I’ll call her on the weekend just to confirm a time to meet. So I call her day after new years and I guess she is still at some party or something because it was really loud and I can hear some guy screaming in the back ground so I ask is she busy and she’s like call you back and pretty much hangs up on me so I’m slightly perplexed but I just drop it and I went out. So later that night when I get home I get a text from her sorry about the call before and that her new years is still happening and she’s hyped about hanging out Monday and that we will talk soon. So I’m alright hope you had fun ttyl

Next day she calls me but I’m at work so I call her when I get off no answer so I try again later that night no answer? Slightly perplexed again I go to bed I get up this morning I send her a text Good morning tried to call you back a few times to touch base with you on our plans for today but to no avail hope your ok give me a shout later and I haven’t got any response whatever? I think I was stood up I asked me buddy if his girlfriend had to talked to his friend and she didn't say anything guess she doesn't want to get involved and I don’t want to involve her but I’m left confused what happened?

[phasesofthemoon]

Hey everyone what’s up I guess just to start I will give a little bit of background I’m a young male in college and I had been in a relationship for about close to a year which just ended about a month ago pretty badly I would say.

So my buddy and his girlfriend started getting it in their head that they needed to get me into the game and my buddy's girlfriend offers to introduce me to one of her friends so I figure sure why not it's the holidays it will be fun.

So my buddy gets a whole bunch of tickets to a concert and the plan is for me to meet her there. So I go we meet we end up actually having a lot of fun she seems really into me and about half way into the night I ask her if she wants to hang out again maybe somewhere quieter get to know each other a little better. She seems really enthusiastic about that and says yes I deffentley have to call her again.

So my buddy is telling me that his girlfriend is telling her that she’s digging me so I’m confident in the situation and I call her a couple days later and we make plans to hang out today. So I tell her I’ll call her on the weekend just to confirm a time to meet. So I call her day after new years and I guess she is still at some party or something because it was really loud and I can hear some guy screaming in the back ground so I ask is she busy and she’s like call you back and pretty much hangs up on me so I’m slightly perplexed but I just drop it and I went out. So later that night when I get home I get a text from her sorry about the call before and that her new years is still happening and she’s hyped about hanging out Monday and that we will talk soon. So I’m alright hope you had fun ttyl

Next day she calls me but I’m at work so I call her when I get off no answer so I try again later that night no answer? Slightly perplexed again I go to bed I get up this morning I send her a text Good morning tried to call you back a few times to touch base with you on our plans for today but to no avail hope your ok give me a shout later and I haven’t got any response whatever? I think I was stood up I asked me buddy if his girlfriend had to talked to his friend and she didn't say anything guess she doesn't want to get involved and I don’t want to involve her but I’m left confused what happened?

If she was still partying the day after new years eve, then I suspect she's passed out somewhere, hung over or in jail.

Give if another day or two and breathe.

[goodguy1]

True no reason not to give her the benefit of the doubt. But how long does it take to send a 2 word text message "sorry bailing" I don’t know just seems like a lack of common courtesy that’s what’s frustrating. Yeah i guess nothing i can do but chill. Still perplexing

[foh4k]

Yeah well alcohol and people don't mix. Your being a little premature here especially with the holidays which throws everyones daily ritual into turmoil.

Give it a day or two and if she doesn't respond after that toss it..... NEXT

[Rogue4Rent]

You texting her like her girlfriend is going to make you her girlfriend.

You should be using your time with other options...

...hotter options.

[goodguy1]

You texting her like her girlfriend is going to make you her girlfriend.

You should be using your time with other options...

...hotter options.

Yeah i guess you are right. I actually got a response not too long ago she text me back that she saw i called and what was up? I text her back that i was wondering about what happend to our plans today and did she forget? No response. So if she cant clearly remember me asking her out she's not very intrested and i shouldn't kid myself.

[phasesofthemoon]

She's a douche..

[goodguy1]

Yeah... What else can you say lol shit happens i guess thanks

[Ben91]

At least you didn't drive 90 miles in the freezing cold, feeling like death. to get stood up :) (now that sucks)

give her some time bro!

[free]

forget her
u do not need an over partier. good thing she did not remembered. she could have showed up with two other guys

[foh4k]

She was probably doing two other guys and that's why she couldn't get to the phone.

[free]

no kidding

[goodguy1]

So my buddies girlfriend talked to me and was appologetic she doesn't understand why she was acting like that I told her that whatever it's not worth my time but she insisted she was going to talk to her I told her not to bother that I was already turned off the situation and I had delted her number so now I'm wondering what to do if she does contact me.

Should I just tell her off politely or just try to ignore her at all cost?

[Carnation]

Tell her off politely. Don't let her believe she can treat someone like that and get away with it.

[goodguy1]

Any pointers as to what to say exactley not exactley in the most polite mood lol

[free]

if she contacts you, tell her that you are not interested to carry any contact with her. you moved on as she gave you clear indication by not responding, that she is not interested. If her respond to this will be: but now I am, than you tell her that it is too late you got the message and you already has moved on.

[phasesofthemoon]

Yep. That will certainly let her know that her rude inconsiderate behaviour is not something that you're willing to tolerate... and, it's doing it quite politely too.

[Kuky]

Rogue is right, you kinda lost it when you were ravenously texting/calling her when you hadn't heard back for a bit. She went out with you ONCE. To a concert. There's nothing there, other than potential. It's not like you're attached to one another.

I disagree with all the damaged people saying she's probably in jail, or doing 2 other guys. I mean, it's a possibility, but why always assume the worst in people? Secure guys with lots of abundance don't get phased by a bit of this, because they know for every girl that flakes on them, there's 2 waiting to bang them. And like I said, this isn't some kind of deep, personal, 7-year betrayal. She flaked on you. Big deal. You can mark it off as disrespect and write her off, or give her another shot. There's so little emotional attachment here that it doesn't really matter either way.

Calmly tell her that you didn't think she was someone who was too "ADD" to connect with someone awesome. You assumed she was fun, adventurous and playful, but also grounded and focused (or whatever, you get the idea). Then mention that you don't know if this is gonna work, and whether she's right for you, but finds her own reasons to step out of the hectic daze that is her life and take a chance with something new, you might give her another shot........ or something like that.

At the absolute least, it won't cause issues with your friend and his gf, etc.

[phasesofthemoon]

Rogue is right, you kinda lost it when you were ravenously texting/calling her when you hadn't heard back for a bit. She went out with you ONCE. To a concert. There's nothing there, other than potential. It's not like you're attached to one another.

I disagree with all the damaged people saying she's probably in jail, or doing 2 other guys. I mean, it's a possibility, but why always assume the worst in people? Secure guys with lots of abundance don't get phased by a bit of this, because they know for every girl that flakes on them, there's 2 waiting to bang them. And like I said, this isn't some kind of deep, personal, 7-year betrayal. She flaked on you. Big deal. You can mark it off as disrespect and write her off, or give her another shot. There's so little emotional attachment here that it doesn't really matter either way.

Calmly tell her that you didn't think she was someone who was too "ADD" to connect with someone awesome. You assumed she was fun, adventurous and playful, but also grounded and focused (or whatever, you get the idea). Then mention that you don't know if this is gonna work, and whether she's right for you, but finds her own reasons to step out of the hectic daze that is her life and take a chance with something new, you might give her another shot........ or something like that.

At the absolute least, it won't cause issues with your friend and his gf, etc.

She's still partying and whooping it up a day after a new years eve party and you call us damaged people? Alrighty then... Even in my hay day, I didn't carry over a drinking situation for a 24 hour period.

And though I agree that over texting anyone is not a good thing to be doing.. He didn't really over text her either.. he text her after new years, she text him back, he text her after work.. she bailed.

[Kuky]

There's never really an expectation to reply to every single text. Hell, there's never a guarantee that any given txt will make it to the person. By definition, txting is for unimportant messages.

[goodguy1]

Rogue is right, you kinda lost it when you were ravenously texting/calling her when you hadn't heard back for a bit. She went out with you ONCE. To a concert. There's nothing there, other than potential. It's not like you're attached to one another.

I disagree with all the damaged people saying she's probably in jail, or doing 2 other guys. I mean, it's a possibility, but why always assume the worst in people? Secure guys with lots of abundance don't get phased by a bit of this, because they know for every girl that flakes on them, there's 2 waiting to bang them. And like I said, this isn't some kind of deep, personal, 7-year betrayal. She flaked on you. Big deal. You can mark it off as disrespect and write her off, or give her another shot. There's so little emotional attachment here that it doesn't really matter either way.

Calmly tell her that you didn't think she was someone who was too "ADD" to connect with someone awesome. You assumed she was fun, adventurous and playful, but also grounded and focused (or whatever, you get the idea). Then mention that you don't know if this is gonna work, and whether she's right for you, but finds her own reasons to step out of the hectic daze that is her life and take a chance with something new, you might give her another shot........ or something like that.

At the absolute least, it won't cause issues with your friend and his gf, etc.

You make a good point I don't really know anything yet so why jump to conclusions and assume the worst true. But that doesn't mean I have to assume the best and pretend nothing happend. Yeah she stood me up I guess it's not really a big deal but why be so flakey about it? Honeslty I dunno what to do I'm just gonna put it out my mind and focus on school and stuff cuz shits getting bussier. Keep a ear to the wind a causious ear tho. If I see her or talk to her I'm just gonna act like nothing happend. I don't think I over contacted her too much but what is too much? I would assume that would be different in each situation. she just left me in the wind so I was trying to get my shit together.

I'm just looking for a simple date just hang out have some laughs get to know each other a bit doesn't seem like too much to ask but maybe I went wrong somewhere. I'd be lying if I said I felt smooth as velvit with these things I haven't had to try and get a date in over a year and I might be rusty

[free]

keep busy and study. than wait. you already doing it. than you do not need advise. has she contacted you? not yet I take. yes, we always assume the positive not the negative. but you can do simple dates with girls who are doing it simple. like calling you not texting you ( incase it goes lost). and respond. and when you ask out and they say yes than they keep their words or call that things changed. THAT IS SIMPLE. this is complicated.
so good luck