The Office Question

[Do Re Mi]

Once I worked with a girl that was the hottest I had ever seen. I didn't try anything at first because I knew she had a BF. But later on, when it seemed as if she was alone, I didn't either, because I thought it just wasn't "proper". Even though she drove me insane every time I looked at her.

Later on, a guy joins the company, hits on her, and they're now married.

I no longer work there, and I've started a new job three months ago. As you might have guessed, there's a new interest. There's this girl in my department that makes me quiver when I see her. I know I feel something, because I find myself biting my nails everytime she talks to other guys from work, hoping it's "just" normal chitchat.

So, I really want to approach her. I only haven't so far, not only because I'm not really skillful with girls, but mostly because I don't just want to say "Let's have lunch!" or something, since that will give the whole game away right there. I want an intermediary step, something that will help me test the waters before I risk catching a wave.

Thank you in advance for any tips.

[OvershareDude]

Once I worked with a girl that was the hottest I had ever seen. I didn't try anything at first because I knew she had a BF. But later on, when it seemed as if she was alone, I didn't either, because I thought it just wasn't "proper". Even though she drove me insane every time I looked at her.

Later on, a guy joins the company, hits on her, and they're now married.

I no longer work there, and I've started a new job three months ago. As you might have guessed, there's a new interest. There's this girl in my department that makes me quiver when I see her. I know I feel something, because I find myself biting my nails everytime she talks to other guys from work, hoping it's "just" normal chitchat.

So, I really want to approach her. I only haven't so far, not only because I'm not really skillful with girls, but mostly because I don't just want to say "Let's have lunch!" or something, since that will give the whole game away right there. I want an intermediary step, something that will help me test the waters before I risk catching a wave.

Thank you in advance for any tips.

Listen to her interests. Get to know what she likes and strike it up from there.
Then lead into the "hey wanna hang out at lunch" or just invite yourself to sit with her on your lunch break if you share a common break time.

Carpe Diem man, don't miss out again. Even if you get hurt with a no, you know where you stand.

NO ISN'T THE NED OF THE WORLD!

[Voodoochild]

oh office romances can be tricksy....but you're right, loads of people meet their future wifes/husbands at work.

I agree with OvershareDude try for something relaxed like shared coffee breaks and a chat over a boiling kettle......take it from there, a walk to the shops for lunch or a drink after work with a few colleagues maybe?

[lovebug333]

Try to relax, take a breath and begin with a simple hello. Just be casual, ans talk about light subject. Ask about her day. Try to be friendly and don't let your nerves get in the way.

It's good that you want to test the waters first, before considering romance. Office romance can be quite complicated. I suggest you consider friendship, before anything else.