Why does this always happen?

[lonleyguy1]

Ok I am

[OvershareDude]

Ok I am sure that I am not the only guy that this happens to but I’m starting to get frustrated.

To start I meet this girl last week and we seemed to hit it off we chatted for a bit and I asked her if she wanted to go out sometime hang out whatever. She said yes seemed enthusiastic so I jotted down her digits and we chatted a bit more then went separate ways. Lets fast forward like 2-3 days later I called her and no one picked up so I thought I would just send her a quick text. So I said hey its such and such we meet the other night some pleasantries then I asked her if she wanted to hang out yesterday so like a day later she gets back to me and says sure if I’m back in the city she’s down to hang out and to give her a call. So I give her a call on the day and she says that she's not back in the city yet. That cool she offers to postpone us hanging out a day. Which I am okay with things come up we didn't really even have any set plans it's cool. So she tells me to call her when I’m off work I do this and she tells me that she is really tired from being out all weekend and that she has a really important commitment tomorrow which I can give her the benefit of the doubt but it kind of sounds like excuses. While she is telling me this all she's apologizing for bailing on me. I’m slightly upset I mean no one likes the ditch brush off whatever you want to call it but I keep it cool and just tell some other time no worries its all good best of luck type thing. I’m pretty sure she’s letting me down easy or so she thinks so but should I give her another chance? I’m seriously thinking just deleting her number and moving on

I don’t know what it is do I come off strange or make people uncomfortable. I mean I’m a decent guy young good looking pretty confident and attractive but I usually end up getting the brush off? I can’t understand why it is. It's not the first time and im sure it wont be the last. I’m just a little frustrated and maybe this sounds like a vent but I don’t understand it. I mean why always the games?

Maybe some women can give me an input into your brain

Thanks for reading
Be upfront

"I'd like to get to know you better but I'm not sure that you're interested in the same. Are you interested in getting to know me?"

Take it from there

[lonleyguy1]

Be upfront

"I'd like to get to know you better but I'm not sure that you're interested in the same. Are you interested in getting to know me?"

Take it from there

Upfront eh? Should it be more personal and should I give her a call or does text message work in this situation? Pretty trivial question but I don’t know I’m poor dealing with these situations and I’ve chased a few women before just to end up in the same position back at square one. I don’t want to do that again but at the same time am I dont want to throw in the towel in the first round if you get my drift.

[Rogue4Rent]

You should have options.

Don't ever base what you're going to do with your day based on the whim of a woman. Especially one you just met.

This is your fault for thinking this girl you just met should influence your decision.

[lonleyguy1]

You should have options.

Don't ever base what you're going to do with your day based on the whim of a woman. Especially one you just met.

This is your fault for thinking this girl you just met should influence your decision.

Laymen terms please. I should have options? What might these options be? I stated two options delete her number and move on/try again.

I wouldn't say I based my whole day on the "whim of a women" especially when she tells me lets hang out not like my day came to an end when she made other plans it's the whole point of it should i not take what people that I meet say to me at face value?

Don’t let women influence my decisions especially ones I just meet. Got it, i guess that was the error of my ways.

[phasesofthemoon]

Coming from a woman: What wouldn't get me interested in learning to get to know you more is the fact that you had no set plan. "Lets hang" or do you "wanna hang" is not something that would interest most gals (I'd imagine). Why not "Hey, I know a great place to have a drink (or insert your favorite activity here) and it's not too loud so we can talk.. Are you open (insert day/night of the week)?"

Then, by her answer (shes keen or she hedges) then you'll know immediately how interested or not she is and you can either get to know her better in a public place or you can delete her digits and forget she existed.

"Want to hang" is not somethng I'd want to do with someone I met once and text twice with. But, that's me.

[Rogue4Rent]

Laymen terms please. I should have options? What might these options be? I stated two options delete her number and move on/try again.

I wouldn't say I based my whole day on the "whim of a women" especially when she tells me lets hang out not like my day came to an end when she made other plans it's the whole point of it should i not take what people that I meet say to me at face value?

Don’t let women influence my decisions especially ones I just meet. Got it, i guess that was the error of my ways.

I'll have to dummy this down a notch or twelve.

What I mean is that you should always have a backup plan to rely on instead putting every ounce of your hope into one girl.

Capiche?

[lonleyguy1]

Coming from a woman: What wouldn't get me interested in learning to get to know you more is the fact that you had no set plan. "Lets hang" or do you "wanna hang" is not something that would interest most gals (I'd imagine). Why not "Hey, I know a great place to have a drink (or insert your favorite activity here) and it's not too loud so we can talk.. Are you open (insert day/night of the week)?"

Then, by her answer (shes keen or she hedges) then you'll know immediately how interested or not she is and you can either get to know her better in a public place or you can delete her digits and forget she existed.

"Want to hang" is not somethng I'd want to do with someone I met once and text twice with. But, that's me.

It didn't go exactley like that a suggestion was brought up and at the time she was with it. But your right i didn't have a "set" plan. I guess my point is should i take another stab in the dark? I think i clearly see the error of my ways i'll admite im not the smoothest but i can be when i try. Thanks for all the reply's

[lonleyguy1]

I'll have to dummy this down a notch or twelve.

What I mean is that you should always have a backup plan to rely on instead putting every ounce of your hope into one girl.

Capiche?

Thanks for the dumb down. It's what i thought you ment. Notted

[phasesofthemoon]

It didn't go exactley like that a suggestion was brought up and at the time she was with it. But your right i didn't have a "set" plan. I guess my point is should i take another stab in the dark? I think i clearly see the error of my ways i'll admite im not the smoothest but i can be when i try. Thanks for all the reply's

I can't speak for her, however I know that if some guy brushed me off like this: she tells me that she is really tired from being out all weekend and that she has a really important commitment tomorrow (after a couple of previous attempts) It would make me think that he wasn't intrigued enough with me and that he could care less whether he got to know me more. I'd next him.

A man once told me that if a chick isn't persuing me then they aren't worth my time.

Just some food for thought.

[lonleyguy1]

I can't speak for her, however I know that if some guy brushed me off like this: (after a couple of previous attempts) It would make me think that he wasn't intrigued enough with me and that he could care less whether he got to know me more. I'd next him.

A man once told me that if a chick isn't persuing me then they aren't worth my time.

Just some food for thought.

Thanks a lot i think that's what i was looking to hear. I apreciate you taking the time. My mind always wonders what if sometime i just need someone to give me a reality check. I guess another one bites the dust. Thanks phase everyone else