The Gronch
September 10th, 2010, 06:09 AM
Hoping a few people here can help me out. I'm in a situation where I'm constantly thinking about a girl (we'll call her Sarah) who I was very good friends with, and even dated a few times, many years ago. I'll start from the beginning.
I first met Sarah 13 years ago when we were both working in the same shopping mall. She worked in the shop next door to mine and we got on very well. I was absolutely head over heels for her from the start. We went out on a few dates which went very averagely, which I put total blame on myself due to inexperience and nervousness and nothing else never came from it. We lost contact for about a year. Then when I had a birthday party she randomly turned up, which I thought was interesting as she didn't know anyone there except me. She was going overseas the next week for about six months and I told her when she gets back we should get in contact. Nothing happened.
Shortly after I started a relationship with another girl, moved in together and got engaged. During this time I opened a Facebook account and found friends from the past, one of which was Sarah. We wouldn't converse or anything but it was nice to see what she was up to.
Anyhow, for the last year or so my relationship turned sour and the engagement was called off. Our relationship officially ended last month and I moved back to my old hometown. While it's sad that a relationship after such a long time has come to an end, there was an incredible feeling of relief that it was finally over as there were so many "dramas" that always seemed to occur with her and her family. Everything was a problem and I was always under the thumb. I feel like a prison sentence has now been lifted. Anyway, I was thinking to myself in the next relationship I have, I need a girl that is easy going like myself.....and Sarah popped into my mind (admittedly she was never too far away from it).
So here is where I am. After just coming out of a relationship I know that I need a fair few months to myself before I am emotionally ready for another relationship. But, I need to know the best way to approach her in the new year. I have her Facebook and email address....not phone number nor physical address. One plan was to post a whole bunch of old photo's on Facebook, one of which is myself and her (making sure to tag her so she gets a notification). The plan being when she sees she is tagged in an old photo she would comment on it. Of course if she doesn't comment I'm back to square one. I'm assuming she probably thinks I'm engaged or married, so probably hasn't even given me a second thought. I know she is single judging from Facebook comments and such.
I have given myself six months to improve myself emotionally and physically, but this is my last shot at my "dream girl", and keen to give it the best shot I can. If nothing comes from it that's fine, but I could never forgive myself if I didn't try, otherwise I'll always be thinking "What if?".
So if anyone has any ideas how I should go about this, especially from the female point of view, it would be much appriciated :blush: I'm 30 years of age.
I first met Sarah 13 years ago when we were both working in the same shopping mall. She worked in the shop next door to mine and we got on very well. I was absolutely head over heels for her from the start. We went out on a few dates which went very averagely, which I put total blame on myself due to inexperience and nervousness and nothing else never came from it. We lost contact for about a year. Then when I had a birthday party she randomly turned up, which I thought was interesting as she didn't know anyone there except me. She was going overseas the next week for about six months and I told her when she gets back we should get in contact. Nothing happened.
Shortly after I started a relationship with another girl, moved in together and got engaged. During this time I opened a Facebook account and found friends from the past, one of which was Sarah. We wouldn't converse or anything but it was nice to see what she was up to.
Anyhow, for the last year or so my relationship turned sour and the engagement was called off. Our relationship officially ended last month and I moved back to my old hometown. While it's sad that a relationship after such a long time has come to an end, there was an incredible feeling of relief that it was finally over as there were so many "dramas" that always seemed to occur with her and her family. Everything was a problem and I was always under the thumb. I feel like a prison sentence has now been lifted. Anyway, I was thinking to myself in the next relationship I have, I need a girl that is easy going like myself.....and Sarah popped into my mind (admittedly she was never too far away from it).
So here is where I am. After just coming out of a relationship I know that I need a fair few months to myself before I am emotionally ready for another relationship. But, I need to know the best way to approach her in the new year. I have her Facebook and email address....not phone number nor physical address. One plan was to post a whole bunch of old photo's on Facebook, one of which is myself and her (making sure to tag her so she gets a notification). The plan being when she sees she is tagged in an old photo she would comment on it. Of course if she doesn't comment I'm back to square one. I'm assuming she probably thinks I'm engaged or married, so probably hasn't even given me a second thought. I know she is single judging from Facebook comments and such.
I have given myself six months to improve myself emotionally and physically, but this is my last shot at my "dream girl", and keen to give it the best shot I can. If nothing comes from it that's fine, but I could never forgive myself if I didn't try, otherwise I'll always be thinking "What if?".
So if anyone has any ideas how I should go about this, especially from the female point of view, it would be much appriciated :blush: I'm 30 years of age.