Can't figure her out Pt 2

[Johnny75]

So, about the girl who has been running hot and cold and sending me mixed messages. This was the girl who told me last week that she did not want a serious relationship and then, after canceling a date that we had to go to my friend's party, showed up and told me that the reason why she came out was "to prove that nothing else is going on."

I had a dozen red roses delivered to her office on Monday, with a note inside telling her how I feel about her.

A few hours later I saw her on the bus and she was beaming about the flowers. Telling me how beautiful they were and how surprised she was, how she had become the talk of her office. She went into detail describing their size and smell, etc.

I asked her about the note and she said, "Well, we are on the bus, so we will have to talk about it later. I would say we could go get some food but I just left the gym and the only thing on my mind now is going home to shower."

So we have been keeping in touch by text messages and e-mails. On Tuesday she told me that her plan was to go to the gym every day this week after work and try to lay low in general, but maybe this weekend. She also told me that she had plans to go to happy hour with a friend on Friday and see a movie.

I decided to not contact her all day yesterday (Wednesday) to see what would happen. I didn't hear a peep from her and then, at about 10:30 at night she sends me a text that says, "Umm, what happened to you today?"

Today I got back in touch with her and said that I had gone to bed early, and was not ignoring you. I also asked if she wanted to meet during the day for lunch or for coffee. She said, "I know you weren't ignoring me, silly. I am super busy at work and can't leave. Will talk to you later on."

I have a hard time believing that she would text me and basically say "Why haven't you talked to me today" if she was not interested in me.

I think that this girl might be shit testing me. It would be very easy for her to just say, "I am not interested in you, please stop." And while she is not committing to plans with me, she is giving me reasons why she can't get together and telling me her schedule.

So, what do I do? It seems like the ball is in my court, at least for now.

[timid]

I'm probably not the best person to be giving relationship advice but wtf here goes. If I were in your shoes at this point I'd be more than a bit frustrated so I would just flat out give her an ultimatum - either we need to talk or we need to stop seeing each other. Let her know that you'r getting mixed signals and if she has any value in your relationship then there needs to be some communication. If she really likes you she will make some time to talk to you, if not then she was probably playing games. If she's just toying with you and you don't call it early then she'll just keep stringing you along until she gets what she wants and the fall will be much harder for you.

[Johnny75]

I had a talk with her about things tonight. I started the conversation by admitting that I come on too strong. I think this went a long way with her. She said that sometimes I overwhelm her and she isn't ready for me to be that intense. I asked her if she wanted to continue seeing me, and she said yes. So we agreed that I would back off a little and just let things happen.

We had a nice evening together (got some dinner and a couple drinks) and we back to our own places. She texted me later telling me that she had a really nice time. So I think for now I am good. Until I manage to screw up again. :-)