bad kisser => good kisser... is it possible?

[Lady Dragoness]

is it possible to turn a totally awful kisser into a good one?

what would it take?
what does one need to say/do?
:wtf:
especially if the kisser in question is a very sensitive guy...

any ideas for gentle/nice/noncrushing ways to turn him into a good kisser?

[dulcinea]

If I were you, I wouldn't SAY anything unless absolutely necessary, because that'll hurt no matter how you word it. Depends on what he's doing wrong... but usually you can "train" him :P.

Lead by example.

Like, if my boyfriend and I kiss and it lasts for more than two seconds, he immediately used to try and stick his tongue in my mouth, which is all well and good but not necessarily what I'm going for. So I just started keeping my mouth shut whenever that started to happen, and eventually he "learned" that, if he tried to do that EVERY time, I was going to keep my mouth shut and it wasn't going to accomplish anything, so now he doesn't try it all the time anymore.

If you really want to teach/train him, so to speak, take things really slowly cause it makes it easier to keep it under control.

So yeah, I think it's possible, but remember that not every guy is easily "trainable." Some of them are assholes and refuse to believe that anything could possibly be wrong with THEIR kissing style, but you said he's sensitive, so that's probably a good sign for ya. ;)

[Sparklies]

Yeah, there is no non-crushing way to tell him; anyway you were to tell him would knock his self-esteem down at least 20 notches.

Practice makes perfect and I think the more you kiss the better he'll get. I've noticed the first time I kiss people, often times our timing is off or the whole thing just isn't as good as it COULD be; but after a while, we know what the other person likes, and the other person's kissing patterns, etc, so that makes a HUGE difference.

You could always just have a night of kissing "experimentation" and instruct him. Say something like, "Hey, let's try it like this..." and be sure to give a positive response if you like it. But I think that with time it'll all get better... :D .

[Lady Dragoness]

I dated him for a year... it's not just a new thing.
(long story :P), and uh... I don't know how to (having such a long history) try to change his kissing now.

[Danae]

Hmm...perhaps practice doesn't make perfect in this case? lol

[Sparklies]

Hmm...perhaps practice doesn't make perfect in this case? lol

lol, well shoot...I don't what to tell ya!!! :-?

[geckosnipp]

I guess the most you can do is, as like everyone else said, try training the other person. Usually it works and the person almost does it with out noticing they changed.

[super_chevy2000]

I think it's possible to turn a bad kisser into a good kisser.
I would think the 3 key things for this would be practice, patience and a little guidance.

[andrew]

just tell him whats up. i mean, just straight up. be like "you wanna be a better kisser? u want me tooo LONGGGGGGGg for your kiss, well then say my name bitch" and show him whats up. lol

[goofball]

I dated him for a year... it's not just a new thing.

assuming that means he had a year of practice and he's still bad, he's hopeless.

the first few times you're going to do something you'll suck at it. But still bad after a year? no hope

[eatshit]

i reckon you've got a chance!

try and joke about it, thats what i did! now bad kisser => much better kisser! XD thats my happy story for today ^_^

[LuckyRiverJordan]

give him the web site to the thread. *lol*

[Roguish Grin]

lead by example......

[cdude]

there is a non-crushing way you could tell him:
just tell him you like being kissed a certain way, then ask him to kiss you that way. you dont have to tell him that his way is wrong or that you dont like the way he kisses.

[JessiMari]

UhM...Nah...he's gonna suck all this life...lol..sorrie...

[Mooch]

just tell him whats up. i mean, just straight up.

yeah, tell him.

he can't be that sensitive...he should welcome the opportunity to improve. :)

[The Original Taco]

*Slaps cddude* The last reply was 4 months ago.

[Wrightman84]

ya well chances are she is still going out with him, and has the same problem

okay my advice.. since this is the first time i saw this thread.. and i actually made one of my own except the rolls are reversed.. teaching/training girl i just met..
neway... back on subject.. i like the idea of "kissing night" just have a night of experimentation.. and it could be lots of fun.. do all sorts of kissing... make it lik "nething goes, no idea is a bad one" then u can just tell him the way you want him to kiss you, be like "how bout you try it this way... i have imagined a guy kissing me liike this.." make it sound lik it makes you happy, turns you on, w.eva floats your boat.. that would give him the idea that this will get him somewhere.. or something like that.. it messes with his mind..