So what if I DON'T want to kiss him?

[flirtandahalf]

Okay, so this guy and I are going to have a little chat about our relationship tomorrow afternoon...in our school's darkroom. I know this is a bad situation, but he has a photo that's due by the end of the day and can't do anything else, so we have to meet there. It pretty much sucks, but there it is.

Anyway, I know that this kid really likes me, and I really like him too, but for reasons that would take far too long to explain I have to tell him (this isn't a new thing, it just needs reinforcement) that he really can't be flirting with me all over the place because then I'll never get over him, and he'll never get over me, and we'll keep playing games with each other like we have been and it'll suck.

Here's the upshot: my friends all keep telling me that he's probably going to try and kiss me. Much as I'd love to kiss him, it's probably not the best thing to do in our current situation... :roll: So what I'm wondering is, are there any kind ways of brushing off a kiss so that I don't get myself in trouble? I realize that the darkroom is really the worst place to do this, but while I want to get the point across I don't want to shatter his ego either.

I know this is really long...thanks to everybody for your help and please post soon if you can...[/u]

[Cherisse]

Hmm...you like him...and he likes you...and you want to kiss him...I'm failing to see the problem. In my own experiences, just a "random" makeout session with someone you really want can be a really good thing. But I manage to get into weird situations.
But if you're intent on not kissing him, and not flirting with him, for reasons that are not my business, then don't kiss him. If I'm getting what you're saying, it isn't about not wanting to kiss him, it's about what you'll continue feeling or wanting if you do kiss him.
If you're that afraid of not getting over this guy, then tell him so, and dont kiss him. Either that, or just get together. But, then again, I am not a part of the situation, and don't understand.
Hope I've helped...nevermind the confusion that I'm sure you'll get from reaong this...:roll:

[twinkling_eyes]

if you wanna brush off this kiss that it sounds like you want from a guy you like you can always just turn a cheek right before his lips touch yours so he kisses your cheek

[CletusDelroy]

No matter what you do, you will "shatter his ego" as you put it. Turning your head right before his lips touch you is just tacky, and pushing him away is worse. If you really don't want to kiss him, then just tell him straight up. I too fail to see a real problem, but if you two continue to beat around the bush like this, then perhaps it would be best to cut ties now. I don't understand why you two can't just start actually dating if there is mutual attraction. If this can't be done under any circumstances for whatever reason, then cutting ties would be the best thing to do. Hard at first, but better because that way the games won't be played, and no one will get jerked around.

[dulcinea]

well, unless he's a moron, he won't try to kiss you unless you at least give him a little bit of flirtation, a sign that you want it, so to speak. So don't flirt with him AT ALL. Be the anti-flirt. Keep at least a foot between you and him at all times, don't touch him, don't do anything that you would do while flirting. It's hard, but it can be done. And I mean, he's not just going to dive in and kiss you. He's naturally going to try and get you into a position where kissing would be natural, by standing really close to you, trying to get you to give him a hug, something like that. Avoid this like the plague.

But if you're really feeling unsure, get one or more of your friends to "check up" on you. Like, plan on going somewhere with your friends right after you talk to him. That way, if things get really intense/awkward, you'll have an excuse to leave. And, also, you can get one of your friends to randomly knock on the door and be like "Are you done yet?" which will cause a nice distraction :P.

[flirtandahalf]

Thanks guys...I really appreciate all your help. He ended up trying to kiss me anyway as a sort of "last resort" since I didn't give in on thinking that we shouldn't be together...but I somehow managed to just turn it into another hug; he knew what I was doing but didn't say anything but kind of laugh and say "wow...this sucks." And it did, but now it's over. So thanks again to everybody who helped.