PLEASE reassure me this girl's phone is off

[overlook]

OK, I'm posting more on these forums than I thought I ever would, anyway...

So I met this girl through a friend, I found out she thinks I'm cute so we met up at a bar (6/25) (with the mutual friend) and we talked for awhile, it went good. We exchanged numbers and have been texting for a week (she has initiated half of the convos). The mutual friend says she's into me and wants to get to know me. So.....

On TUESDAY (6/29) she texts me (towards the end of the convo) we should hang out this weekend if i'm not busy. I say yes we should.

So Friday (7/2) comes and I find out she's busy, so I text something like "well im free sat if you wanna hang out."

Her response is word for word, letter for letter this: "Yeahhhh lets def do something tommorow : )"

By any standard, I believe that is a HEAVY sign of interest (disagree if you will).

So today (7/3) I call her to ask her out to dinner....two rings and then V.M.
Then about a half hour later I text her, asking her what she's up to tonight. No response. However, she doesn't have Verizon like I do, so I can't tell if she recieved the text or not...I"m assuming right now she hasn't, and either something is wrong with her phone or she can't get to it, because if she's not returning my calls or texts, I'm VERY VERY VERY confused.

Thoughts?

[overlook]

I'm 22 and she's 21 if that helps in any way.

[phasesofthemoon]

Yea.. you forgot to give her definate plans, you didn't speak with her on the phone (ear to ear) to arrange an actual time, place, activity Your texts are lame and I'd have blown you off too.

"wanna hangout" means what exactly? Next time say "would you like to go out for dinner on Saturday" I'd like to take you to (name the restaurant). Then, the day of confirm that she's still on. If it goes to voice mail and she doesn't respond. Consider yourself blown off and you'll know 100% where you stand. If she's eager to go and confirms then you'll know 100% that she's keen on getting to know you better.

[overlook]

"Yea.. you forgot to give her definate plans, you didn't speak with her on the phone (ear to ear) to arrange an actual time, place, activity Your texts are lame and I'd have blown you off too. "

Wow, OK, slow down, what do you mean my texts are lame? She was the one who wanted to get to know me. Did you miss the part where the last thing she said to me was "Yeahhhh lets def do something tommorow : )". The was the first time I got a smiley face from her. Call me crazy but from that I gather she DEFINATELY WANTS TO DO SOMETHING TOMORROW (which is today, aka now).

Why would she say that if she didn't mean it? It's not really ambiguous like "yeah maybe we'll do something tomorrow."

[phasesofthemoon]

Did you miss the part where the last thing she said to me was "Yeahhhh lets def do something tommorow : )" Well, when she text you that, did you CALL her back and tell her definate plans? No, you didn't you left it at "hang out." no time, no place, no plan. In other words it was all still up in the air. Do you seriously think that any confident, put together chica is going to wait breathlessly by the phone for you without concrete plans being made?

Fuck that! She has no investment in you other than a few drinks with mutual friends, you are not "I'ma gonna wait by the phone and not make any other plans in case overlook wants to do something" material.. at least not yet you're not. ;0)

[overlook]

Well, when she text you that, did you CALL her back and tell her definate plans? No, you didn't you left it at "hang out." no time, no place, no plan. In other words it was all still up in the air. Do you seriously think that any confident, put together chica is going to wait breathlessly by the phone for you without concrete plans being made?

Fuck that! She has no investment in you other than a few drinks with mutual friends, you are not "I'ma gonna wait by the phone and not make any other plans in case overlook wants to do something" material.. at least not yet you're not. ;0)

She said she had no plans tomorrow (today). She said we should hang out over the weekend on TUES and FRI.

And I lied, that was the second to last thing she texted me. After she sent me that text I said "Ok I'll call you tomorrow"

She responded with "sounds goodd have fun tonight" (i told her i was going to a bar).

I don't know how you're defending her in this situation. I honestly think something is wrong with her phone because the text I sent her today, it never said she recieved it, just that it was sent. There is still a green arrow by it and not a check mark. Every other text I've sent her there is a check mark by it and it says she recieved it.

[phasesofthemoon]

Okay, I'll reassure you. Her phone is definately off.

Before I leave you to it.. I'll ask you don't you think she should have called you if she said she would?

In my books, that would be strike one against her. I'd not call her again, if she called me and had a reasonable explanation, I'd proceed. If she didn't call me again, I'd silently thank her for letting me know what kind of inconsiderate she is and move on.

[overlook]

Well she never said she'd call me, I said I'd call her. I did, she didn't answer.

And I don't plan on contacting her until she contacts me first.

Maybe you're right but bottom line to me is that SHE wanted to get to know me, we agreed that we would hang out on the weekend (she first suggested it) and I called her and texted her over the weekend and she gave me no answer, after she gave me every indication she wanted to hang out with me (also the mutual friend told me she really wants to hang out with me).

[phasesofthemoon]

actions speak otherwise?????

Your call dude, but I'd not be sweating over her any longer. If and when she calls you, play it by ear.

You've tried.

End of.

Good luck.

[Kuky]

I think txting should be just a quick precursor to a call. Like, some quick back/forth ball-busting/flirting, followed by a quick "what are you doing right now?" and if the answer is not "I'm at a funeral and need to be quiet" just call her immediately. And the call should be just as quick.

[Idontknow]

stop texting and start calling more...texting will eventually ruin a relationship.

[overlook]

Welp, turns out her phone was lost, hehe.