Appropriate to call?

[am529]

Just a general question on ettiquette...

Say a guy likes a girl. They are in class, or work together, or what have you, and the situation they are in, he gets her number - not because he asked for it to ask her out or something, but because they need to be able to contact each other for whatever the business is.

Is it proper to then use the phone number to call her for more personal reasons, I.E.: asking her out on a date?

Typically, I don't ever feel comfortable doing this, because the phone number wasn't given to me for "personal" use, so to speak, so when it comes to things like asking out on dates, I'd prefer to do that face to face and leave the phone calls to come when a more personal connection has been formed. But I was just curious to see what others thought about the situation.

[phasesofthemoon]

If you have a class with her or, if you work with her or whatever the scenerio is that puts you face to face often.. then IMO you should be asking her out face to face and leave the phone call (personal or otherwise) until after the date has been established and you know she won't care if you call her for either reason. *shrugs* In otherwords I guess I agree with you. ;0)

[Deidre]

I for one wouldn't use a number I've been given for business type conversations for a private call, unless (a) we were already spending time together socially, or (b) we had no other way of contacting each other and there was clear interest. In the situation above it's clearly not going to be option B.

[KLM]

I agree with phasesofthemoon. If you see her on a regular basis, then ask her out the next time you see her. If I were in her place, I'd get annoyed if you didn't ask me out in person but resorted to using a number that I gave you for business reasons. However, I think you should also assess the situation yourself. If she's being super-friendly and/or flirty, then I'd go ahead and call her (she might just think that you're too shy to ask her in person and that isn't necessarily a bad thing). :)

[am529]

Well it's more of a general question, because I have a lot of phone numbers from women who I work with, or go to school with, numbers that I've gotten for work and school related purposes, and I always have friends or other people saying "you need to call her and ask her out! you have her number!" and I'm like "uh, I feel like that's kinda creepy, she didn't give me her number for that"

So I was really just asking to see if it was just me being weird, or if there was a reason why I felt like that.

Sure, currently there's a girl who I'd like to ask out who's number I have (she gave it to me so I could get her address to go to a party she was throwing), but outside of that her and I haven't had very many social interactions, and she definitely hasn't shown much interest in me romantically, so I definitely don't feel comfortable just calling her.

[Blossoms]

It's definitely forward to use their number for personal reasons, but I don't see too much harm in it. They trust you enough to give you the number for whatever reason, and they can easily let you down if they're uncomfortable with it. :)