No Standards & Attraction

[FindingMySelf]

Ladies, if you see the really hot guy out with a fat chick or a less attractive girl than what he should be dating, does that make him less attractive in your eyes?\

In other words, is a guy with no standards less attractive?

[Rogue4Rent]

The same chicks who're delegating attractivness points to guys are the same one's who end up at home fucking themselves with cucumbers or any readily available veggies.

It's a fact that we all judge each other based on who we're out with. It's more common with very attractive women hanging on the arms of guys we may percieve aren't up to calibre to her own.

This is all based on an equal insecurity on our part.

[am529]

I'm not a lady so I can't speak from a female's perspective, but all I can say is that there is more to a relationship than just physical appearances.

Yes, to me, physical attractiveness is very important - I expect to be attracted to any girl that I am with, and I would hope that any girl that I am with finds me equally attractive. And while I initially may have a "what?! she's with HIM?!" moment, really, maybe she DOES find him attractive, as beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

For instance, I am currently interested in a girl who I think is damn near gorgeous - but she's not the kind of girl that would stand out in a crowd to most guys, and in fact doesn't because I know for a fact that she has very bad luck in the guy department. But physically, I find her to be incredible.

Beauty is way too subjective.

[Kuky]

Listen. This "league" bullshit is all in your head. I know guys who are into fat chicks. Those guys not only know what they like, but are secure enough to go against the grain, and not care about thoughts like the one you presented here. If you perceive them as less because of that, you're just stabbing yourself in the eyes...

[Deidre]

Honestly... I don't notice what people look like, so unless he was a giant and she was a midget I probably wouldn't look twice. I certainly wouldn't remember them 30 seconds later.

Even if I saw a guy that made me look twice because he was so hot (and that's very rare), unless they're making kissy faces at each other I wouldn't assume he was dating the girl next to him. If she was in my perception not as attractive to me as he was then that'd only tell me that his taste in women is different than mine. It wouldn't tell me anything about his standards and it wouldn't make him less attractive.

Something that seriously detracts from a handsome man, in my eyes, though is a child. Maaaassive attraction killer. That little hint of "well, maybe in a parallel universe" goes down the drain and he becomes another faceless father.

[Carnation]

Kuky, I believe in another life we could have been lovers <3.

[Kuky]

There is another universe with another life in it... in my bedroom! :D

[Rogue4Rent]

I'm a pretty decent built cat and my current girlfriend is thick. Her tits are fucking gi-normous which gives her a thicker disposition than most of the women I've had relationships with.

We get looks all the time. She from other women about me and me from dudes who can't seem to look at her face.

None of these looks are snide or given any negative connotation because we make it perfectly clear we're proud to be out with each other.

[Brifflez]

Ok gender flip but I looooooooooove big boys. I love boys with a decent amount of body hair. Regardless of how hot I am, I'm still going to go for my partner (a fat hairy bit of hunk) over a slim toned seal.

Does that mean I have low standards? NO, it means I know what I like. There's a difference. I respect people who don't feel the need to conform to societies ideas of attractiveness. Takes all sorts to make a world ;)

[Carnation]

Now that I'm off work and not replying on my phone...

'League' is relative and solely based on what the person's likes and dislikes. Most women would say that a tall, tan, buff jock type would be out of my league, while I say he is out of mine! I find attraction in the pale, freckled, skinny nerdy types and more than likely they would be the ones who'd make me stumble over my words. Do I have 'no standards?' Hah! Hardly! Just different ones. =)

Look, if a guy is with a girl who is big, I say more power to him. There is obviously something amazing in her that he loves, and this might sound preeeeetty crazy, but he may just find her attractive! I'm not some skinny hot chick (41-31-41 1/2) but I have found myself with plenty of admirers. I know many other bigger girls who have guys fawning over them, and you know what, it's all attitude! If you feel hot, and act like you are (without blasting it to the world) people will know it. Men and women can detect insecurity a mile away.