rant/question

[Heath]

GRR! I am so fed up with not having a boyfriend. I mean, honestly...my last real relationship thats lasted longer than a week was in January. And I'm so sick of being single. It seems like everytime I like a guy and he likes my back, something gets screwed up and we end up fighting and not getting along. I see my friends get attention from guys(and they normally dont) all the time now and I don't get any. I'm some what jealous. We had the county fair last weekend and I kept glaring at all the couples! I mean, I just want somebody I can be like that with. That I can hold in my arms and tell them I care so much about them and all that.....I'M TIRED OF BEING SINGLE! GRR!

Okay, now for the question....

Guys, what do you look for in a girl? like physical features, personality wise, anything...just anything...

[dulcinea]

heh. I was single for TWO YEARS before I met my boyfriend of now. And you know what? Sometimes, yeah, I was lonely as all hell. But most of the time, it was great because I gained a lot of self-confidence and I learned how to be an independent person. And I quit looking for a significant other to make me happy. I mean, yeah, having a cute boy or girl in your life makes you happy, but it's temporary because sooner or later, they'll probably end up hurting you. That's just the way it is. *shrugs* But if you have confidence, and you like YOURSELF, that's more of a concrete form of happiness.

And trust me, everyone looks for something different, but the one thing that is (for the most part) universal is CONFIDENCE. A girl who walks around staring at the floor and makes it clear that she hates herself is not, well, attractive. I, for one, don't want a girl that thinks she's so horrible, and I have to constantly reassure her that she's not. That's no fun, and at our age, relationships are supposed to be fun, dammit! :P

In the wise words of Rent, "You'll never share real love until you love yourself." Just keep that in mind. ;)

[Nikster]

Amen Dulcy!!!

I found that when I did find a guy, it was when I gave up and stopped searching high and low for one. Then the most wonderful guy on the earth came around.

However, I was single for two years prior to this also and I agree with Dulcinea...sure it can get lonely (but that's what vibrators are for :lol: J/K!!) but it does give you a chance to see who YOU are inside and find out how to be happy with just you. I know it gets old at times, but you just have to remember that you will not always be single...someday you will meet your prince. Boys are enough to deal with...trust me, you don't really want one right now, hehe.

Best of luck to you. =)

[Heath]

well, yea, I have confidence, I always have. I like myself...its just...I hate to admit it, but my friend kinda made me realize it, in order for me to be COMPLETELY happy, I have to have a person to share my life with. It sounds so stupid. But, I have confidence. I don't know..ehh...I'm just sick of it...

[BlondTgr]

*growls* I hate being single, too. grr it sucks like hell...especially when there are EVIL guys in WA. :roll:

Yeah, an important thing to learn in life is to be able to be alone...it's very important, you can't rely on others to be happy, or a lot of times you'll be miserable when there's really no reason to be.

I hate it too, though...*sigh* Someday soon though, it'll be okay. :-?

[Wrightman84]

i gott add to that rant
BEING SINGLE "LICKS NUTS!!! "<- lol a friend said that today the stuff in ""
:lol:
and to add to that going to an all boys school is just a swift kick to the nuts!
ahhh! i was soooo happy when i had a gf and now that i am single again.. well it been a yr but still so annoying! i can't even be around girls at school well unles they come durning my spare :mrgreen:

and to answer ur question. well looks have about uhh 30% to do with it.. 35% brains 35% personality
looks: i lik brunettes, blonds, uhh ne hair doesn't matter, not too long not too short, caucasion not anorexik [sp]
brains: not dumb, but not too smart
personality: well just a nice personality

[Heath]

see...at least he agrees with me! Thanks, dave!

[Wrightman84]

yes i agree with you..
being single is a bitch!

[moonangel]

Being single can suck, but being in a relationship can suck too. There's pros and cons to both ... always remember that.

I've been through it as well ... before I had my current boyfriend I was single for a LONG time. There were a lot of lows, a lot of times that I felt lonely as hell, but man, there were some good times as well. You're suffering the "grass is greener" syndrome I think, because if you were in a couple, you'd probably be watching the carefree single people and feeling as envious as hell. Being single can be so great, you're not tied down, you're free, you have no-one to answer to, you can spend more time on just YOU. Sure, it can be lonely, but being independent is great. It's such a wonderful thing to HAVE someone, to be in a relationship, but a relationship also brings a whole new set of obligations, worries and stresses to your life as well. There is a whole other person that you suddenly have to worry about as well, which can require a large amount of time and effort.
You might want to be in a relationship, fair enough, but in the meantime I think you should try and make the most of being single. It can be so FUN. Don't wish your life away, and don't settle with the first guy you find just for the sake of being in a relationship. It's not the be-all and end-all. There are a lot more things you can focus your energy on.

[Heath]

ehh fine! ME AND DAVE will be the rebels here and yea..we'll just stick to uhh..being single "licks nuts"?? lol..grr..but Dave loves me! Maybe...I don't know..does he?! grr!!! lol...darn it...if only he lived closer!

[Wrightman84]

ya but there are plp in this world that are called givers.. what about them.. they can't stand to be single , they like to give and spend time with their significant other. i didn't look at the single plp and was enviouse.. i looked at them and i felt sorry tha they didn't ahve a gf / bf
and i look at couples and go "y can't that be me~?"

[Heath]

i second that .... he put it the very way I was thinking just couldn't say .... every damn word in that is perfect..good job !!

[dulcinea]

ya but there are plp in this world that are called givers.. what about them.. they can't stand to be single , they like to give and spend time with their significant other. i didn't look at the single plp and was enviouse.. i looked at them and i felt sorry tha they didn't ahve a gf / bf
and i look at couples and go "y can't that be me~?"
heh, there are also people in this world who are called "those with minimal self-esteem."

I hate to break it to you, but if the only way you can be completely happy is to be in a relationship, you need to grow up in a very big way. Because you know what that means? It means you'll go from shitty relationship to shitty relationship, just to have somebody, ANYBODY in your life. You'll throw yourself at people just for the sake of having a significant other and you'll just get repeatedly burned. It's fucking STUPID.

I did the same thing. And then, guess what? I grew up and realised what bullshit it is. And then when I was finally content with who I was happened to be when what-might-be-the-perfect-boy came along.

[goofball]

as moonangel said, there are good things and bad things to each one. The trick is that most people focus on the bad of whatever they currently have. The secret to happiness is to focus on the good things pertaining to what you have instead of the bad ones.

As a wise man once said,
If you're not happy here and now, then you never will be.
(yeah, it's a little general i know, but the point is well taken.)

[TimeToPlayTheGame]

The grass is always greener on the other side. Cliche but often true. I've been single for a little more than a year now, was in an LDR with my girlfriend the entire one year I did have one, and the year before that I was single for 21 YEARS!! Beat that!! :lol:

There's always people that have it worse, and I'm sure there's people that have it lots worse than me. Ok, well maybe not "lots". :mrgreen: It's like moonangel and goofball said. People have moments when they're COMPLETELY happy, but it's not something that is a constant. The key is to find a happy existence. Have a good outlook on life and appreciate what you do have. Try to find a level of happiness in the here and now and adapt those plans as you grow. You'll get a relationship and then there'll be new stuff you have to deal with in order to be happy.

All that said, there are many times when I'll read what I just wrote and say "what a load of crap!!" :) I've often felt that way and I know I will feel that way. I want to have a relationship. I think we all do at some point or we wouldn't be here. As much as I'd like to find a girlfriend, even more I just want chances. **mini-rant**One freakin' date! And I'm trying my best to make conscious efforts to get chances. That's what's most frustrating to me. I know I'm a good guy and that I have good qualities and what it takes to be a good boyfriend, but I'm just so inexperienced that I haven't been able to get to the point where I get the chance to show someone.**end mini-rant** Allow yourself some of those times and blow off some steam, just make your best effort to keep your overall outlook on life a good one and you'll be much happier.

Just as us single people often have a tough time seeing/remembering all the new troubles that come with a relationship, people in a relationship often have a tough time remembering what it's like feeling really lonely. That said, being single frequently "licks nuts". :mrgreen:

Oh, and for type of girl I like:
1. She likes me back. (This one is key)
2. Sweet, nice, good-hearted, personable, overall good personality and person to be around.
3. Smart (be able to hold intelligent conversation - however much more smart than that doesn't matter either way to me), and good sense of humor, playful.
4. Anywhere from average to althetic figure, a pretty face, and long/medium-long hair (preferably long - mid-back).
5. Physical specifics/favorites of mine (not requirements) would be brunette, blue/blue-ish eyes, great smile, one of those cute feminine laughs and hence cute feminine voice (probably becomes that way when you are into someone anyway but hey), and C or D cup boobs that fit the woman's body frame. (Yes, I've thought about what I want in a girl a few times before...) :)

[Dreamer]

...and the year before that I was single for 21 YEARS!! Beat that!! :lol:

24 years and counting... :roll:

[Wrightman84]

**mini-rant**One freakin' date! And I'm trying my best to make conscious efforts to get chances. That's what's most frustrating to me. I know I'm a good guy and that I have good qualities and what it takes to be a good boyfriend, but I'm just so inexperienced that I haven't been able to get to the point where I get the chance to show someone.**end mini-rant**

Oh, and for type of girl I like:
1. She likes me back. (This one is key)
2. Sweet, nice, good-hearted, personable, overall good personality and person to be around.
3. Smart (be able to hold intelligent conversation - however much more smart than that doesn't matter either way to me), and good sense of humor, playful.
4. Anywhere from average to althetic figure, a pretty face, and long/medium-long hair (preferably long - mid-back).
5. Physical specifics/favorites of mine (not requirements) would be brunette, blue/blue-ish eyes, great smile, one of those cute feminine laughs and hence cute feminine voice (probably becomes that way when you are into someone anyway but hey), and C or D cup boobs that fit the woman's body frame. (Yes, I've thought about what I want in a girl a few times before...) :)
uhh ya the rant is basicly what i am at right now..
but being at an all boys school, is as i previously said, "a swift kick to the nuts" but this year it is the first REAL week of school and i have met 5 girls already :D things are looking good!
and about what u want in a girl.. uhh ya that mine in more detail cept a few minor changes

[Raptor]

well, yea, I have confidence, I always have. I like myself...its just...I hate to admit it, but my friend kinda made me realize it, in order for me to be COMPLETELY happy, I have to have a person to share my life with. It sounds so stupid. But, I have confidence. I don't know..ehh...I'm just sick of it...

i know exactly what u mean. I like myself, like the way i am, but i just need a girl in my life, some one to love, hold, care bout for me to feel complete - thats what i need to make me truely happy...

[Heath]

well, yea, I have confidence, I always have. I like myself...its just...I hate to admit it, but my friend kinda made me realize it, in order for me to be COMPLETELY happy, I have to have a person to share my life with. It sounds so stupid. But, I have confidence. I don't know..ehh...I'm just sick of it...

i know exactly what u mean. I like myself, like the way i am, but i just need a girl in my life, some one to love, hold, care bout for me to feel complete - thats what i need to make me truely happy...

hehe, he agrees with me...I like him even more now..! :mrgreen:

[Wrightman84]

well, yea, I have confidence, I always have. I like myself...its just...I hate to admit it, but my friend kinda made me realize it, in order for me to be COMPLETELY happy, I have to have a person to share my life with. It sounds so stupid. But, I have confidence. I don't know..ehh...I'm just sick of it...

i know exactly what u mean. I like myself, like the way i am, but i just need a girl in my life, some one to love, hold, care bout for me to feel complete - thats what i need to make me truely happy...

hehe, he agrees with me...I like him even more now..! :mrgreen:
that is me too.. ahh i could go on describing me for hours..
ya raptor is still cool..