hand jobs!!

[Cutie]

i gave my boyfriend a hand job tonight (my first time!) and he seemed to enjoy it a lot :D , but i was just wondering how to make it better for him, since i have obviously very little experience? thanks a bunch, xoxo

[Deidre]

There are lots of sites with articles out there.... http://www.sexuality.org is one site with articles on it (at least I think so!).

Things to think about...
[list] Start slow
¤ Increase speed at response, not because it's time
¤ Don't forget about the testicles (careful! they're sensitive)
¤ There is a point between the testicles and anus, which is pleasureable to massage
¤ There is more to the penis than the head
¤ It is not as sensitive as it may seem[list]

I assume you've thought about most if not all of these things before, but just in case, you know. :)

You can vary between using just your fingertips to using your whole palm. I guess the guys here could give you more information than I could, of course. Something my boyfriend seems to enjoy very much though is when you twist the skin a little (not much!) at the head when going through your basic motion.

[BigJim]

also depends if he's cut or not. if not, lube is almost always needed. even if he's not, apparently it's better with lube.

[lana]

Hmmm... it depends... can you describe it? Was his underwear on or off? How did you go about it? Need details :wink:

Here are some pieces of advice:

1. Grip. You can change up the grip from time to time... you can grip it more loosely and then a bit tighter.

2. Lubrication. No no! I'm not quite saying you use your own salvia... but if you have a bottle available... it makes it interesting... just a suggestion.

3. Always share good communication with your man. Don't be afraid. There are spots on his penis he may enjoy having you to touch/stroke in a certain way (especially the tip of the penis). Just ask, I'm sure he'll appreciate it!

[Mav]

I'd say lubrication is most important. Just skin from hand pumping aganist skin on penis can get very numb and raw after a short time and become very very painful. Use some kind of lube, lotion, baby oil, your own salivia is good too :evil2:

[Madeku]

ok, first off lube is.. enh, messy.. at least when iv done that to myself.. if your guy is uncircumsised, then you dont really need lube for the pumping action. but if you concentrate on the head, you're going to need some, so i suggest a little bit of your saliva. it'll absorb, so get ready to add a bit more later..

if he is circumsised then you'll most likely need some kind of lubricant. think of it this way, if your clit and vagina were dry as a bone, and a guy was trying to rub it and finger you, wouldnt it be uncomfortable? try something that is water based. cos vaseline is just plain disgusting and hard to clean up.