"Love"

[DateDude]

So I've never truely told a girl that I love her. I just never felt that way. But my current girlfriend, I'm getting pretty close with. I'm not gonna make this all dramatic or emotional but I'm gonna just state a fact: Whenever we're together, her and I have fun and enjoy it EVERY SINGLE TIME. Every time. We don't fight, I look out for her, she looks out for me, and it's just always a great time. And we can express our passion for each other physically very well too (making out, sex, etc...). But i've never used the word "love" yet as I'm cautious. I'm cautious because 1. I've never said it before in a truely serious way and 2. Frankly, I'm not easy to please. We've only been dating for around 5 months too.

However, this seems completely subjective as I know people who've gone out for a matter of weeks who say they love each other. And frankly, I personally don't believe the word love means much more than the simple fact that we really enjoy each other's presence and want to use a stronger word than "like." Concerning her, I know she loves me. I can just feel it, but she's never directly said it outright either. She's said "I like you, a lot a lot", "I heart you", and she's always missing me, even just after a day or 2 of not seeing me. It's like she's waiting for me to say it. I've said to her "you love me" before and she replied with "I love you if you love me." Whatever that means, lol. One thing I've noticed though is she's never really denied it when i say these things. Anyway, what's your guys' view on the word?

[ke35096]

Thows stapler at you. JUST SAY IT ALLREADY!!!!

all your going to do is make your relationship stronger if you say it. all your going to do is have her walking on the clouds if you do.

[Blossoms]

If you have to question yourself about whether or not you should say it... even if you feel it, I would hold off until it just feels natural. Some people go through stages of thinking they love someone, knowing they love someone, and eventually knowing you have to say it. In my opinion (I know this doesn't apply for everyone) but I'd like to be 100% sure about something like that, and not except the relationship to change just because you said a word. :)

It's been about six months already for me... but I feel like I'm pretty much at the point where I have to say it. I know it's been a while, and I've known for a while... but I just had to wait until I stopped questioning my feelings first. Questioning doesn't mean that you don't love someone, it just means you're extra cautious.

[JukeboxHero]

I have to agree with blossoms on this. It is always much better to say it when you are 105% sure, than if you have absolutely even the tiniest bit of doubt. Because once you say it, it becomes a drop off of a cliff, so that if you should ever need a reason to break up (and granted I'm not suggesting that you would or should) it becomes a very easy guilt trip to pull. So if you say it and really mean it, you should be fine.