Friends Zone?

[Aero]

What are your opnions on it?

Few weeks back there was a post questioning if girls fell for their friends or not. They said yes. So did guys. So why do people think that if a guy and a girl are friends with each other, they won't fall in love with each other?

[IGemini]

I think falling for friends is a good thing, as opposed to dating someone you hardly know. I hate it when people complain about falling back to the friend zone when they don't make it with someone, because then they get stuck on it and they can't move on.

[dulcinea]

I've noticed that yes, people tend to date those they don't know more often. Sort of gives it an air of mystery, and you learn more about them as the relationship progresses.

But the relationships that WORK are the ones where people were good friends first. I'm not saying that every relationship that comes from a friendship is going to last forever, nor am I saying that every relationship that comes from two people who don't know each other well is not going to work. It's just, the people I know that are happiest and most secure in their relationships are the ones that are dating their best friend.

[goofball]

once oy ufall into the friends zone, getting out is almost impossible.

9 times out of 10 it's best to just cut your losses

[flirtandahalf]

Just random thoughts that don't really connect...

My theory is that in most guy-girl friendships (not all, but most of the ones I've been in and seen), at some point or another one of the people involved is going to like the other one. That's just sort of the way it works. But while I think it can be easy for girls to slip into the "friends zone" with guys and not think of them that way after awhile, if they were attracted to the guy at one point it's pretty likely that with close personal contact and a strong friendship she's going to fall for him (or at least be attracted to him) again eventually. For me personally, I have a relationship or two where I liked the guy since the beginning, and even though I'm over him now, I'm still attracted to him and probably always will be. Some attractions you just don't get over, and since in friendships trust is built up, you're naturally inclined to want to spend more time with the person anyway, and it's easy to have a romantic relationship with them since you know each other really well already.

[Aero]

once oy ufall into the friends zone, getting out is almost impossible. But that doesn't mean relationship can occur in it, right?

The thing I'm askin is (since most people seems to have missed the point, not blaming ya'll it's my fault for not being clear) why do they think that a guy and a girl within Friends Zone cannot fall in love with each other?

[1Diamond Tiara]

The thing I'm askin is (since most people seems to have missed the point, not blaming ya'll it's my fault for not being clear) why do they think that a guy and a girl within Friends Zone cannot fall in love with each other?
Of course they can fall in love with eachother its a possibility, but usually what people mean by "friendship zone" is NOT being friends but holding feelings for eachother, its usually when at least one side, doesn't return the feelings. So its unreciprocated and the person says "great i'm in friend zone".
Sometimes people are in friend zone, because neither wants to ruin the friendship built up- if you've been friends for ages chances are you will feel weird - ya know physical contact with someone that you've viewed in a certain goofy way. So that can put people in "Friend zone".

Friend zone- doesn't necessarily stop people from falling in love, but it does stop any "action" taking place to act on those feelings - cos its like you've gone to the point where one or both sides doesn't think theres any prospect of a r/ship from it, and its better off being friends and keeping those feelings inside. In other words torturing yourself :)
hope that answered your question.

[1Diamond Tiara]

oh yeah and its an attraction factor. If you're attracted to your friend then its all good- at any time those feelings can come back. But if you're just not attracted and are put in "friend zone" well then theres little chance a person will fall for that person- later on down the track.

Friend zone does not mean - friends that wanna go out with eachother necessarily, it usually means unrequited love, or simply not seeing any prospect in a relationship with ur friend- you prefer just their company little more. Attraction plays a big part as to whether the person can get out of friend zone or not.

[Wrightman84]

i have been in the friend zone b4 and it sux! i hate liking a girl that doesn't like me back... rrrrr! y do girls always want to be friends with me.. ! it's not fair..!

[Aero]

its usually when at least one side, doesn't return the feelings. So is Friends Zone temporary? Since sometimes, a person can fall in love with a friend after they get to know the guy over some periods of time, as stated earlier.

Sometimes people are in friend zone, because neither wants to ruin the friendship built up This is another theory which I think is rather weird... If you are really that great of a friend, then relationship will work out 99% of the time... 'Not wanting to ruin a friendship' is usually an excuse - a way of saying 'I don't like you' is it not?

Thanks for helpin me clear things up peepz.

[chiukit]

temporary? i wouldnt say that. pretty much if you're there... you're going to stay there. there is a VERY slim chance that it'll work out. unless, well, the girl likes you too. if she doesnt... of course, like in any case, theres things you can do to convince her otherwise, you know? like i convince my ex.


as for another topic being discussed in this thread... going out with people you just met and people you're good friends with? well, i think right now i'd choose people i just met... like i guess i'm kinda dating this girl right now... couple dates. not that i just met her or anything, but we haven't spoken in a while and i haven't seen her in ages. kinda like the same thing anyways. i think that's so much more fun than when you're with a friend. because then, things are already settled, you know? like you already know enough about each other, takes away the fun in it i guess. and i'm not ready to settle in any relationship... i guess that's maybe why i'm just dating and not getting into a relationship.

[dulcinea]

i have been in the friend zone b4 and it sux! i hate liking a girl that doesn't like me back... rrrrr! y do girls always want to be friends with me.. ! it's not fair..!
hey, it's better than "get away from me, you freak!!!" :P

I have the problem of being such hardcore tomboy (or something) that boys all think of me as just another boy, only with boobs and longer hair. Now THAT'S a bitch. But it has given me insight into how the male mind works. Way too much insight, sometimes. *gags*

[super_chevy2000]

I haven't ever fell for a friend of mine but I know several of my friends have fallen for each other. 2 out of 3 of those relationships are still going strong. I think you have a healthier relationship with someone if you start out as friends.

[Heath]

you know theres a saying about that...sorta..

A guy and a girl can just be friends
But at one point or another, they will fall for each other


theres more, i just dont remember it..haha...but yea...and dave...girls wanna be friends with you cause your such a GREAT FRIEND! ha!

[flanker12k]

I think it also has a lot to do with what do both parties expect from being in a relationship vs. not (declared attraction for one another?) Because Gf (my opinion) are just friends you kiss =P

[joss_of_caramel]

yeah how many times have we heard that its not possible for a guy and a girl to be just friends...hmmm

but i spose its just easy to fall for friends, because you get to knoe them pretty well and all that...and the attraction just suddenly hits you one day kinda thing...

theres nothing wrong with going out with friends...but you have to consider the consequences of doing so. like if u did go out with the friend, and it didnt work out, are u risking the friendship ? and also consider how much u value the friendship and what comes with it...and u also have to be prepared for things to be different if the r'ship doesnt last.

[thevoice]

reminds me of a joke...

who will win the battle of the sexes? Neither men nor women because there is too much fraternizing(spelling?) with the enemy.

[ArRoWLeGeNd]

theres nothing wrong with going out with friends...but you have to consider the consequences of doing so. like if u did go out with the friend, and it didnt work out, are u risking the friendship ? and also consider how much u value the friendship and what comes with it...and u also have to be prepared for things to be different if the r'ship doesnt last.


there are also consequences to staying just friends as well:

1.)regret which may occur years down the road
2.)someone my make a move before youre ready, leaving you S.O.L.
3.)you could be passing up one of the greatest things to happen up in your life.

when i think about this subject it reminds me of the movie brewster's millions. do you just wanna walk away right now with $1million(friendship), or are you willing to put it all on the line for that $300million(relationship,love)??? looking at both sides there is an opportunity cost either way, it just depends on the person and what they want and what they are WILLING to give up to get it.


~ArRoWLeGeNd~

[E=mc^2]

once oy ufall into the friends zone, getting out is almost impossible.

9 times out of 10 it's best to just cut your losses

Amen brother.