Bella1234
October 12th, 2009, 01:18 PM
Ok--I have a confusing situation with a guy that I need some advice on.
About a month and a half ago, I was out at a club and (sadly) had intentions on having my first one night stand. I had been in a terribly long drought, and just needed some "fun" for one night. Low and behold--I met this guy named "David" and bam! I reach my goal.
Seeing that I'd never had a ONS (and he claimed he hadn't either), I just assumed that would be the end of it--no dates, calls, conversations, etc. But the next day, we went to breakfast and we ended up texting each other for the next two days. Weird....
So, he asked me out. I agreed. He asked me out again. I agreed. We go on two dates within a week of having our ONS, and it seemed like all was well. We were only intimate again on the second date.
After that, we just end up texting, on occasion talking on the phone. I offered to go and see him (he's 30-45 min from me) a while ago, but that didn't go through. So, for about a month, he has made no hints at trying to go on another date. :glare: Oh well. So, I sit back and let it be. About a week ago, he wanted to stop by my place to see me but I was out of town. No follow-up there.
As a sidenote: we both got out of really serious relationships. Mine ended about 10 months ago. His ended back in May.
So, in the past couple of days, he's up'd his texting. He randomly asked--so, when's our next date? I just said--whenever we're both free. No follow-up. When we initially started talking, it was a lot of the "getting to know you" type of stuff that I don't care for. But the other night, we found out that we have the same interest in--old comic books! (Go figure!) He was surprised he could be "silly" and talk to me about stuff like that.
Then, he offered to stop by my place to see me. I hadn't seen him in over a month. I agree, and we end up talking about all kinds of stuff for about 2 and a half hours. He heads home. He then sends a text telling me that he likes the fact that can just be himself around me and I won't think he's childish. I just respond with I like hanging out with him. He calls, we chat briefly, and I get off the phone for the night.
Part of our conversation at my house was about him not liking the whole dating scene because people aren't trustworthy, the type of female he wants to date (physique, intellect, attitude--which he said I possessed), when he wants to get married (after 30), etc. I listened and responded in kind but gave no real indication of me wanting to date him. As he was leaving, he was asking me what I was doing this weekend, but then backtracked and said--we'll go out soon. I said ok.
Now, what is going on here? :lol3: We go from ONS, to a few dates, to no real conversations, to THIS (whatever it is). I have no problems being friends with him, but I just don't care to have another night of "fun" (There's no doubt that we had a lot of "fun" together, but I want intimacy). I don't know what his deal is right now--I'm just trying to figure out if I should keep him in the friend category or place him back in the potential date category.
About a month and a half ago, I was out at a club and (sadly) had intentions on having my first one night stand. I had been in a terribly long drought, and just needed some "fun" for one night. Low and behold--I met this guy named "David" and bam! I reach my goal.
Seeing that I'd never had a ONS (and he claimed he hadn't either), I just assumed that would be the end of it--no dates, calls, conversations, etc. But the next day, we went to breakfast and we ended up texting each other for the next two days. Weird....
So, he asked me out. I agreed. He asked me out again. I agreed. We go on two dates within a week of having our ONS, and it seemed like all was well. We were only intimate again on the second date.
After that, we just end up texting, on occasion talking on the phone. I offered to go and see him (he's 30-45 min from me) a while ago, but that didn't go through. So, for about a month, he has made no hints at trying to go on another date. :glare: Oh well. So, I sit back and let it be. About a week ago, he wanted to stop by my place to see me but I was out of town. No follow-up there.
As a sidenote: we both got out of really serious relationships. Mine ended about 10 months ago. His ended back in May.
So, in the past couple of days, he's up'd his texting. He randomly asked--so, when's our next date? I just said--whenever we're both free. No follow-up. When we initially started talking, it was a lot of the "getting to know you" type of stuff that I don't care for. But the other night, we found out that we have the same interest in--old comic books! (Go figure!) He was surprised he could be "silly" and talk to me about stuff like that.
Then, he offered to stop by my place to see me. I hadn't seen him in over a month. I agree, and we end up talking about all kinds of stuff for about 2 and a half hours. He heads home. He then sends a text telling me that he likes the fact that can just be himself around me and I won't think he's childish. I just respond with I like hanging out with him. He calls, we chat briefly, and I get off the phone for the night.
Part of our conversation at my house was about him not liking the whole dating scene because people aren't trustworthy, the type of female he wants to date (physique, intellect, attitude--which he said I possessed), when he wants to get married (after 30), etc. I listened and responded in kind but gave no real indication of me wanting to date him. As he was leaving, he was asking me what I was doing this weekend, but then backtracked and said--we'll go out soon. I said ok.
Now, what is going on here? :lol3: We go from ONS, to a few dates, to no real conversations, to THIS (whatever it is). I have no problems being friends with him, but I just don't care to have another night of "fun" (There's no doubt that we had a lot of "fun" together, but I want intimacy). I don't know what his deal is right now--I'm just trying to figure out if I should keep him in the friend category or place him back in the potential date category.