Been a while

[doinggoodinlife]

I been so long out of the relationship scene (as in S.O.), and now I'm grown up and see things differently than the high school sweetheart stuff. How do you know when you're officially dating someone (in terms of anniversary date). Back then I just went by the first kiss thing and thats when i know the girl im with is my girlfriend. Now, I just want things to be simple and more of mature and not so kiddish stuff. Is it first time you sleep with them? Or...upon mutual agreement?

[kuju]

it's definitely NOT the first time you sleep with them, unless you sleep with them on the first date. Otherwise it seems like sex is all you're commemorating.

Regardless of when you "went official," once you ARE official, it still goes back to that first official date.

[violet]

Mutual agreement, or you just realize you talk all the time and see each other all the time and you don't even have to question it. There is nothing set in stone, but that's why people have the "talk." Dating is not cut and dry, this is something that changes from person to person.

[Deidre]

Mutual agreement decides that it's a relationship, and then whatever event you think is a good anniversary date it is.

The easy way out is to commemorate the first date (even if you weren't exclusive then), but it's really up to you what you think was most significant and worthy of commemoration for your relationship. If the first time you had sex together was the culmination of something and you both cherish the moment above all early relationship memories, then sure, commemorate that. If your first kiss was something really spectacular that deepened the relationship and made you two the couple you became, then go with that. If your third date was really great and that's when you felt a real connection, and your first date was kind of a bust, then why not celebrate your third date instead?

I doubt I'll ever 'get' anniversaries for anniversaries' sake.