craaaaaaaaaaaap, I just realized that he just broke up with her only over a month ago

[cariboucoffee]

ok, so, me again! :) I went to highschool with this guy. we NEVER spoke one word to eachother and then a few years ago he was living accross the street from me and my boyfriend (at the time) when we lived together. Even though he was acrross the street we still never talked.

Recently however, just a couple weeks ago actually, we found eachother on facebook and just started chatting. the first day we emailed we did like 65 messages! we came to realize that we know eachother but don't. so we said that we should "meet" sometime.

So, last weekend, on Friday he asked me to come to a wedding with him for the weekend because it was up north. I agreed and we had a great time. he's the sweetest, nicest guy I've ever known and very cool and absolutely gorgeous. It was a lot of fun because alot of the guests at this wedding, I went to highschool with, so I knew lots of people.

so anyway, last night he asks me if I want to go to a movie this wednesday with him and a couple other casual "we should do this" type things. well, that's all great but then I started wondering when him and his girlfriend (of 3 years) broke up so I go back in the messages and he said it was "over a month ago, no big deal, moving on, you know?"

only a month ago?!? craaaap. I don't want to be the rebound.. :( I really like him. we like the same music, we both love cats, he likes to dance, he loves taking naps, he's super nice about everything - animals, people, etc. - all these things were like, wow, this could be something but now I feel like a red flag went up.

How can I salvage anything we potentially could have and not be the rebound?

[Donna]

You don't have to be the rebound, enjoy what you have right now with him which is a budding friendship.

He may be ready to date again even though it's been a month since his break-up. People react differently to break-ups so who knows.

I would take things slowly & just enjoy hanging out with him, only time will tell if he is interested & wants to take this to the romantic level.

[cariboucoffee]

You don't have to be the rebound, enjoy what you have right now with him which is a budding friendship.

He may be ready to date again even though it's been a month since his break-up. People react differently to break-ups so who knows.

I would take things slowly & just enjoy hanging out with him, only time will tell if he is interested & wants to take this to the romantic level.

well the night we slept in the tent together we kissed. and also a few times randomly. and on the drive back from the wedding with friends he quietly said in my ear "I had a great time".

I agree, take things slow but we're a tiny step past friends. haha. :)

good, I thought I was going to only get "step back, warning warning".

[Donna]

LOL...OK so you guys are a little above the "friend zone". :biggrin2:

I do agree to keep things going slowly & see where it leads to.

Remember though if you are thinking things are going to fast, let him know, talk to him about it, ask him where he see's things going between you 2. You could do that now if you choose to, that way you will know for sure what's going on. It's up to you. :smile:

[Pailix]

In my honest opinion... a month is actually perfectly fine...

Ask his friends if he was mourning for how long, and if it is 2 weeks longer, then maybe he is rebounding you, but as of now just be friendly, I think he really does want to get more out of you.

[BecKerr]

I think this relationship sounds very sincere and think its heading in the right direction. I do think you should put a lot into the relationship but let a little bit sit back just in case he does intend to use you as a rebound... that way you wont be way hurt.
But i def. think he has good intentions :)

[awrio]

No rush! Take it easy, try to control your emotions while having him keep you in his sights.