mature beyond years?

[the muppet show]

Earlier this week i was chilling with a group of old friends. I saw them after 10 years. One of my friend was talking to me for about 45 mins or so, maybe an hour. He said in the end "you are mature beyond your years, physically you're young but in the mind ur like, 35!"

DOES THIS MEAN I AM BORING?! :eusa_booh

What does it mean when someone says that?!

[Deidre]

When someone who thinks 35 is an age of maturity says something like that it tends to mean "you're so much more focused than the rest of us" or, when it comes to relationships, "you're more rational than the rest of us". It's probably not intended as an implication that you're boring, though it may well mean that you have some traits that set you apart from the easily accessible party-buddy. Whether that's good or not is up to you.

[the muppet show]

Thanks Diedre, you're an angel! You cleared my head...and yup, it turned out to be a good thing.

They are definitely quite different from me cuz they are soooo much in tune with each other's ways and I was the observant one, a little shy and drawn back yet talkative and funny...but basing a lot of things i said on my observations. There was a point when an argument ensued between 2 people there, got quite serious, everyone over-reacted except that I was laid back and dealing with it differently... may be it was just that. Thanks again! :pizza:

But I think maturity is relative from one person to another. I might be mature in some things, but not in others.

[Gezus]

My brother is ten years older than me and I used to always hang with him and his friends. Of course, I was really annoying, but I'd also be more observant, and today I have friends in their late twenties and early thirties that say I'm mature beyond my years (I am 18 now).

It isn't a bad thing, although it might mean that you don't get along as well with people your own age.

[the muppet show]

I see what you mean Gezus - it's been generally true that I get along with people older than my age but only if they are mature themselves... I guess I am drawn to 'experience' coupled with maturity, enough to learn some thing new and intriguing.

I don't mind dealing with just about any kind of persona - cuz it's fun and there's some thing we can all share... but the more articulate ones in my age group are the ones with whom my conversations flow naturally.

However, I do think we have our own perception of maturity - I think that with a different audience altogether I wouldn't appear exactly the mature person as I did among my old friends - perhaps it's some thing they could easily distinguish between they and I given their normal ways of doing things and interacting with each other.

[Mel]

Earlier this week i was chilling with a group of old friends. I saw them after 10 years. One of my friend was talking to me for about 45 mins or so, maybe an hour. He said in the end "you are mature beyond your years, physically you're young but in the mind ur like, 35!"

DOES THIS MEAN I AM BORING?! :eusa_booh

What does it mean when someone says that?!

Hun, I would think it means you are smart for your age, or he thinks you are way smarter than he is. lol

So, he thinks that 35 is over the hill, huh? lol

[the muppet show]

Hun, I would think it means you are smart for your age, or he thinks you are way smarter than he is. lol

So, he thinks that 35 is over the hill, huh? lol

:blush: I know why!

It's probably cuz he is used to seeing people hit 35 and accepting most things in life as they are... he's usually around folks as such.

This viewpoint could lead him to thinking that's round about the age a person is past his/her youth.

:unsure:

[Carnation]

Nah, it's a good thing (Unless you want to act immature).

I never had friends in school, but all the psychologists said it was because I was more mature than my peers. It really stood out when I was in High School. I get along better with people 20+ years my senior, and I think it's better than actually acting my age (21).

Congrats, you're mature.

[the muppet show]

Nah, it's a good thing (Unless you want to act immature).

I never had friends in school, but all the psychologists said it was because I was more mature than my peers. It really stood out when I was in High School. I get along better with people 20+ years my senior, and I think it's better than actually acting my age (21).

This is definitely true - I can relate to this...though I used to feel out of place sometimes just wondering why others can't be more like me? But then I tried to adapt to each person and trying out different masks, only to learn eventually that self-belief is important if you wanna be confident... and also, being unusual can be a good thing.

Congrats, you're mature.

:eusa_danc:eusa_danc:eusa_danc:angel3:

[Gezus]

But be careful, you don't want to be a dick about it. When I was a kid, I got arrogant because I hung out with people in their twenties and certain people kept saying I was mature. Although I probably got arrogant because I really wanted to believe I was better than all the other people in high school and that that was the only reason they wanted nil to do with me.

[the muppet show]

I know what you mean.

I think we have to be honest about how we feel about ourselves - if you notice some thing that makes you different from others it's essential to acknowledge it.

But like I said, everyone's got something good to show and we have a lot to share with each other. I might be mature in some things, but not other things.

Even still, I don't think I want to be toooooooooo different to those of my age group, cuz I actually like their company.