always attracting the wrong kind...lol

[merker]

i think my luck has been sooo bad with women recently lol its possibly unbelieveable lol


several of the girls iv met have never txt back next day, 2 i liked aint bothered with me n seems they aint keen, and my story last night was possibly the worst bad luck ever... i think it will give some people laughs at my sort of misfortune :D

got drunk in this club, knew myself i wouldnt have a chance with anyone because i wasnt dressed up to go out, and i wasnt feeling 100%, i just wasnt in the mood, anyways, outta no where the chance came into place, girl sat alone, spoke to her, all went well, kissed, finally back to my place, then i realise who it is (she changed her hair) and its 1 of the most notorious slappers out there, anyways, im thinking, maybe it could be a laugh, got the music on, kissed, but she passed out :O, anyways, in the morning, i sobered up, saw her and felt sick lol, then she was discussing how she had sex with a guy last night and the night before...

she hasnt long left but im glad shes gone lol, anyways, i dunno what it is, but i either attract people i dont fancy (many would be interested though), some of the 1's i like and have a chance with are "slappers" and the rest of the 1's i like are never interested :S

its not because of my confidence at all because iv learnt to overcome it and gain a lot of confidence :( d'oh

[Adonis]

whats s slapper

[merker]

like someone who sleeps around, 1 day they sleep with 1 guy, few days later they sleep with another,

[lolbear]

You look for women in clubs, you're finding that most either aren't interested or are slappers.

From what I understand, women go to clubs to dance or meet men for shallow sexual relationships. Ergo they're not interested or slutty.

[merker]

yeh i think in clubs it is a hugee problem, out of maybe 30-40 i have kissed in clubs over my lifetime only 2 of them have become serious relationships lasting a year or more, the rest of the time were either nothing but a quick kiss, an incident like last night or they werent interested. I think last night certainly made me think twice about clubbing, especially after that girl i took home, as wel left the club her mate was going off with this lad to his house n she came back to mine and was talking about it. Speaking like going to some new guys house every week or so is the "in thing" and theres no problem with it (she even told me how she had sex with a different guy the night before meeting me) im just relieved she only stayed over and i didnt actually go through with sex with her

i cant terribly find many more options to meet new girls, i live in a small town of only about 30,000 people, with online dating iv been on about 20 or so sites, the 1's with the most amount of local girls on the site only has around 150 at max and as sad as i may seem but i probably have checked every single 1 of them (out of the 1's that have replied maybe 10 wernt my type, and out of the 6 i met in person 2 i had a relationship with, the others i didnt get on with, and theres about 4 that say about meeting up for the past year but never stick to it as i have still never met them yet). Of course now because i have been in touch with them all theres none left to flirt with.

theres not really many more possibilitys here to find single girls, if i meet 1 i like then im sorta shy, but when the shyness goes either they arent interested or if they are its only for a 1 night stand. My friends are a different scene to myself (and arent always around due to university) where they are all the rock/punk/indy loving scene, but im more of the dance scene. Theyre general attitudes doesnt involve meeting new girls at all really they prefer to sit at home playing computer games or having a quiet drink in the pub. Obviously the thing to do there is expand my friends.

I do have female friends but they are not my type and i dont fancy them, but what usually happens is i lose them as friends because they invite me on a night out with their mates who i wouldnt of met before, then she will try it on with me, i'll explain i only like her as a mate and their friends may think im messing her around and not bother with me again.

The only other things really is meeting them at work... but i never look my best at work because we have to wear this rubbish uniform. Although a lot of the time there has been smiles and girls trying to make general conversation with me it certainly isnt the right place to start asking for their numbers (strict bosses). Other than that its to meet them randomly in the street, although it isnt a good look walking up and down town then going up to 1 at random and start chatting. Usually if im not working i may go to town and have 1 or 2 pints in the pub (usually at between mid-day until 3pm) to relieve my stresses of work days and chill... but again it isnt a good look seeing a guy in the pub drinking beer in the early hours of the afternoon.


well and truly stumped

[moonangel]

Um ... move towns? Sounds like you've exhausted a lot of the possibilities.

The only other things really is meeting them at work... but i never look my best at work because we have to wear this rubbish uniform.

You actually think that what you wear has some bearing on whether you'll pick up or not? If I see a cute/interesting guy at work his uniform makes no difference.

[iceman12]

meet the type of women you'd expect to attract....
bars=slappers
bookstore=intelegent
gym=athletic

go where you'll find the type of woman you want.

oh, and don't be klingy when you first txt them (do'nt txt her if she does't text you back, don't text super long messages, don't mention love or ex's)

[merker]

Um ... move towns? Sounds like you've exhausted a lot of the possibilities.



You actually think that what you wear has some bearing on whether you'll pick up or not? If I see a cute/interesting guy at work his uniform makes no difference.

i think thats completely it, maybe i have exhausted many of the possibilities, there was a time a few years back where i knew loads of decent girls, usually what would happen is i would be with 1 of them and the others may remotely fancy me, and once it ended with that current girl, i would meet up with 1 of the decent girls i know and if i liked her we would start a relationship, now of course theres nothing like that.

i think its more the place i work than what im like at work, because its not a store that girls find it ideal to go in, in fact most people my age would feel somewhat embarassed to be seen in there (no its not a porno shop lol), as mentioned in not the ideal pulling scene either because managers are all around constantly, so if i chatted up some girl and asked for her number its more than likely i'll be taken into the office and given a warning or something like that.

[merker]

meet the type of women you'd expect to attract....
bars=slappers
bookstore=intelegent
gym=athletic

go where you'll find the type of woman you want.

oh, and don't be klingy when you first txt them (do'nt txt her if she does't text you back, don't text super long messages, don't mention love or ex's)

hmmm,

i think theres no set type im after, just an all round woman, not thin but not hugely fat, quiet not a loudmouth, intelligent but not someone whos going to make me look stupid compared to them.


i dont see myself as too clingy, if i meet a girl and she hasnt txt the next day i may txt her, but then leave it, if she doesnt txt bk i'll know where i stand, definately talking about x's is 1 thing i never like doing andif they try to talk about theirs i say i dont wanna know (as i mentioned before my idea of a new relationship/date is to think of it as your 1st, forget the past with other x's and just think of the future that matters more)


the problem i have had as well is when women actually tell me about x's or what theyve done in bed, and its almost driving my thinking in to why shouldnt i become someone who sleeps around for a bit... for years i had been innocent, not sleeping with anyone i wasnt in a relationship with... but it seems almost every girl iv had a relationship with find it no problem saying how many people theyve been to bed with and in all but 1 relationship it had been double/triple the amount of people iv slept with.. that fades my hopes a lot where i think im being decent by turning 1 night stands down the reality is pretty much any girl i get with would have slept around at some point


at the moment there is 1 girl im interested in (but can see little chance of it happening). I met her online, she seems ok but lives in another town, when i 1st spoke to her contact all of a sudden was lost and i was with my x, then we're back in touch now. However convo is pretty useless, i wanted 2 meet up with her next week, and she was keen for this (even said how shes excited and cant wait), until the othe day when she txt saying shes working so cant meet. Im usually the 1's to initiate txting contact, she may contact me 1st on social networking sites but its me that has to txt 1st.. perhaps i should jsut be upfront and say is there any chance or is it 1 big no hoper lol

[JoeShmoe]

Has anyone ever told you that you sound very gay?

[merker]

hahaha, all the time ;)...

[Cutter102481]

I never went to clubs to meet girls. I always met them online because they were local, and single. Or at car meets, friends/get togethers, ect.

Bars/clubs = bad!! Unless your looking for a one nighter.

Start looking elsewhere. Personally, I would go to a tanning salon, or a gym. ;)