never been kissed

[LiLbaByAnGeL]

ok, here's the thing... i'm 14, and all my friends have kissed guys b4 like its nothing... then there's me... im COMPLETELY clueless on what to do.... :-? i currently have a boyfriend but we haven't been going out very long... actually only a few days... i'm hoping he'll be my first kiss but im so nervous that im gonna mess up or do something wrong... whats the deal? any helpful hints?

[Crash Override]

Just go with the flow.

Don't feel pressured to start kissing just because all your friends are doing it.

I myself started dating/kissing around your age, but my current girlfriend is almost 19, and I was her first kiss (we started dating last October).

Everyone moves at different levels. It's not going to be fireworks or anything...it's just a kiss. Don't hype it up too much.

[Cherisse]

Well, what kind of kiss are we talking here? Are we talking about just a nice long lip kiss, or an hour-long makeout session?

If you've never been kissed, at all, I'll suggest you go for the simple lip-kiss. Once you're comfortable with that, you can move on to other things.

I've you've just never made out before, I have very little advice. I was about 13 or 14 when I first "french"-kissed a boy. I was pretty scared that I'd do something completely retarded, and mess it all up. Don't worry about that. Just let it flow. But wait until you're comfortable with him, and the idea of kissing him. When you guys break up, because that's inevitable at 14, you can develop your own style with your future boyfriends.

Have fun. ;)

[Minimus]

Well. First of all if anyones gonna kiss its gonna be him kissing you, cause the guy usually does dat stuff. So you dont really need to worry about it. Kissing isn't that hard. I'm sure as soon as his lips touch yours you'll instantly know how..it just comes to you. I was the same exact way!

[IGemini]

By the old AA definition, your kiss is this:

Sartrean kiss:
A kiss that you worry yourself to death about even though it really doesn't matter anyway.

And that's the point. You shouldn't worry about the kiss. Most people do either a closed mouth or an open mouth kiss (but not a french with the tongue). Just a couple of guidelines: make sure your mouth is rather dry (some people can be naturally wet when it comes to that) and make it enjoyable :) that's all there is to it.

[wowzers]

yah dont worry about it... relax and have fun

[JessiMari]

ah don't worrie....My first kiss was when I was 14...I was very nervous too..fortunately he made the first move...It comes out very natural....just take it very slow and you'll be fine hun...GOOD LUCK tho... l8z :)

[super_chevy2000]

Just go with the flow.

Don't feel pressured to start kissing just because all your friends are doing it.

I myself started dating/kissing around your age, but my current girlfriend is almost 19, and I was her first kiss (we started dating last October).

Everyone moves at different levels. It's not going to be fireworks or anything...it's just a kiss. Don't hype it up too much.

That is perfect advice and I couldn't have put it any better myself. One more thing. . . kissing just because all your friend have will mess up your first kiss. It needs to be special for you and done because you want to do it.

[Raptor]

being nervous is like anything else - it will muck it up, whereas if u relax and go with it, u wont. The guy probly wont even know that this is your first

[Danae]

I agree with everyone else. Kissing really is not as nerve wracking as we make it out to be! heeh


By the way...your lil cow avatar is moving to the beat of the song I'm listening to! hahah

[AbnormalBob]

dont worry about it, let him kiss you, and it should go fine, youll get used to the motions

[sweet-one]

Yes, try not to worry about it. I know it's hard not to, but if you start worrying and getting yourself frustrated, it's going to make the kiss less enjoyable. So, for right now, put the idea in the back of your head. It will come naturally to you when you kiss. I had no idea how to kiss my first time, and like many others, it wasn't a complete failure of a kiss. It was quite good. :-D So, stop worrying and have fun!!!

[KAFEEN]

Hay its okay! Pshh I didnt get my first kiss until I was 13,and all my friends kissed guys and stuff. You might feel kind of 'left out' but if they aren't rude friends, they wont put you down. Plus I think it's kind of cute to be *innocent*,well my first boyfriend thought it was. Don't sweat it,when you kiss,just close your eyes,open ur lips,and do it! If you mess up, you can always practice,you dont have a problem with pratcing do you? Kissing is like the best thing you can do with your lips/mouth! along with eating,drinking,smoking(mabye=),yelling,smiling,ta lking..etc!

[wowzers]

psah... i didnt have my first meaningful kiss until like a month ago... and im 16... see when i was 14 i was in the same position as you, ya know all my friends had kissed guys long before and everything... and i really wanted to also...

so there was this guy who had said he liked me, (it went back a lot further than that) and like a month later we were jus hanging out and we were talking about how we both had never been kissed... so he said "ya wanna jus see what its like, i mean ... just to try it" and so i knew beforehand that it wasnt supposed to mean anything but i had liked him for a while and he had said he liked me a few weeks before... so i was kinda expecting that something would come of it. well after that it was awkward, so i went home...

and the next week at the cast party after the end of our big annual juggling shows. i went up to him to ask him about the possibility of us going out and he kinda hesitated and looked at me and then he said, "well... see... i dunno. im gonna hafta talk to you about this later" and he walked away and i was so confused. well it was at this rich kids house and there was a huge wooded area/pond in his backyard and a lil log cabin... and so he went back there w another friend guy friend of ours... when they came back, the guy i liked mysteriously disappeared inside the house (no one knew where he went for an hour) and the guy he talked to and i went into the cabin. so he explained to me that this guy had gotten asked out by this girl (name wouldnt be disclosed to me) 2 days before...

well i went into the tiny bathroom in the cabin and locked the door and sat in there crying for an hour... finally i let a good friend of mine in and i told her what happened and everything... thats what i got for trying to rush into things with a guy for that kiss i really wanted... all i got was a shitload of pain; i was crushed.

so the moral of that REALLY way too long story is dont try to force things to happen. good things come to those who wait

[dulcinea]

*grrr* to you people who think not being kissed at age fourteen is bad.

Jesus, my friends were having sex before I got my first kiss. I was sixteen.

anyway, it's not even half as big a deal as you think it is, trust me. If you're anything vaguely resembling normal, you'll have hundreds of kisses before you die, so there's plenty of time to practise. :mrgreen:

[sageraw]

I have never bean kissed and I am 16 I too worry about not doing it right, but I think that when the time comes and if he really likes me he wount mind if I am bad the first time. I heard a story about a guy not being kissed untill the day he was maried. I think that is sooo sweet, and a bit sad, but it makes me not feal so bad about not being kissed.

[dulcinea]

I heard a story about a guy not being kissed untill the day he was maried.
yup, some religions are like that. weirds me out, if you ask me. I mean, you kiss your parents and your grandparents and your siblings, whoever else, people you love, right? Why not kiss other people that you care about, even if they're not blood relatives?