"summa flings are great"

[Wrightman84]

well i am not involved in a summer fling, but i could have a chance to get into one.
i'll get you up to date, kinda. well she is a member at the golf club i belong to, we are friends... i have played with her a few times, we know a mutual friend so i could get her to tell me if this girl [dominique] likes me and all that stuff. it seems that we flirt a lot when we played last [yesterday] and taht is just the basic info about us. now comes the problem
she is 14 i am 17. is that too much? and this mutal friend when she was giving me a ride home told me that she thinks it is possible, which kinda gave me a bit of a grin on my face, because dominique is reli reli hot. and i would just want some advice on what i can do. cus i might give it a try, i don't care on how many plp say "the age gap is too big" cus like the song goes "i need a girl"

[CletusDelroy]

LOL, well if you don't care about the age gap, why'd you ask about it in the first place?

Since you asked for advice, I say if you there you have a shot, go for it. It sounds like it can work, just don't waste time twirling your thumbs wondering what to do. Most people regret things they DIDN'T do far more than things they DID do...

[goofball]

i say the age gap is too much. there are worlds between 14 and 17. I know it's probably going to be some easy poontang, but c'mon, it's just unethical

[dulcinea]

If you're not planning on being involved with her for a long time (i.e. fling), then I wouldn't think so much of the age gap... but what do you mean by "fling"? Some people I know use that term to just describe a relationship that only lasts for a little bit and then ends. Some people use it to mean casual sex. If you mean the latter, then please stay the heck away from the fourteen-year-old, for both her sake and yours! :P

[Crash Override]

Well, it certainly is in violation of the tried-and-true Dateable Age Formula (DAF):
Half your age + 7

So, you being 17, half your age is 8.5, plus 7 = 15.5.
You should be dating no younger than 15, according to the mathematical formula.

But whatever. I was never big on summer flings; during the summer, if you're single, it's much better to just have separate mini-flings with various people...that way you're not with any of them for any length of time, so they don't get hurt (whereas they probably would if you were exclusively with them for two months).

Especially a 14-year-old. You'd scar her for life! I mean, I could let it go if you were seriously interested in her, and maybe I'd go with the "age is just a number" philosophy THEN...but you're just USING her, man.

Have some sense of honour and decency.

[Skankstar]

Wrightman - GO FOR IT!

im 16 and flora is 13 - same sitty here

i would go for it - as long as you or her dont care about it then theres nuthin to worry about

i mean u just have to be prepared when it comes to it that u will be in uni or college or whatever it is where u are, while shess still be in high school (im being a bit hypocrit... ocz im not prepared for it...)

but go for it!

[Jebus]

i say the age gap is too much. there are worlds between 14 and 17. I know it's probably going to be some easy poontang, but c'mon, it's just unethical

Unethical eh? My my, that sounds very odd coming from you... :lol:

I saw go for it...it's just a fling.

[dek]

If you don't plan on going long term then go for it if you just want a "fling"

But if you head for long term then I say age gap wlil cause lots of problems

[Nikster]

I don't know, guess it's up to you really, even though it's just a fling, I still have a huge issue with big age gaps, but since this is your life and not mine, it's completely up to you. :D Good luck.

[hunny]

Fourteen?! Yikes! What time does Mommy want her home?
I can't imagine it would be much of a 'fling' in the sense that I normally think a 'fling' is. Unless she's already been around a little or whatever.
I don't see any harm in talking to her, getting to know her, etc.

[zoe]

Is she even out of junior high yet?

[Wolf]

Bear in mind, some girls are much much MUCH more mature than they ought to be..

Case in point, Jessica who I met at camp is 14, she acts like she's 17, and Samantha is 17 and acts 15....

[Wolf]

Is she even out of junior high yet?

I was in grade 10 at 14... nice math there ;)

[player]

Summer flings are cool, but what about the "SPRING BREAK FLINGS".

Those are always cool, naked drunk girls running around, the constant chant of "Show your tits!" in the air. Hooking up with some girl you knew for almost two hours in the bathroom of your hotel room, because your roomates passed out in a puddle of puke in your bed. How romantic.

If you dont know what I am talking about, go to Daytona, Panama City, or Key West, some time in late March.

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[Delita]

A friend of mine was dating a 14 year old girl when he was 18... not I, nor anybody else, had any problems with it. It depends on the people, I think. She just moved, but they were together for... *thinks*... 9 - 10 months?

BTW, Wolf, she was 14 when she came out of Junior High. He was in 12th, she was in 9th.

[Wolf]

A friend of mine was dating a 14 year old girl when he was 18... not I, nor anybody else, had any problems with it. It depends on the people, I think. She just moved, but they were together for... *thinks*... 9 - 10 months?

BTW, Wolf, she was 14 when she came out of Junior High. He was in 12th, she was in 9th.

wtf? She fail twice or something?

[sageraw]

NO Do NOT "GO FOR IT" as some of theas peaple have said, I had that hapen to me when I was 13 and he was 16, and we wear freinds first, but after the summer fling thing was over we had a huge fight and I was hart broken for almost a year. After that I just moped around for along time, and In the prosses I had shut out alot of my freinds who did not aprove of him, thus when it was over I had no sholder to cry on. I would hate to see this hapen to ne one else. flirting is okay just makes shure she knows that that is all. otherwise she will feal lead on.

[Coyote Loco]

Everyone is saying go for it if it's just going to be a summer fling... but you also have to think, no matter how mature she acts she is still only 14... a summer fling insinuates casual screwing around and personally I can't think of messing around with someone that young and, hell, I'm a year younger than you...

An age difference of 3 years would be nothing if you both were a tad older... butn like I said before, at that age, no matter how mature she seems, she most likely isn't... she probably hasn't had sex, hasn't fallen in love and all that other stuff that matures people...

If you do decide to go ahead with this then just keep that in mind that she still is only 14... she might fall head over heels in love with you even if you are only after some fun and then you'd be be in a tight spot... there's nothing wrong with a summer fling as long as both parties realize that most likely nothing will go past the summer... if this isn't made clear then someone is going to be bound to get hurt...

[BabyBlue]

*agrees with kel*

okay this girl (emphasize girl, she is 14! you can choose to ignore her age or not but she is young, very young and that won't go away) anyways, summer flings can be fun yeah but they can ruin friendships and hurt people emotionally. It doesn't sound as if this girl realizes you just want a "fling" as you so elegantly put it. I would not suggest going forward with your lil fantasy, I think both parties are going to end up hurt and alone when it is all over. If you were looking for a relationship maaaybe but my opinion is based on your terms and it doesn't appear to me that this is the case. I hope I'm wrong. However, you make your own choices and if you both agree, make sure it is stated clearly this is a "summer fling" and not more. :roll:

[Delita]

BTW, Wolf, she was 14 when she came out of Junior High. He was in 12th, she was in 9th.

wtf? She fail twice or something?
No... that would imply that she was older. Oh, but nice math there. :wink:

[Wolf]

[quote]Everyone is saying go for it if it's just going to be a summer fling... but you also have to think, no matter how mature she acts she is still only 14... a summer fling insinuates casual screwing around and personally I can't think of messing around with someone that young and, hell, I'm a year younger than you...

An age difference of 3 years would be nothing if you both were a tad older... butn like I said before, at that age, no matter how mature she seems, she most likely isn't... she probably hasn't had sex, hasn't fallen in love and all that other stuff that matures people...

If you do decide to go ahead with this then just keep that in mind that she still is only 14... she might fall head over heels in love with you even if you are only after some fun and then you'd be be in a tight spot... there's nothing wrong with a summer fling as long as both parties realize that most likely nothing will go past the summer... if this isn't made clear then someone is going to be bound to get hurt...

Summer flings don't automatically include sex.

Case in point, last year I hooked up with one of the hottest girlies I've EVER seen, and the furthest we got was heavy make-out sessions

[Coyote Loco]

Summer flings don't automatically include sex.

Case in point, last year I hooked up with one of the hottest girlies I've EVER seen, and the furthest we got was heavy make-out sessions
That's true...

Wrightman, to stop any further confusion, when you say you want a summer fling with her, how far do you think you'd be going?

[Delita]

-delete this

[zoe]

Wolf-

2/3 my class was 14 when they were going into 9th grade, 10 or so of them were 13. So was I. The world doesn't revolve around you, just because you were 14 when you were in grade 10 doesn't mean that everyone else is.

[Wolf]

Wolf-

2/3 my class was 14 when they were going into 9th grade, 10 or so of them were 13. So was I. The world doesn't revolve around you, just because you were 14 when you were in grade 10 doesn't mean that everyone else is.

Well everyone I know went into grade 10 at age 14... Someone has an attitude problem... *cough* zoe *cough* :)

[wowzers]

i think canada ages for grades are different.

in the US its generally:
entering...
9th: 14
10th: 15
11th: 16
12th: 17

[Wrightman84]

ok let me get a few things straight
1- i was quoting a friend who said that i don't think that she meant screwing i think she meant just a relationship, and that is what i mean
2- i am 17 going into grade 12, a lot of my friends are 16 going into grade 12
3- i think she is turning 15 and is probably going into grade 10.
4- my entering age into every grade
grade age
12 17
11 16
10 15
9 14
8 13
but i turn one yr older in december so i am kinda messed up.. no i did not fail a grade :P

ya that is all i needed to clear up i think

[wowzers]

-delete this

ironic that your name is delita

anyway... so it means a relationship eh? that would end when school starts or continue???

cuz if it doesnt end for a while or doesnt mostly have to do with the 'no feelings just in it for the play' then i think "fling" is a misnomer for the situation

[zoe]

Mature, very mature. Don't ask a question if you don't want to hear the bad side.

[Wrightman84]

Mature, very mature. Don't ask a question if you don't want to hear the bad side.
i don't mind the bad side..
i am just saying that it is not the "screwing" thing or w.eva all u plp saying..
and i hope it goes on longer then summer since summer is over come sept.
and again i say that it was just a quote "summer flings are great" that my friend said after she herd about our situation and i couldn't come up with a good subject title :P
neway here is a thread i just put up about the same girl
http://www.therfs.com/forums/viewtopic.php...p=106627#106627 (http://www.therfs.com/forums/viewtopic.php?p=106627#106627)
and plp say i am very mature :P some plp.. :lol: others say i am immature :lol: think what ya want plp :cool3:

[Coyote Loco]

If you like her for who she is and are willing to take things slow with her if she needs then go get her!

:mrgreen:

*hugs*

Good luck!

[Wrightman84]

[quote]Summer flings don't automatically include sex.

Case in point, last year I hooked up with one of the hottest girlies I've EVER seen, and the furthest we got was heavy make-out sessions
That's true...

Wrightman, to stop any further confusion, when you say you want a summer fling with her, how far do you think you'd be going?

If you like her for who she is and are willing to take things slow with her if she needs then go get her!
ya i am just looking to date, no sexual stuff at all... and i am willing to go as slow as she wants.. last relationship i had we went reli fast and look where it left us, now i am single :P
so ya i wanna go slow neway

[Coyote Loco]

Aw...

*shoos wrightman on*

Then go get her!

:P