Anyone willing to help?

[Ashl3yyy]

I don't even know where to begin with this crazy love triangle..

Alright this guy and I have been on and off for almost a year now.
We broke up back in December, and didn't talk for about 5 months,
With in that time he got himself a new girlfriend.. but his feeling for me remained the same and i still care for him and love him just as much as i did when we broke up.
His gf lives across the country, So they don't see each other but maybe a month out of the whole year.. When him and I started talking again we only planned on being friends. But our feelings for each other just continued to grow, now this is a problem considering he has a girlfriend. He tells me he loves her but not the same way he loves me. He only wants whats best for her and everytime he tries to end their relationship she freaks out and tells him she is going to do all these stupid things to herself and what not. That is the only reason he's stayed with her this long.. She thinks they are perfect for each other, But he has cheated on her with me which I am not proud to say. And she is aware of it and doesn't care...

Now i love him with all my heart and i have tried my hardest not to interfere with their relationship, But she knows who i am, I've never met her but we have talked on the computer. Therefor she knows how to look at all my profiles like on myspace and facebook and she does look at them daily which causes a problem when i post something about being with him. Which in the long run causes problems for him and i don't want that.. She knows that him and I hang out, she pretty much knows everything about me because she seems to be nosy..

anyways what i am asking is how long should i let this go on.
Should i just give up on there being any hope for him and I?
or should I just give it a little time and see what happens?

Any suggestions would be great here.

Thanks for taking the time to read all of it. :)

[Ashl3yyy]

Alright here's the deal, There is this guy who i absolutely adore and we have dated before but are not currently dating.. We love each other but after we broke up he got himself a new girlfriend.. Him and I have been fooling around and at the time i didn't know he had a girlfriend. Which is my fault because I never asked.. I just found out recently.

His girlfriend is aware that he has cheated on her but refuses to end the relationship.
He has tried multiple times to end it but everytime she freaks out & says shes going to do all these crazy things..and he doesn't want her hurting herself because of him.
He wants to be with me, but is trying to find the best time and way to end his relationship with her..

So what i'm asking is should i wait for him to get out of his slightly dysfunctional relationship with her? or Just give up on him?

little side note-his girlfriend lives across the country and they only see each other about one month out of the whole year...

[Deidre]

While I'd advice general caution when it comes to getting into a relationship with a guy you know will cheat on a girl if he just cares more about the person he's cheating on her with...

... the way this girl is blackmailing him needs to be dealt with.

Here are some suggestions you could pass on:
http://www.relationship-forums.com/showthread.php?t=19789
http://www.relationship-forums.com/showthread.php?t=20053

[Fyne_Karamel_brotha]

You need to tell him to man up and make a decision. I know it doesn't sound nice but it is better than going out with someone just to make them happy. So I would tell you to talk with him and tell him if he wants to be with you then break it off with the girl. It doesn't have to be in a mean way but make a clean break and then you two can be together. If the girl threatens to do things then so be it, is he prepared to marry her because her attitude will only get stronger over time. If he isn't willing to break up with her, no matter what reason he gives you, back off and stay away and tell him when he breaks up with her then he should give you a call.

[come_on_seriously]

You need to tell him to man up and make a decision. I know it doesn't sound nice but it is better than going out with someone just to make them happy. So I would tell you to talk with him and tell him if he wants to be with you then break it off with the girl. It doesn't have to be in a mean way but make a clean break and then you two can be together. If the girl threatens to do things then so be it, is he prepared to marry her because her attitude will only get stronger over time. If he isn't willing to break up with her, no matter what reason he gives you, back off and stay away and tell him when he breaks up with her then he should give you a call.

I agree with FKb.. You cannot keep this up. He is having his cake and eating it too. You must ask him to make a decision: You or Her. Otherwise you will simply be Second String for as long as you allow this to go on. And I don't think you want that...

[AustiN]

lol what a great guy, you and that other girl he is with sure know how to pick a high caliber guy (NOT), he cheats on his gf AND she knows AND he still does it AND both girls tolerate it, HOLY can you say two suckers and one lucky player?

[Fyne_Karamel_brotha]

Well because she's his ex it's a little less than cheating in a weird way and BELEIVE me I know about women who wont break it off even if you cheat but like I said he's gotta do what's right if he really doesn't want to be with the other girl. If he doesn't no matter what excuse he might come up with he's not the one getting the short end of the stick.

[iceman12]

FKB said it...... make him decide.... if he's been cheating with you and your still with him whats the use in leaving his girlfriend? he still has you, which he wants. I know what it's like to be with a girl who "will do things" and it sucks because you don't want to have it on you conscous if somethig does happen to her. but what i learned is that everybody is responsible for their own fate's for their own decisions. if she wants to hurt herself, it'll be because she wants to, so he shouldn't feel bad if anything happens to her, especially if it's just breaking up.