time's running out, I guess

[dulcinea]

Just got back from one of my (many!) summer concerts. Ran into this boy there after the second band's set. He started out teasing me about my height and how I'm always in the pit causing trouble. I thought his voice sounded familiar, and then the lights came on in the rather dark club interior, and we realised that we know each other. We met at the last show I went to at the same club. :P So we hung out and talked, and he introduced me to his friends. Then he went elsewhere, so I split. He found me in the pit a few songs from the end of the headliners' set. When they were done playing, he threw his arms around me and gave me the biggest hug. He'd stand behind me and put his arms around me. Stuff like that. We decided to head on to the back before the band's encore started, that way we could get to the free water and such before everyone else did. That was when he started holding my hand, partially I think because that way we could keep track of each others' whereabouts, and partially because... I don't know!

All I gotta say is, that any guy who sees me 100% drenched in sweat without a dry spot anywhere on my clothes, beating up on people in the pit, singing along way too loud to all the songs, covered in bruises and cuts with a giant half-curled horribly messy 'fro of hair and swearing like a sailor, but he STILL wants to hold my hand... hell yeah. :mrgreen:

But he kept holding my hand, and being super-sweet to me the whole time. Even when his friends were around. It was funny cause his friend started talking to him, looked down and saw he was holding my hand and basically went "Who the hell are you?"

At the end of the night, he got his friend to take a couple pictures of us together, which was cute (but god I know I looked horrible! :oops: ), and quietly slipped me his pager number. I also got the longest, most awesome hug I've had in a long time. And I may be a miserable failure in the relationship department, but I know that, had his friends and mine not been standing there looking at us, he would have probably kissed me. You could see it in his face. And I, to be honest with you, would have let him. :o

I found out in the course of the evening that he's leaving on the 20th, moving/going to school/whatever and pretty much not coming back. That gives me 19 days until he leaves.

Now, given that we don't have much time, do I still hold on to the traditional "wait several days before calling" rule? He lives an hour away, and I want to see him if I can before he leaves. Plus I'm gonna be in his area going to a show on Friday; would it be way too forward to ask him along then?

Thanks in advance.

[CletusDelroy]

Well, you obviously picked up the less than subtle interest this guy has in you.

I would recommend you not even worry about playing the bullshit games of waiting to call or whatever, especially since he won't be around for long. Oh, and no, I don't think it'd be too forward to ask him to the next show you want to go to. If you're *really* hung up on the whole "I don't want to look desperate so I'll wait a few days to call" stuff, just let him know that you really want to hang out before he goes away. I doubt this is the case, however. Good luck. :mrgreen:

[Roguish Grin]

I'm never fond of the whole "wait a few days" shit.....If ya like him, and you wanna spend time wif him, then page him...simple as that. I would say as soon as you can, specially since you have so few days, why waste some of em waiting for no reason?

Good luck! :wink:

[dulcinea]

Alright, screw this, I'm doing it. As soon as I get over my fear of telephones. Which means I could very well be sitting here staring at the phone for the next couple hours. Course, the other problem is that I'm not entirely sure what the last couple digits of the number are because his pen apparently died whilst he was writing it and then it got stuffed in my pocket and smeared all over the place. This could be entertaining. :o

Well, you obviously picked up the less than subtle interest this guy has in you.
:lol: :mrgreen:

[1Diamond Tiara]

hehe go for it girl!! Good luck ;) let us know how it goes :D

[dek]

go for it and GL. Remember that you have nothing to lose if you call early

[Danae]

Do it! If that happened to me, I'd like...run home just to call this guy. If you can figure out his number, that is :P

Him leaving the 20th....well, that kinda sucks. Still, you two definitely hit it off. I say, take advantage of the time you have and deal with him leaving when he leaves. Keep in touch! Don't let this go...

[CletusDelroy]

That's the spirit! Report back, I'm curious as to how this is going to turn out. :mrgreen:

[dulcinea]

ARG. So I paged him. Apparently I did get the number right (:P), cause he called back. But my mom was taking up the phone and he got through on call waiting. She tells me "That boy called, he'll call back in ten minutes." She continues to take up the phone line.

That was about an hour and a half ago. Now that it's late, she tells me, "Oh, maybe I told him that YOU'D call HIM." So it's very likely that he's been sitting there waiting for me to call him just as long as I've been sitting here waiting for him to call me. Best part is, I don't have his real phone number anyway, so I can't call him back, if that is indeed what she told him I would do.

Either she's a total moron, which is pretty bloody likely if you know my mother... or she's doing this on purpose to keep me from talking to him. She's already stated that she doesn't like him, even though she's never met or seen him. Here's the reasoning: 1. He's a boy with an interest in me. She has stated on multiple occasions that, because of my personality and the way I act, I am completely unattractive to the opposite sex. Boys SHOULDN'T like me, she thinks. 2. Because he's leaving on the 20th, she immediately assumes that he's going to try to get laid before he leaves, presumeably with me. Therefore, he shouldn't be allowed anywhere near me, in her narrow little mind.

Either way, basically I'm stuck here hoping that he decides to call back and pretty much knowing in my gut that he won't.

God DAMMIT. I am so tired of her fucking with my social life. No wonder I never go on dates or have real friends, cause she's always interfering. Usually she limits herself to making my friends feel completely unwelcome, so they don't want to stick around. But this, even if it WAS a misunderstanding or something, is more than enough. :(

*kicks something*

[Danae]

Call him! Now! Clear up the misunderstanding. Kick your mom while you're at it.

[CletusDelroy]

Call him! Now! Clear up the misunderstanding. Kick your mom while you're at it.

LOL I agree, except for the kicking your mom part. :mrgreen:


That was some pretty quick reporting back you did... awesome.

[dulcinea]

alright, now that I made some popcorn and got rid of most of my anger... if he doesn't call me back tomorrow, I'm going to page him again since I didn't get his number when he called here. I mean, jeez, I'm going to be in his city tomorrow night at this bar (I'm not supposed to go, but I'm sufficiently mad enough at my mom now not to care whether or not I have permission, and I promised one of the bands that I'd go to this show). So hopefully I'll get through in time and maybe even be able to see him. *crosses fingers*

[Danae]

Good luck hon :)

[wowzers]

good luck indeed

[Roguish Grin]

Best of luck!! :mrgreen:

[Intrigue1201]

Good luck...hope it all turns out for the best :mrgreen:
Oh...and have fun at the show! :)

[Revolutionary]

May all go well :)

[dulcinea]

whoo! So I was going to call him, but I was so nervous about getting to the show (last time I went to this same bar, I got hopelessly lost in Baltimore and was over an hour late) that I forgot. But he called me about ten minutes before I was going to leave.

So now I actually have his number and everything, and he might be going to Warped Tour next Thursday, which would be nice. I don't think he realises what a HUGE affair it is, so we'll have to arrange things so that we can find each other... but I can't talk to him until sunday because of that Jewish thing... can't think of the word... *snaps fingers in frustration* where they can't do anything from Friday at sundown until Saturday evening. That thing. Ya know. :P

And some basically random guy gave me his phone number at the show tonight. Man, I am on fiiiiiiire. :mrgreen: :P Not that I actually wanted his number as a romantic interest or anything, but he was nice enough and all. And I got a CD and a tshirt and didn't have to pay for either of them, cause I'm cool. Or something.

Going to bed now!

[CletusDelroy]

Going to bed? Are you sure you'll be able to sleep, you seem quite excited. :P

[Wrightman84]

ya way to go
now u got how many dasy till he leaves
17?!
the clock is ticking... :P
good luck

[dulcinea]

Going to bed? Are you sure you'll be able to sleep, you seem quite excited. :P
That's my tiredness-babbling. If I'd kept going, you could have watched me degenerate and make less and less sense with every sentence. It's actually pretty funny. :P

[CletusDelroy]

Going to bed? Are you sure you'll be able to sleep, you seem quite excited. :P
That's my tiredness-babbling. If I'd kept going, you could have watched me degenerate and make less and less sense with every sentence. It's actually pretty funny. :P

Hey now, when you put it that way I think I would like to see you in that state. You can PM me the next time that happens. :D

[dulcinea]

And furthermore, we're officially meeting each other at the Warped Tour ASAP on that day. This could be exciting. *crosses fingers* :mrgreen:

but now I've got this other guy calling me and stuff. arg. :oops:

[CletusDelroy]

Other guy? Who is this mythical other guy you speak of?

[dulcinea]

well, in one of my other posts in this thread, I said
And some basically random guy gave me his phone number at the show tonight.
He was really nice to me, but I didn't know how to not lead him on. I ended up giving him my number as well, that way I wouldn't have to call him myself, and now he's calling me and acting like I'm his girlfriend or something.

Like, to get him to back off, I mentioned the guy that is the subject of this thread (I'll call him S), and was like "yeah, at the show, me and my sort-of-boyfriend S started a two-person mosh pit in the back." For a couple seconds, we just kept on talking, and then he went "Sort-of-boyfriend?! What about ME?" and seemed really hurt. So I made a joke out of it, like "What ABOUT you?" until he made me feel guilty and I explained most of the situation except that S and I had just met. Made it sound, without flatout lying, that S and I were "breaking up" because of him moving out of the country... yeah, I'm really not good at "getting rid" of guys that like me and I don't return the favour... cause generally, guys don't like me!

Anyway, that's the mythical "other guy."

[CletusDelroy]

Uh, the mythical part was a joke. :P

But sheesh, if you really don't like this other guy or don't want to have anything to do with him, just let him know. Better to do that than put yourself through the misery of dealing with him and also having him think you're a couple when you're not. Sometimes, being nice just leads to problems. Oh, and putting yourself ahead of others isn't always a bad thing. :mrgreen:

[dulcinea]

Uh, the mythical part was a joke. :P
Uh, I know. :P

Anyway, it's not that I don't want ANYTHING to do with him. He's a very sweet boy, he's cute and funny and nice and a good person. I'm just not attracted to him the way he apparently is to me.

[Danae]

A song comes to mind...




It's raining men!!! Hallelujah, it's rainin men!


:lol:


I say...stick to the first guy in this thread ;)

[dulcinea]

alright everybody, it's 2 AM now. at about 10:30 PM tonight, I am going to my friend's house to spend the night and, once I do that, I probably won't get to check back here before I meet him at the Warped Tour.

So this is my last plea for advice (at least for now!); if you have any of it, let me know!

Basically, we're spending most of the day together. After that, I will be going camping and won't get to see or talk to him for several days. What can I do, flirtingwise, to make it [even more!] obvious that I like this guy? Like, should I dress how I normally do, or should I make it a point to wear a tank top or something that's a little more, umm, feminine? What else can I do?

Honestly, I want to kiss him. But because I'm short, I can't just grab him and do it. He's too tall for that to be plausible. So what can I do, short of saying, "Dammit, stoop down so I can kiss you"? I have these strawberry-flavoured cigarettes and I was thinking about giving him one to smoke/having one myself and then kissing him to prove that they make everything taste like strawberry (cause they do, I swear!). Seems kinda corny, but it's an idea. :P

[insert other similar questions here]

*is extremely nervous... okay, not that nervous, just my brain is going 90 mph* :-?

*crosses fingers*

:oops: :P

[CletusDelroy]

Don't dress differently, I don't think there's a need for that.

Kissing him is a good idea, and would make it pretty obvious you like him. You don't have to jump up to do it, just lean over while you're both sitting and kiss him. If there's no chance at all for that, you can always be more touchy with him.

DON'T OVER ANALYZE IT! If you do, you'll end up being so nervous that everything will be weird. Just mellow out and go with the flow (ugh, how cliche). Remember, no plan ever survives first contact.

Good luck. :mrgreen: