would really like another crack at her, but how?

[jj1873]

ok so i seen this girl a couple of times through a work mate of mine but never really thought anything of it..duno wot it was but i decided i wanted to get to know her better. Thing was id have to go through my work mate to try and get any sort of contact, as this girl wasnt my friend and id never see her..i told my work mate i liked her and asked her to find out if id have a chance... It seemed that i might, twice this girl walked my work mate into work after shed known i liked her, and twice id missed her..anyway on night when i was out, this girl i like seen me and shouted over to me but i stupidly ignored her and pretended i didnt hear her. She didnt realise i was doing it deliberately.. I instantly regretted this and managed to get her number from my work mate ( i asked her to, sak the girl i like if i could have it..)

To cut a long story short, we text a bit and then i asked her out on a midweek date, she declined but suggested the weekend, come the weekend, she didnt reply when i asked about going for a drink..?

Left it for a while and things seemed a little weird between me and my work mate now..?

Anyway would begin to phone them both when drunk and talk crap and text and talk crap.. One of the weekends,i done this,I blew my top, complaining that i thought the whole thing was a piss take (me being set up with her number etc to simply be treated as a joke..) I done this because id asked, her if she was interested in getting to know me better, because i thought thats why i had the number etc but got no reply yet when i asked something else a few days later, i got a reply!? so i asked again "any answer to the previous text?" and got no reply...?

Basically the whole thing has bee resolved to a degree now in that i apologised for going off at my work mate and to the girl i like aswell...they accepted the apology and my work mate had been weird up until friday there when we hung out for like 3 hours,, better and more so than when we where friends..The girl i like said it was alright and that i was a nice guy etc etc..ive text her a little since then..just to ask a few questions bout sumthin random...but really where do i go from here, what way can i go about ressurecting this if you like, getting to know her better..i dont want to regret that stupid mistake of ignoring her in the pub!!!!!!!

any advice would be greatly appreciated!!

cheers

[rodgerjones2]

Not sure if you can flip to a new page on this one. Alot of times when meeting new people, they base you on your first impression. I dont think she will get over what she already thinks of you. It would take alot of time and maybe a trip through the friendzone if you can even get that.

[jj1873]

thanks for commenting..thing is i have messaged her since and she has said it was alright and that i am a nice guy. Also my work mate after us acting weird around each other..i went out for a drive with her for 3 hours the other night..(we didnt even do this when we where getting on well).

What i need to know is how i can get talking to this (girl i like again) i mean ive sent her some texts since and have had replies..but what do i text about next, to start a conversation..i need like an excuse/reason..

any ideas?

[rodgerjones2]

Ok sorry I may of been confused a bit before. Your work mate and this person are both females, thats what I was confused about.

Well ideas to get closer to the non workmate could be
1. Maybe a casual "tri-date"? Where you three go out and just eat somewhere, nothing big.
a. Also just texting or calling her with this idea will give big clues on where she stands. Look for if she thinks about it hard, quickly or if she has no interest what so ever.
b. Another curve to this is if you brought a friend and made it a double date. Just like you four going somewhere. Also make sure you dont bring up the word "date". Your just trying to become closer to her in a friendly way since youve blown almost everthing else.

2. Ive done this before, just inviting people I dont really know well to a event that has many friends. As in im hosting a BBQ at my house and invite alot of friends, it doesnt hurt just to send out an invite to her. Hopefully she will have a good excuse or show you something you can work with.

[jj1873]

sorry for the confusion and ta for the advice.. yea they are both girls...

I live in Northern ireland so we dont really get much weather for BBQs..lol as for tri dates etc..that was my idea before i even had the girls number but the girl i work with, is so hard to work with.. "work with" in terms of getting her to do stuff, as i said i mean friday there we went on a 3 hour drive, we wouldnt have even done this when we where getting on never mind just about getting on..

listen, i dont expect a reply everytime i type and i appreciate your advice, im just saying it as it is, not trying to be negative, if you can think of anything else to add feel free!

thanks again.