smalltimes
May 9th, 2009, 07:43 PM
Okie dokie ladies and gents,
First off, welcome me, its my first time on a dating website and I'm looking for some advice.
For a little background info, I'm a younger guy in college, I am a server at Applebees and work at PacSun.
Here recently I kinda came into my own being comfortable talking to the ladies, and of course had my stage of fooling around. Well it just so happens that I met a girl this quarter that I thought would just be a small fling, instead I starting getting to know her and decided I would try to take things slow so I wouldn't mess things up with her. (Im kind of tired of being the guy with a new girl every week)
Well soon enough we were a couple, I guess Ive been looking for that girl that I could always rely on and trust with how I feel emotionally, even though Im a pretty balanced guy who knows how to just relax and have a good time.
Well a week or two passed and things started to get a little awkward. Perhaps I moved to fast emotionally and scared her away, at least thats where my judgment is at.
Well for the past two weeks or so, Ive been trying to get her to talk about the situation because as I knew it we were just taking things back to talking to allow her to kind of get that relationship trust. Seeing how her dad left her when she was younger, I just assumed naturally that she has a hard time getting close to guys to really trust them, especially in a relationship manner. I dont have a problem showing her that Im not just there for sex, but at the same time its hit or miss with her, she is flirting with me one minute acting like she is really into me, the next its like she just wants to be friends.
When is too much, too much? Should I just drop the situation and find that next lady? Or do I see if all she really needs is a little time to show her I do care and she can have that faith in me that I wont hurt her? Should I play hard to get, or will that give the wrong impression that I dont really care about her?
Appreciate your advice guys,
Smalltimes
First off, welcome me, its my first time on a dating website and I'm looking for some advice.
For a little background info, I'm a younger guy in college, I am a server at Applebees and work at PacSun.
Here recently I kinda came into my own being comfortable talking to the ladies, and of course had my stage of fooling around. Well it just so happens that I met a girl this quarter that I thought would just be a small fling, instead I starting getting to know her and decided I would try to take things slow so I wouldn't mess things up with her. (Im kind of tired of being the guy with a new girl every week)
Well soon enough we were a couple, I guess Ive been looking for that girl that I could always rely on and trust with how I feel emotionally, even though Im a pretty balanced guy who knows how to just relax and have a good time.
Well a week or two passed and things started to get a little awkward. Perhaps I moved to fast emotionally and scared her away, at least thats where my judgment is at.
Well for the past two weeks or so, Ive been trying to get her to talk about the situation because as I knew it we were just taking things back to talking to allow her to kind of get that relationship trust. Seeing how her dad left her when she was younger, I just assumed naturally that she has a hard time getting close to guys to really trust them, especially in a relationship manner. I dont have a problem showing her that Im not just there for sex, but at the same time its hit or miss with her, she is flirting with me one minute acting like she is really into me, the next its like she just wants to be friends.
When is too much, too much? Should I just drop the situation and find that next lady? Or do I see if all she really needs is a little time to show her I do care and she can have that faith in me that I wont hurt her? Should I play hard to get, or will that give the wrong impression that I dont really care about her?
Appreciate your advice guys,
Smalltimes