Fishy feelings

[cariboucoffee]

I'm "seeing" this guy that I've known for like 10 years. We were each other's "firsts" in high school but then he moved away and we'd just see eachother periodically at social things and such.

Anyway, to get the point, I have a problem believing things he says sometimes.

For example, last night, he was telling me about this girl he was seeing a couple years ago. At the time they worked together and she did have a boyfriend whom she is now married to. well apparently he and her met up (despite her marriage) and he said she followed him to the bathroom and tried to make out with him and he was like "whoa, what are you doing?"

I for some reason have a hard time believing that he would pass that up. He's extremely good looking but he's not like one of those guys that's conceited or "knows he's hot":

I wish I didn't second guess everything he tells me.


:glare:

[Deidre]

So, why do you feel you that you can't trust him?

[panicishere]

Maybe his past girlfriend was just really mislead and your friend has great morals. If the story is true, gotcha-self a good catch.

[cariboucoffee]

So, why do you feel you that you can't trust him?

well, in high school when we dated, when we were like 15 he always screwed around on me with other chicks.

Plus, he's just so hot. He's also very sexual. Makes me feel like if a girl looks at him he's thinking sex. Although he hasn't always done that with me. (for the 10 years that we've run into eachother). But there are so many sluts out there!

[cariboucoffee]

Maybe his past girlfriend was just really mislead and your friend has great morals. If the story is true, gotcha-self a good catch.

He cheated with her when she had a boyfriend, not very good morals.

Maybe you're right...

[cariboucoffee]

He cheated with her when she had a boyfriend, not very good morals.

Maybe you're right...

because I did hang out with him a couple times while I had a boyfriend and he never tried anything. ....... odd.....

anyway, I also know that he's been with a lot of girls. about 2 or 3 years ago he lived with my cousin and she told me that he would bring a different girl home all the time. :glare:

[kuju]

cariboucoffee... your posts confuse me. It sounds like, in general, that you're not looking for anything serious anyway. Or is this a different guy? In which case, if there's more than one guy involved, you're clearly not looking for anything serious!

So what difference does it make if he's with other women? Or are you trying to make it exclusive after all?

Or, are you just concerned that he's lying to you? Why would he tell you the story in the FIRST place? That's odd.

[rodgerjones2]

Yes, I think you need to realize that theres 2 games in dating for this instance.

Your single -- And dont want to get serious. In this case the guys you may find would prolly be talking to multiple people and you cant do anything about that. You have to realize that when your just friends, theres a whole new rulebook, not everyeone is going to be honest and exlcusive to you.

Your single -- And want to get serious. In this case you should let him know that you really like him, theres no point in reuniting and hes messin around with lots of girls. He may have it in his mind set that you dont care and just want to be friends with benefits.

My bottom line is that you cant controll what isnt yours, and when you arnt exlcusive there isnt anything that you own about him.

[cariboucoffee]

cariboucoffee... your posts confuse me. It sounds like, in general, that you're not looking for anything serious anyway. Or is this a different guy? In which case, if there's more than one guy involved, you're clearly not looking for anything serious!

So what difference does it make if he's with other women? Or are you trying to make it exclusive after all?

Or, are you just concerned that he's lying to you? Why would he tell you the story in the FIRST place? That's odd.


same guy and yea I don't want to get serious.. i just wonder why I have such a hard time believing him.

[dulcinea]

same guy and yea I don't want to get serious.. i just wonder why I have such a hard time believing him.

...probably because he screwed around on you?

[cariboucoffee]

...probably because he screwed around on you?

when we were kids. But yeah, you've got a point.

I've also been lead to believe that you can't trust men (sorry nice guys) especially when they're not hard asses. Sort of like if they're nice and not a hard ass then they're too good to be true or they're lying. This guys shows me affection (in public) and tells me nice things. It's a nice change. We actually have conversations instead of just joking around and not talking at all. I like it.

[MasterXMind]

when we were kids. But yeah, you've got a point.

I've also been lead to believe that you can't trust men (sorry nice guys) especially when they're not hard asses. Sort of like if they're nice and not a hard ass then they're too good to be true or they're lying. This guys shows me affection (in public) and tells me nice things. It's a nice change. We actually have conversations instead of just joking around and not talking at all. I like it.

Lol. Great logic.

[mythicdawn12]

I've also been lead to believe that you can't trust men (sorry nice guys) especially when they're not hard asses.

It's cool. (sigh)

[cariboucoffee]

Lol. Great logic.

So I presume you disagree?

[Reichvier]

I've also been lead to believe that you can't trust men (sorry nice guys) especially when they're not hard asses. Sort of like if they're nice and not a hard ass then they're too good to be true or they're lying. This guys shows me affection (in public) and tells me nice things. It's a nice change. We actually have conversations instead of just joking around and not talking at all. I like it.

From my experiences, I could choose to believe that all women are whores who can't be trusted to tell you the time of day. Not very fair is it?

If you judge every guy by a stereotype you will eventually hurt someone you care about, then wonder why he disappeared and never looked back.