She is: happily in a serous relationship

[Vomica-Diligo]

I told this girl I was interested in her and she said, “I’m happily in a serious relationship” so I want everyone’s interpretation of this line. Everyone seems to have different definitions of serious relationship and the added “happily” is another deterrent I think but I want everyone’s own interpretation of the line.

[Wildcat]

You should have said "Ok, let me know when you break up with him."

[Vomica-Diligo]

I was thinking of saying something like that but the added “serous” and “happily” words deterred me from saying anything else.

[Harper]

I interpret this to mean that she is unavailable and would have it no other way. It seems quite clear that she is not interested in a relationship with you. Also, saying something like "let me know when you break up with him" could very well come across as both rude and presumptuous. I'd not recommend it, to be honest.

[Vomica-Diligo]

What about future possibilities because I wouldn’t characterize a serious relationship as ending any time soon but everyone has different definitions of a serious relationship?

[Harper]

Personally, I would assume that there are no future possibilities. You received a pretty clear shut down from this girl. Why waste your time and hers with future "what if" scenarios? It's mere wishful thinking and does not serve you. Move on and look for someone available and interested. Waiting on someone who is clearly happy with another guy seems desperate to me (and, I'm sure, to her too).

[Kuky]

One way or the other, it means she's really not interested in you. Move along now. You can always test the waters a bit by describing how wonderful it feels to be so happy about someone, etc. and how great it is for her to genuinely feel that way about someone, and then see if she kinda goes back on it a bit... But ultimately, you've missed your chance, so you should move on to greener pastures.

Good on you for telling her you're interested! That's more than a lot of people do.

[Carnation]

It means what she says. She's happily in a serious relationship.

IE: She's happy, and not interested in you.

[Nurseman]

Don't bang your head against the wall, dude. “I’m happily in a serious relationship” = "Go away".
You cannot win here.

[Vomica-Diligo]

Everyone is basically confirming what I thought but I just wanted some different opinions.

Thanks for the responses.

[JoeShmoe]

It's code my friend. You must have that deep intuitive ability like I have in order to decipher "lady speak".

What she was really telling you was she is happy about being serious in a relationship but she is looking for a guy like you for some fun.

So the plan I have for you: Get a pair of loose sweat pants. Approach her with a raging hardon. If she so much looks towards your sweat pants you know she wants you.

[Jenibear]

She is happily taken.

Maybe a friendship?

[Vomica-Diligo]

I guess a friendship is better then nothing but I fully intend to disappear as far as she’s concerned because I found it to be embarrassing. Plus any method of contact would be extremely awkward.

[Jenibear]

*shrugs* your choice... friendship is better than nothing. Perhaps she could be the coolest friend ever and you are gonna throw it away because you are embarrassed?

[JoeShmoe]

I guess a friendship is better then nothing but I fully intend to disappear as far as she’s concerned because I found it to be embarrassing. Plus any method of contact would be extremely awkward.

Being "friends" with a woman you crave romantically is pure torture. Women always go to this card and it's plain ridiculous.

[dulcinea]

it translates, roughly, to: GTFO.

honestly, there doesn't seem to be much secret girl talk about that one there, buddy. But if you're really serious about her, then you'll respect her enough to back off, and who knows, that might bode well for you in the future. Even if you could steal her away, there's not a whole lot of satisfaction in that.

[Wildcat]

Being "friends" with a woman you crave romantically is pure torture. Women always go to this card and it's plain ridiculous.

For once I completely agree with Joe. Fancy that.

I really can't stand being friends with a girl I'm attracted to both physically, and mentally. (Awesome personality = torture). When a girl rejects me and puts me on "Acquaintance" level, then I can be happy when I run into her, maybe even get a hug now and then, but never have to deal with more emotion. But when a girl wants to be my friend and nothing more, I have to deal with finding out we share everything in common, and there's more to her than just the looks. Throw in her joining in on my jokes and antics, and I've got to run away fast.

Also, Dulcinea is back!!

[Vomica-Diligo]

I think being friends would be awkward possibly for both of us since my interest in her is already on the table and who knows who she’s told. Plus I’ve never had a just friends type of status with any woman this is probably because there would be a sexual tensions between us whether we want to acknowledge it or not.

[JoeShmoe]

I think being friends would be awkward possibly for both of us since my interest in her is already on the table and who knows who she’s told. Plus I’ve never had a just friends type of status with any woman this is probably because there would be a sexual tensions between us whether we want to acknowledge it or not.

they just use the "friends" card to let you go politley. They dont really want you around. Women typically want to ease you out of their lives without hurting your feelings/ego too much. they are such sublime creatures.

Now in my case it's always a lot different. Once they find out my game it's usually a lot of screaming and yelling from them. But I cant blame them. I just hightail out before they really start attacking.

[dulcinea]

Also, Dulcinea is back!!

aww, you noticed, I feel so special :D

I do feel bad for periodically disappearing, but sometimes work takes over my life and I literally don't have time to do anything else. Lame, right?

[DayDreamer_87]

try leaving her alone... if you didnt know she was in a relationship, you obviously cant know her that well. so she is little more than a pretty face. forget she exists and find another love interest