I had it...then i lost it...

[tomol]

Hey everyone,

I have a problem here, me and my girlfriend broke up last friday and we are back together now but she hurt me alot. Now before that i was going to go on holiday with her in 2 weeks, i got to go round to her house all the time when i wanted and i got to see her out of school.

But now we broke up and got back together, and she hurt me alot inbetween, they are stoppping all of that. Now i cant go away with her i cant go round to her house at all and i cant see her outside of school. I'm only 15 years of age and my parents are stopping me doing that when they give it me before the break-up dont you think that is unfair?

They say they are stopping it because they need to protect me from me and her. But i dont want protecting and i dont want to lose what i had with my girlfriend. I cant talk them out of it but i need to soon before we go away on the 13th of febuary. I really need to i need some help maybe what to say to them? i know you dont know them or anything but i will try alot please.

Thankyou in advance.
Tom.

[Nurseman]

Not good, man.
Like it or not. People under 18 have very little in the way of rights. Parents have an almost dictatorial hold over every aspect of your life.
When it comes to relationships, parents rule the roost. It takes TIME to build up their trust and you HAVE to have their trust even to get them to let you walk down the street, much less go off on a trip with someone else.
I suggest you lay low (as we say in America). Don't complain, Don't even broach the subject of this girl......for several months. Yes, THIS holiday is going to be a write-off. You won't be going. But there will be others. Just don't do something drastic in the weeks just before going.

I have to say I'm impressed with you in that her family invited you to go along with them in the first place. That shows a GREAT DEAL of trust on their part. It's more that anybody has ever shown me, I can tell you.

[Sheri]

You don't say how long you were together prior to the break up and you didn't state how she hurt you really bad. All I know that at 15 years old, you are way to young to be in any kind of serious relationship. You need to go out and have fun. Also, when someone hurts you really bad it is really hard to get over. You will be throwing that in her face until you break up for again....

[tomol]

me and her had been in a relationship for 10 months almost 11 and we were abit more than just hold hands people but her parents did really like me they helped us get back together its a long story but ye and I need to go on this holiday is ther anyway you could think of me trying to talk them into lettin me go? thanks.

[BabyDiva]

To be honest, if she hurt you a lot and you just got back together...and the fact that you're just 15 years old...I think you need to put things into a larger perspective. You two do not NEED to go on this holiday together. You should probably try re-establishing a relationship first with her and her parents before you consider going "on a holiday" (which to be honest, you're teenagers...you don't need to be going away anywhere alone together like that...too many things can happen at 15 that you two are not ready for. 11 months together at 15 is not the same as being adults together for that long...) I personally think you two need to slow down and just enjoy being a couple.

They are her parents and you will gain more respect from them by actually respecting them AS her parents as well as their decision rather than trying to prove something and change their minds.

[Rammstein39]

As much as it hurts, I think you need to realize that at 15, this is not the end of the world. You need space and time away from this girl. Even though you are back together now, iot might be best to just take it easy. Dont make a big fuss to your parents about it all.... it will only make it worse.

[Benny15]

I like to commend you on having an almost year long relationship at age 15, kudos. I doubt you're parents would have a change of heart no matter what you say. Good news though, you're 15 and they'll be plenty more holidays to go on.

On another note, you shouldn't stay with people who hurt you constantly imo.

[isthisused]

Mom, Dad, this relationship thing is pretty tricky and I know you are worried that I am making a mistake getting back together with her, and I repectfuly disagree. would you pleas consider the possibility that even though you may be right. that this might be a lesson that is better for me to learn now while I am here with you and have your love and support. if it turns out that you are right.

However at some point you need to back offande respect your parrents right to make certain dessisions for you. Good luck.

[raffa]

you better find yourself first, youre too young to get into a serious relationship such as what you have, love is really the most complicated part of a man's life but you should know and be ready for all the responsibilities and consequences coming from it. Your parents were the most important people in the world they know whats best for you.

[tomol]

Mom, Dad, this relationship thing is pretty tricky and I know you are worried that I am making a mistake getting back together with her, and I repectfuly disagree. would you pleas consider the possibility that even though you may be right. that this might be a lesson that is better for me to learn now while I am here with you and have your love and support. if it turns out that you are right.

However at some point you need to back offande respect your parrents right to make certain dessisions for you. Good luck.

Dude you must be good at english! haha thats an amazing thing i spoke to my parents and said exactly that guess what... this friday i'm going away with her :) woah dude u must be good with your parents lol thanks alot man. And thanks for everyone that commented.

[isthisused]

Dude you must be good at english! haha thats an amazing thing i spoke to my parents and said exactly that guess what... this friday i'm going away with her :) woah dude u must be good with your parents lol thanks alot man. And thanks for everyone that commented.


Dude, Im forty years old, I AM a parent. Please keep in mind that I am inclined to agree with your parents that this will probably lead to her hurting you again. and if it does I think you need to demonstrate that you can handle the situation in a mature way so they wont regret the decision