How do I maintain contact with him

[shybelle]

The situation may seem abit trite but I would appreciate any input you can offer. There is a guy who seemed very interested in me since this summer. Unfortunately, the timing and our situation was totally wrong at the time for me to act on his interest. I tried to maintain a friendly distance but I was not encouraging. In situations like this I tend to become more sarcastic than funny and often times I would jokingly refer to the fact that he was spoiled by his mother. I ment it in good fun though. Now I know that he has moved on being he doen't hang around as much and he doesn't return emails, calls, etc promptly like he once did.

The problem is that I always thought that he was a cool guy. I would really like to maintain (maybe on some levels establish) a friendship. (I have done many things that would drive a sane man away in retrospect. One time we were talking and I told him how we were conversing almost like girlfriends. He promptly told me that he was not one of my girlfriends and was not interested in being one.)

Can we be friends now? How do I go about letting him know that I really want to maintain contact with him? (Will I seem needy or desperate?) If the timing had been different he would have made a great hanging out/kicking it or maybe even more friend but the stars don't align the way you want them to when you want them to. He is also now talking to someone else. Thanks.

[Stallion59]

I was in that situation once and I did act on my feelings. We tried a long distance realtionship and that blew up in our faces. So you got lucky there. He might have had some feelings that could have developed into more than just friends. From what you said about being sarcastic and kind of cutting him down, of course in a joking manner, was maybe a little hurtful. He thought of you in a different way and you hurt his feelings. The whole e-mail and message response, he doesn't owe you a prompt response. Even if he did before, he certainly doesn't now. I know I wouldn't.

If you really want to be just friends with him, leave him alone. Give him some space and he might come around. He might not.

[davef]

"He promptly told me that he was not one of my girlfriends and was not interested in being one." -Shybelle

That was harsh for him to put it that way, whether he was angry or not.