Sex and Conversations with parents

[Forgotten_Innocnece]

OK, i know im ready to have sex for the first time, and i have been giving evrey aspect about makeing this conclusion alot of thought.. The one thing that i have yet been able to do is exactly what my mom has asked me to do, She told me that whenever i felt i was ready to just come to her and tell her, and she will take me to get "the shot"... the thing is,... i cant just walk up to my mom and say ' hey mom, im ready to go pop my cherry" :oops: .... so i was wondering if you could tell me about the convo's that you have had with your parents on this subject, and how you approched them and what thier responce was. thanks a bunch

[super_chevy2000]

My dad came to me the week before my first time he talked to me and told me that he thought I was going to do it and he said, "if you have sex with this boy, be careful and keep your head on straight." He also promised that he wouldn't tell mom that we had that talk because my mom would have completely freaked out and forbid me to see the guy anymore. I didn't approach either of my parents about it, as I said my dad came to me. I took care of everything on my own because I didn't have a parent that I really could go to that would support me to make my own choice about having sex.

You are very blessed to have a Mom that open with you and I really respect you for going to her about this because in my opinion it shows how mature and responsible you are about this. You could go to her and tell her that your relationship is getting a little bit more serious and ask her about going on the shot just in case you and your bf decide to take that step. This way you won't be saying that you are gonna definately have sex, you're just saying you want to be prepared for when it does happen.

[Shattered Cinderella]

I haven't had the talk with my mom yet and I don't think I will when I'm ready, simply because my family isn't very open about sex. We never had "the birds & the bees" talk and she never asks questions, so I don't tell.

Anyway, it's great that you're going to go to your mom. I think she'll be proud of you for coming to her like she told you instead of just doing it without protection, so if you're worried about her being mad at you I doubt she will. If I were you I would say something like--"Mom you know Bob and I have been together for a while now and I love him a lot. I think we're ready to take our relationship to the next level, and you told me to talk to you when I was thinking about it.." and hopefully she'll take it from there.

Good luck. :)

[eqtie]

I never had THE talk either. I just waited for her to ask me and when she did, I didn't lie about it. It takes alot of guts to tell you're parents there things esspecially if they're unpredictable.
Just wait till YOU'RE readdy to tell them. It's you're life, they don't NEED to know everything

[Wrightman84]

i haven't had the talk and i don't think i am going to... i don't have that type of uhh level with my mom.. and i don't live with my dad so it hard to talk to her about uhh "guy stuff"
i think one day i will just go up to her and say "mom, i'm not a virgin nemore, i did it when i was __"
still virgin :oops:

[Wolf]

my parents still don't know

[kuju]

I never really had the talk with my mom. I took care of all the birth control stuff myself, and still do, even though I've told her.

I think what you need to do is this. Don't say, "I'm planning on having sex sometime in the next couple of weeks, it's time for me to get on birth control"

what you should do is look responsible, wihtout having any INTENTIONS. i.e. "Mom, Things are getting serious between me and [insert guy's name here]. We're NOT having sex right now, and I'm not exactly planning on it in a week, but I don't want to be unprepared for when it does happen, and it might. Sometimes people get carried away, and I don't want to be in that situation without the right protection. I think it would be a good idea for me to get on the pill/shot."

by saying this, you're showing your responsibility, but not basically telling your mom that as soon as you're covered, you're going to have sex.

[Slimeboy]

I would not go up to my parents and tell them. Why would you. Sure they might give you some advice but they cant do much.

[Trixy5234]

you dont need your mom to get the shot. you dont need to tell her at all if you dont want to. go to planned parenthood. they'll do it for free and with out notifiying your parents.

[mrh]

Like was mentioned before, birth control is available without your parents, so you don't really have to tell your mom unless you just really want to, but that's obviously akward.

I'm 17, close to 18, and my mom's never had "the talk" with me. I think she's probably waiting til I'm engaged or something and is going to be like, "You know, something might happen on your wedding night...." lol. :lol:

[Scoff Cruddle]

I never had a talk as such, when I was about 14 (long before I was sexually active) my dad told me that if I wanted he would get me some condoms. He said under no circumstances was I to have unprotected sex, me fathering a child was his main concern. But hes a man and that was his take on it, my mum would have been completely different about it so I've never said anything to her, I wouldn't be comfortable with it. It all depends on your relationship with your mum, if you aren't comfortable with her don't have the talk, go and get the shot yourself.

[Lady Dragoness]

I never really had the talk with my mom. I took care of all the birth control stuff myself, and still do, even though I've told her.

I think what you need to do is this. Don't say, "I'm planning on having sex sometime in the next couple of weeks, it's time for me to get on birth control"

what you should do is look responsible, wihtout having any INTENTIONS. i.e. "Mom, Things are getting serious between me and [insert guy's name here]. We're NOT having sex right now, and I'm not exactly planning on it in a week, but I don't want to be unprepared for when it does happen, and it might. Sometimes people get carried away, and I don't want to be in that situation without the right protection. I think it would be a good idea for me to get on the pill/shot."

I am so going to remember that.
Wonderful advice, Kuju.

Mom told me that she wants me to tell her whenever I feel like I'm ready. Even though they'd "prefer" I wait until I'm married, she's not going to have a fit, and she wants me on birth control. She says that when I get a serious boyfriend she'll take me anyway. I still figure I'll have to tell her though, and up until reading that I couldn't imagine how in the world you'd say that.

[Wild N Crazy]

i will never have the talk with my parents. they're into the whole wait til marraige for sex and everything else is a extremely large sin. they would forbid me to even go out anymore if they knew the truth. you should consider yourself extremely lucky that your mom is open about it and respects your desicions....(i am extremely jealous)

[eqtie]

parents just on't understand that they're kids are gonna do it anyway,they might as well be supportive about it. My BF's parents (mostly his mum) won't accept the fact that we've had sex! it sux,she doesn't want to hear about it and refuses to talk about it.We have to sleep in serparate rooms when we're at his house. GRRRRRR. It's very frustrating

[The Sage]

i asked my mum to take me and get the pill.

all she did was shake her head and give me a funny look.