shaggy
July 12th, 2002, 06:01 AM
Technique
There are 2 key elements to flirting technique, playfullness and sexual innunedo. Although they can stand alone the combination is deadly. As Miyagi says in the karate kid about the crane technique: "if done properly, no can defend" (or if you use the combo properly, a girl can't resist).
Playfullness simply requires a combination of a childlike atitute, and knowing when to stop.
Some good things:
-playful teasing making sure to not touch on sensitive topics (looks, weight). major, intelligence, are good topics, believe it or not, for teasing.
-Light hair pulling can be good but not for long and not hard, otherwise you're just being an ass
-tickling can be extremely good. she's laughing, you're touching her, and she will probably touch you in an attempt to get you to stop. however, if you try, and can't find her tickle spot, give up and try again later. few things are lamer than you rubbing her in strange places and getting no reaction.
-covering her eyes and saying "guess who" again, good but not too much. a good idea with this one is to reach around her to cover her eyes. i.e. you stand on her right and reach around her head with your left hand and cover her eyes. the reason this is good is when you take your hand off her eyes it's very natural to just rest it on her shoulder, always great
-poking her on the opposite shoulder is simalar to the eye thing
-taking something of hers...make her take it back from you (a good way to go is to face her and put it behind your back, so she has to reach around you.) This can be tricky if you can't tell the difference between 'fake flirting mad' and 'kicking you in the nuts mad' If you get a chance...the shoe is a good thing to take.
-Stick your tongue out at her. I really like this one, simple, playful, let's you now have to come up wiht a clever salutation every damn time
-Put your arm around her to bring her head close to yours when you are telling her something. Simulates closeness, focuses her entirely on you
-Grab her arm to pull towards somewhere. let's you exert control, a lot of girls like that despite what betty friedan would say
-Lean over on her as if you were tired, excellent, creates contact, closeness, interdependence
-once you're comfortable you can pick her up and such, but be sure you can. girls don't like it if you try to pick them up and can't :-p
purpose
as with everything, flirting has a purpose. the purpose, eventually, is to have sex with the girl obiviously, but that tends to be more advanced. so getting her number, succesfully asking her out, successfully moving in for the first kiss is a purpose you can get to on flirting alone. Also as with everything, when one forgets the purpose you have trouble. A lot of guys try to figure otu what girls are thinking, figure out what they want, but they forget to just focus on the goal, getting her in the sack (or whatever less offensive thing you like)
Think about it, you don't flirt with ugly girls, hell you probably don't talk to them much unless it's business/school related. Flirting is almost like hunting. And you wouldn't hunt something oyu didn't want to eat (unless you're just hunting for sport, and flirting can be done for sport too, see 'swingers'). But whatever you can do to 'capture' the prey, is good. Fortunately, girls aren't always playing defense or running away, but this is why it's a bad idea to approach girls in groups. When lions hunt they don't just attack the group, they weed out the easiest to catch, and go after that one. If you're new to flirting I reccomend the same thing, go after something easy first, then work your way up to the bombshells.
There are 2 key elements to flirting technique, playfullness and sexual innunedo. Although they can stand alone the combination is deadly. As Miyagi says in the karate kid about the crane technique: "if done properly, no can defend" (or if you use the combo properly, a girl can't resist).
Playfullness simply requires a combination of a childlike atitute, and knowing when to stop.
Some good things:
-playful teasing making sure to not touch on sensitive topics (looks, weight). major, intelligence, are good topics, believe it or not, for teasing.
-Light hair pulling can be good but not for long and not hard, otherwise you're just being an ass
-tickling can be extremely good. she's laughing, you're touching her, and she will probably touch you in an attempt to get you to stop. however, if you try, and can't find her tickle spot, give up and try again later. few things are lamer than you rubbing her in strange places and getting no reaction.
-covering her eyes and saying "guess who" again, good but not too much. a good idea with this one is to reach around her to cover her eyes. i.e. you stand on her right and reach around her head with your left hand and cover her eyes. the reason this is good is when you take your hand off her eyes it's very natural to just rest it on her shoulder, always great
-poking her on the opposite shoulder is simalar to the eye thing
-taking something of hers...make her take it back from you (a good way to go is to face her and put it behind your back, so she has to reach around you.) This can be tricky if you can't tell the difference between 'fake flirting mad' and 'kicking you in the nuts mad' If you get a chance...the shoe is a good thing to take.
-Stick your tongue out at her. I really like this one, simple, playful, let's you now have to come up wiht a clever salutation every damn time
-Put your arm around her to bring her head close to yours when you are telling her something. Simulates closeness, focuses her entirely on you
-Grab her arm to pull towards somewhere. let's you exert control, a lot of girls like that despite what betty friedan would say
-Lean over on her as if you were tired, excellent, creates contact, closeness, interdependence
-once you're comfortable you can pick her up and such, but be sure you can. girls don't like it if you try to pick them up and can't :-p
purpose
as with everything, flirting has a purpose. the purpose, eventually, is to have sex with the girl obiviously, but that tends to be more advanced. so getting her number, succesfully asking her out, successfully moving in for the first kiss is a purpose you can get to on flirting alone. Also as with everything, when one forgets the purpose you have trouble. A lot of guys try to figure otu what girls are thinking, figure out what they want, but they forget to just focus on the goal, getting her in the sack (or whatever less offensive thing you like)
Think about it, you don't flirt with ugly girls, hell you probably don't talk to them much unless it's business/school related. Flirting is almost like hunting. And you wouldn't hunt something oyu didn't want to eat (unless you're just hunting for sport, and flirting can be done for sport too, see 'swingers'). But whatever you can do to 'capture' the prey, is good. Fortunately, girls aren't always playing defense or running away, but this is why it's a bad idea to approach girls in groups. When lions hunt they don't just attack the group, they weed out the easiest to catch, and go after that one. If you're new to flirting I reccomend the same thing, go after something easy first, then work your way up to the bombshells.