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malinky
November 6th, 2008, 05:56 PM
okay so...

i met they guy in question just over a year ago through mutual friends and being out in the same bars/clubs. he's just like my others friends so obviously we got on really well, we all share the same sense of humour. anyhow we were just friends and i never thought anything of it. i had just broken up from a long term relationship a month before and wasn't really thinking on anyone like that.

we just emailed each other randomly one day talking about what happened at the weekend as friends do. we were both complaining about being bored so we decided to go to cinema. this seemed all pretty normal to me as i always do things like this with my friends.

this was until about a week later when one of our mutual friends told me he likes me. i didn't know what to do so i just didnt mention it, he didn't either so it was fine. he did change slighty in his attitude towards me, he would flirt a lot. i just didn't do anything back but stayed friendly wit him. i never met up with him again outside our mutual friends. this all worked out fine and eventually he started seeing another girl. everyone was happy.

now this is where my problem starts!

last weekend we were both out in the same place as usual, both a bit drunk and we ended up kissing (he has been single for a few months again). i dont remember how it happened, it just did. anyway i ended up going back to his house to hang out. nothing happened in that way we just kissed and had a fews drinks.

anyway when i woke up the next morning beside him it felt nice which shocked me. we spent the whole day together watching films etc we just had so much fun. i had to leave around 4pm cos i was meeting my sister, he kept telling me stay and i really wanted to. it was weird. he was so complimentary all morning. i would just catch him looking at me, it was so sweet. he would just grab me and hug me. kept kissing my nose. all that would make me think someone likes me.

then when i was leaving he asked me did i want to go for a drink on monday, i couldn't so he said i'll definately have to see you this week sometime.this was all great. i left there feeling amazing and i was starting to really like him. it was weird.

BUT....i text him later on that evening and got no reply. i though maybe he had no money in his phone so i checked to see if he emailed. i didn't hear anything from him at all. so i emailed him four days later just to check he got my text.he replied to that but he did seem a bit dry; a complete change from what he was like the other night. i tried to make conversation but he wasn't really saying much. i'm so confused. i dont understand what changed? then tonight my best friend saw him in the street, he said he was on his way to meet a date at the cinema, she asked was it me and he said no. so he's on a date with some other girl and all of a sudden is being weird with me even though he was so keen before.

was he just pretending to like me when we were together?
did he think i wasn't interested in him?
did someone tell him somethng to put him off?
did i annoy him in some way?

i'm just so confused and so annoyed!! why wasn't i ready to move on when he was interested ages ago, i think we would be really good together. i just want to see him again and not with his arms round another girl!

your views please!! i just need to understand what is going on!:eusa_wall

CarlCastle
November 6th, 2008, 08:49 PM
Did you have sex with him that night you went back to his house? If so, then this sounds to me like a classic "hit-it-and-quit-it" type of situation.

malinky
November 7th, 2008, 06:38 AM
no, nothing like that happened at all, we just had a few drinks and sat up talking most of the night. he's not that type of guy.

merker
November 8th, 2008, 04:15 PM
things like this are odd and i have experienced such similar things...in the last month alone iv met about 5 girls who i had a good night with... then would get their number, i would txt them a day or so later and get no reply...

i did post here asking like why has this pattern emerged... n someone told me how it could be a number of things..such as after the night they didnt want to revisit it, such as it was good at the time but it wont go no further, perhaps an old x they still like got back in touch? perhaps they werent after anything serious?


i dunno but certainly the lack of contact etc does show that maybe he doesnt want to take it furter? best to wait and see